DH is leaving in 3 weeks for CGSC at Ft. Leavenworth for a year and we just found out last Thursday. I've done deployments before so theoretically this should be a cake walk but I'm kinda freaking out now that we have a kid. My son is 14 months and I'm feeling super overwhelmed at the idea of being a single parent for a year with a very, very demanding job. We're military wives, it's what we do right!?!? Anyway, if you feel like it, blow some sunshine up my ass so I can stop flipping out. Thanks!
Re: It's only a year right?
If it were me I'd go. I wouldn't want my husband to miss anything with the kids or have them go through that especially when I had the CHOICE to go. My husband is TDY and deployed so much I would never let the opportunity pass. In fact, he is TDY for 2 months right now and I had to option to go so I packed it up for 2 MONTHS! Crazy I know. That's just me though.
You said "what would I do there?" Explore, find things to do ect.
If you don't go with him you can visit often.
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
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I totally get this, my H was gone for 9 months and I had a career I loved. We did not have any kids yet, but I get where you are coming from, it sucked being apart but I was able to visit fairly often which made it so much easier. If it was just a job I would say go, but if it is a career that you love I would probably stay and just visit often. FWIW, the time flew by.
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
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Doing this is one thing when you don't work outside the home and something else entirely when you do and intend to continue working. My career is very important to me, and there is no way I'd pack up my family to relocate temporarily when it meant quitting my job. To the OP, this is do-able, but I would recommend looking into a nanny or similar if your job will conflict with regular child care hours. We shared one with our neighbors for years. Good luck!
That is very true! I have also been in that situation and my job allowed me to take an extended leave of absence.
It's all about your personal priorities.
Wow! So, you think that I am prioritizing my job over my family? Judgmental much? You know it's not that simple when you make a full 50% of your families income to just pick up and leave your career with less than a months notice.
I'm sorry you took that wrong. I didn't mean it that way.
I wrote that with my situation in mind of being able to stay at home. Sorry it did look wrong!
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
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