A few questions I have..
ShelbehhRawrr
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BD and I were getting along, and everything was well, until I just found out that he has gotten someone else pregnant.
Id like to know if there is anything I can do this early to possibly take his rights away. I don't trust his driving skills (several unpaid speeding tickets) He smokes, drinks, and his new 'baby mama' is classified as mentally unstable and has been on watch for a few years.
I live in the state of NY. Is it too early to talk to an attorney?
ETA: He also lives in his car, and stays at his dads 3 bedroom sometimes with his 'baby mama', 5 siblings, his dad and step mom, Plus 7 dogs. Very unfitting for a baby.
ETA: he just threatened me and my baby AND i have it recorded. So I'm not playing games, hes unfit and I don't trust him around my child.
Re: A few questions I have..
This is going to bite you in the butt if you start playing this game.
1. You thought him fitting enough to lay down and make a baby with him.
2. you were getting along fine until you were scorned with another woman and her baby in the picture.
You are considering using your child as a pawn and the courts as your play area for your revenge.
You will want to check with your state's laws but since you are not married to the father more than likely he has no rights until paternity is acknowledged either by affidavit or DNA test and a court order outlines parenting time.
You will probably want to file for CS first since usually the first child gets the larger portion of CS.
You will need to find out your rights as a mother and take a HARD look at your living situation before your start deciding who is a fit parent. For someone in their siggy proclaims to be a proud teen mom, what are your resources for raising a baby?
The only way you can do this is by doing a TPR and having you both terminate your rights and placing the baby for adoption-- which at 16 I think is a wonderful option for you
OR
You can get married and have your husband offer to adopt the child and your ex can terminate his rights.
Other than that, this person will be in the baby and your life for at least the next 18 years. A very long time.
I live with my parents, and I have everything for a baby, a huge room, swings, bouncers, clothes, No pets, just me and my parents in a 4 bedroom house. My mom provides some, and shes actually talked about getting custody until I am 18.
I think my living conditions are much better by far.
In NY you pay child support until 21
Oh HAHA very fuckings funny.
please go away.
No one asked for snark. and I didn't think that was very funny.
Although I am older than you I was in a similar situation. My ex got someone else pregnant at the same time. I know you are young but it is important to keep your cool and take the high road ( no fighting,name calling excessive texts, phone calls) This will benefit you in the end. It is important for the health of yourself and your child to let go of this person while you are pregnant. If he has threatened you document it but do not respond to it.
Once you baby is born file for child support. If he wants custody/visitation he will file for it. If you think he is a danger to the baby let the courts know that. He may get supervised visits. If he makes the effort to be in the childs life it is important that you do the same. If not then you should prepare yourself for single motherhood. Its not easy!!
Welcome to the life as a single parent. Full of judgement and snark! Stuff like this is going to happen ALL.THE.TIME - you're going to have to grow up damn quick, suck it up and put your big girl panties on. It's not about you anymore.
Snark and laugh is one way that us single parents get through the tough times and girls who act all "oh no you din't! you don't knw my lyfe!"
Listen to Sweetie, she is the god of all single parents *bows*
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No one has to mention my age, nor do I think there is anything positive about being a single parent. Though I say in my siggy that I am a teen parent, her comment would not have been said to anyone who was not. So why bother?
We obviously have different views. I will simply ignore this person. But thank you.
I love all the snark.
I could have easily chosen to abort my baby, or give my baby away. Instead I am keeping her regardless of my age. THATS why I am a proud teen mom.
Thanks for asking.
I didn't take the easy way out like a lot of other people that I know.
Adoption IS NOT the EASY WAY OUT!
It requires the most selfless act of love there is.
However brining a child into the world with expectation that mommy and daddy will totally raise him/her until I'm ready to be responsible has to be the most self centered heartless messed up thinking.
Though I'm pretty sure you have no idea what I'm doing and where I'm going.
My parents are not raising my child and I am ready to be responsible other wise I wouldn't give a shiit about my pregnancy, I would be out partying and doing stupid things.
Instead I'm busting my Arse and doing everything I possibly can for my child.
Oh fun a "you dont know my lyfe" comeback.
You completely missed the point of my response once again showing how immature and selfish you are. The more you keep typing the more I think you get your information of teen parenting from tv. Good luck with that by the way.
Because your implying that you know so much about me, yet you really don't.
And if no ones noticed I changed my siggy because people like you jump down my throat at the expense of your own amusement.
I am not selfish, nor am I immature, I asked a question and other people brought it way out of line, simply because they thought it would be funny.
I'll stick to MBM board. I never have issues on TB, why start now?
Wish you all well, and good luck with everything. Have nice lives.
Goodbye.
I don't understand why all this 'teen mom' stuff had to come up in the first place. These boards are for anyone to come on and to ask for support or help...if you don't like what they have posted then move along. I for one think its great she has her parents to help her, I was 16 when I first became pregnant and I wish I had my family to help but I still made it and succeeded.
There was just no reason for that...I wish you the best of luck hun
I could careless that she's a teen mom. There are few that have posted on this board in the past that seem to acknowledge the reality that do is. My problem with her is her statement saying she could have EASILY chooses abortion or adoption but she didn't and we should all be proud of her for that. That has to be the most immature self centered statement. Once again there is nothing easy about either of those two things.
And although it's gone now she had a long line in her sig about being a proud teen mom. She came here for advice, didn't like it, and ran off crying. Oh well.
I didn't 'cry'. I'm avoiding drama. I love your snark. I totally appreciate it.