Venting..need some opinions

gymnst1013

JNicole33:

Christina_Diane:

JNicole33:

mabenner1:

JNicole33:

morethancottoncandy:

JNicole33:

Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

The princiPAL is your pal

THANK YOU! Finally, a voice of reason. It's not that hard to get. 

Oh the irony!

HannahO28

I am legitimately confused by this post. 

OP, you seem to be both hurt that your MIL isn't involved in your son's life and stating that she's not allowed in his life. I don't understand these two elements. Maybe you could clear it up? 

I guess I'm kind of in the same situation... My FIL is not a baby person. He's held DS once since he's been born, and just for about ten minutes. Any time he comes over, he spends all of his time playing with DH's nephews and barely interacts with the baby at all. He's helping out my SIL with her son a lot because she's a single mom and really needs the help. But he hasn't offered to do anything for our baby

But I'm not angry about it at all. He's not comfortable with babies, so what? SIL needs extra help and we don't, so what's the big deal? He's obviously more comfortable with older children. I don't think it makes him a bad grandfather.

stdldb29

JNicole33:

Sherbet Lemon:

She shouldn't have to babysit to get to spend time with your child.  Bring him over for a visit.  Invite her to come visit you.  But requiring her to watch him for you to see him at all is ridiculous.  Clearly you don't see this. 

I do take him. Once every 2 weeks, when my schedule allows. That's all I'm willing to bend. SHE doesn't work, lives 5 minutes away, she can come take him nor pick him up while me or DH are working. I don't want her in my home.

If you do not want her in your home, why the heck would you want her with you LO? 

Kitiara5512

JNicole33:

Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

Holyfuckingshit!!!! What an entitled scumbag biitch you are. From everything you just said, I wouldn't be surprised if she won't babysit because you're a kunt. Adopted kids and grand kids deserve all the same love and affection as biological ones. And you call your SIL ghetto? YOU ARE GHETTO!!!! What a horrible horrible *** you are. Hire your own fuckings babysitter. If your kid winds up with no relationship with his grandmother, it's because he's got a kuntburger for a mother and not because of anything she is or is not doing.

stdldb29

mrs+harlow:

JNicole33:

Christina_Diane:

JNicole33:

mabenner1:

JNicole33:

morethancottoncandy:

JNicole33:

Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

 

Ok, enough. She's telling you that you don't have a clear grasp on word usage. You should have used " principle".

 

Wow.

Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

The princiPAL is your pal

THANK YOU! Finally, a voice of reason. It's not that hard to get. 

She's telling you that you used the word incorrectly. You should have used " principle".

 

Wow.

But she makes $100k a year....   

CinemaGoddess

lol @ people taking this post seriously.

J+MS

CinemaGoddess:

lol @ people taking this post seriously.

.....hater!

Manateearmz

LOLZ at trusting somebody alone with your baby, but not trusting them in your home. 

Money can't by common sense, or cure stupid.  

Why don't you go tell the Adoption board how foster/adoptive children are less important than bio kids. They will just love you!  

[Deleted User]

Dafuq? 

This biitch is trippin'. 

Manateearmz

J+MS:

CinemaGoddess:

lol @ people taking this post seriously.

.....hater!

STFU is this MUD? Regardless it gave me a case of the giggles. 

Kitiara5512

JNicole33:

wedsept:

You just described my situation.  When I was pregnant with my first LO, my MIL told me (in front of a bunch of people) that she wouldn't babysit if I gave her $2000.  She also complains that she sees her grandchildren only once a week (she wants to see them more).  My DD is over 2 years old now, and she still has never offered to feed her, change her diapers, or anything else (far from babysitting).  She only watches me while I feed or change her.  She basically wants to have us visit (they don't like coming to our house) more than 1X a week.  I told my DH I will only go once a week.  With my 2nd LO now though, it is difficult for me to be able to handle both a toddler running around a house that isn't childproofed (they also don't watch her when she is running around; either my DH or I have to watch her) and a 2 month old.  So, I told them for the first few months, you need to come to our house.  They just need to deal with it. 

Personally, I never intended to nor will I ever ask her to babysit.  For one thing, they wanted to give my 2nd LO (at the time he was 1 month old) some cake.  I would prefer that they just see my kids for a couple hours every week with my supervision.  You might be better off with her just visiting.  Good luck.  

thank you for understanding.

Wow. Two entitled douchecanoes in one thread. Spending time with doesn't necessarily mean changing diapers and feeding. Would it be nice? Yes. Is it required? Fuckings no.

Kitiara5512

JNicole33:

Sherbet Lemon:

No, it's a legitimate concern to me that you want this woman to babysit your child for free and then tell us how morally deficient you think she is. You can't have it both ways. 

My take? You're pissed off that she doesn't want to provide free child care for your son and are using him to punish her. When you got called on it, you started making up/exaggerating details so we would agree with you. We don't. End of story.  

 

You are soooooooo right! I need FREE childcare make 100k+ a year. It's not the fact that she spends time with all her other grandchildren and foster kids while watching them. READ ORIGINAL POST! 

1 hour of sitting with my son to spend time( since she complains about having no time) barely constitutes a full time baby sitting gig. I work from home Investment Banking so I don't have time to run over to her house so that she can visit...that's bullshit, like your ten cent assessment.

So, I understand, your life is so dissatisfying that you need to continuously argue with someone about their life to make you feel better about your own situation...I get it. And frankly, I would be WORRIED if you did agree with me. Would mean I have the emotional IQ of a 15yr old.

Tell ya what. Don't like what I have to say or me for that matter, get the hell out of my post or start your own on what a horrible *** I am or better yet, tell of how horrible I am at your next mobile home mamas convention or where ever people like you crawl out from. You voiced your trivial, troglodyte opinion ( go ahead, take a minute to sound that one out and look it up) but now, just move on.

You are coming off as extremely desperate to take out whatever is going on in your own situation on me. 

Honestly, THAT is FAR more messed up than my original post or MIL issue. Even she knows when to leave well enough alone. THANK GOD YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME!!!!!! Means I'm doing something right and I should thank you! It validates why I shouldn't let my child be around morons of your( and MILs) caliber.

THANKS> TRULY This has helped!

Actually, my life, and Sherbet's as well, is so good that we needed YOU to see what shiit looks like

Hesterlicious

Whoa.

Hester was here!

 

 

Kitiara5512

JNicole33:

Christina_Diane:

JNicole33:

mabenner1:

JNicole33:

morethancottoncandy:

JNicole33:

Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

The princiPAL is your pal

THANK YOU! Finally, a voice of reason. It's not that hard to get. 

my god, you really are that stupid. She was pointing out that you're too thick to know the difference between principal and principle. Fifth graders have that in the bag but you're such an idiot you thought PP was agreeing with you. Lol.

skio

JNicole33:

I'll pray for you and your children that your everlasting, fowl mouthed judgement isn't a characteristic passed on to your children because obviously, they are going to have to learn those lessons from somewhere else other than you.

?

Sherbet Lemon

DO-JO:

Go live in a shoe and eat some poo.  Cows go "moo!"  I know kung fu, and can rhyme too!

FTW.  

Kitiara5512

skio:

JNicole33:

I'll pray for you and your children that your everlasting, fowl mouthed judgement isn't a characteristic passed on to your children because obviously, they are going to have to learn those lessons from somewhere else other than you.

?

Lolsies

littlemac1117

I had to look up troglodyte.

This is what I got: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troglodyte_%28Dungeons_%26_Dragons%29

Shannon526

EllaHella:

For the love of free babysitting. STOP capitalizing RANDOM words.  

Ah thank you! I think she is trying to CONVEY how truly angry she REALLY is about ALL OF THIS!!!!11!!!1!!!!

PinkyFloyd73

Manateearmz:

J+MS:

CinemaGoddess:

lol @ people taking this post seriously.

.....hater!

STFU is this MUD? Regardless it gave me a case of the giggles. 

 

*crosses fingers* Please don't be MUD, please don't be MUD...

 

Pinky was here. 

creamsiclechica

Sherbet Lemon:

DO-JO:

Go live in a shoe and eat some poo.  Cows go "moo!"  I know kung fu, and can rhyme too!

FTW.  

This!! The first three pages I was wondering why no one caught onto the rhyme and asked her if she was really Shooter McGavin.

NotSharknado

Well this was fun...sh!t I'm out of popcorn.

Luckie519

gisa886:

JNicole33:

Christina_Diane:

JNicole33:

mabenner1:

JNicole33:

morethancottoncandy:

JNicole33:

Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

The princiPAL is your pal

THANK YOU! Finally, a voice of reason. It's not that hard to get. 

I think she is telling you that you are dumb.  

 

Luckie519

Kitiara5512:

JNicole33:

wedsept:

You just described my situation.  When I was pregnant with my first LO, my MIL told me (in front of a bunch of people) that she wouldn't babysit if I gave her $2000.  She also complains that she sees her grandchildren only once a week (she wants to see them more).  My DD is over 2 years old now, and she still has never offered to feed her, change her diapers, or anything else (far from babysitting).  She only watches me while I feed or change her.  She basically wants to have us visit (they don't like coming to our house) more than 1X a week.  I told my DH I will only go once a week.  With my 2nd LO now though, it is difficult for me to be able to handle both a toddler running around a house that isn't childproofed (they also don't watch her when she is running around; either my DH or I have to watch her) and a 2 month old.  So, I told them for the first few months, you need to come to our house.  They just need to deal with it. 

Personally, I never intended to nor will I ever ask her to babysit.  For one thing, they wanted to give my 2nd LO (at the time he was 1 month old) some cake.  I would prefer that they just see my kids for a couple hours every week with my supervision.  You might be better off with her just visiting.  Good luck.  

thank you for understanding.

Wow. Two entitled douchecanoes in one thread. Spending time with doesn't necessarily mean changing diapers and feeding. Would it be nice? Yes. Is it required? Fuckings no.

My UO is that I love the word douchecanoes!  LOL

michaels_girl

I'm shocked this hasn't happened before now.

Kitiara5512

shanado:

Well this was fun...sh!t I'm out of popcorn.

::passes bigass tub of popcorn::

No worries, I'm popping more.

eav2c

OP, umadbro??

gisa886

Kitiara5512:

JNicole33:

wedsept:

You just described my situation.  When I was pregnant with my first LO, my MIL told me (in front of a bunch of people) that she wouldn't babysit if I gave her $2000.  She also complains that she sees her grandchildren only once a week (she wants to see them more).  My DD is over 2 years old now, and she still has never offered to feed her, change her diapers, or anything else (far from babysitting).  She only watches me while I feed or change her.  She basically wants to have us visit (they don't like coming to our house) more than 1X a week.  I told my DH I will only go once a week.  With my 2nd LO now though, it is difficult for me to be able to handle both a toddler running around a house that isn't childproofed (they also don't watch her when she is running around; either my DH or I have to watch her) and a 2 month old.  So, I told them for the first few months, you need to come to our house.  They just need to deal with it. 

Personally, I never intended to nor will I ever ask her to babysit.  For one thing, they wanted to give my 2nd LO (at the time he was 1 month old) some cake.  I would prefer that they just see my kids for a couple hours every week with my supervision.  You might be better off with her just visiting.  Good luck.  

thank you for understanding.

Wow. Two entitled douchecanoes in one thread. Spending time with doesn't necessarily mean changing diapers and feeding. Would it be nice? Yes. Is it required? Fuckings no.

Yeah but, babysitting though.  

PeonyPumps

Peony was here... Looking for funny bird gifs for the fowl mouthed comment

PinkyFloyd73

PeonyPumps:

Peony was here... Looking for funny bird gifs for the fowl mouthed comment

 

How about a foul mouthed fowl?

 

Brie2006

Debbie the Pet Lady, is that you?

 Bababooey!!! 

adoubleu12

Where she go?

Manateearmz

adoubleu12:

Where she go?

Her blood pressure spike probably caused her head to explode.

violaplayer

I cannot believe in all this crazy talk, no one mentioned it....

Wait for it ....

 

U DoN'T knO hEr LYFE! 

nic326

Its not the grandchild MIL doesnt want to see, its that crazazy twatwaffle. I wouldnt go anywhere near that house either

Timshel17

skio:

JNicole33:

I'll pray for you and your children that your everlasting, fowl mouthed judgement isn't a characteristic passed on to your children because obviously, they are going to have to learn those lessons from somewhere else other than you.

?

Hahaha! Birds.

ekmebm

I like that we're five pages in and she still hasn't figured out the difference between someone wanting to see your kid, and wanting to do you a favor. Grandma didn't say, I want to do you a favor, she said I want to see the kid. She already told you she didn't want to babysit and she didn't offer to do you a favor. All she wants to do is hold the baby for a little while, and when it cries, hand it back to you. What is complicated about this?

AmandaR204

How very Oscar Wilde of you....

redheadscu

JNicole33:

Sherbet Lemon:

No, it's a legitimate concern to me that you want this woman to babysit your child for free and then tell us how morally deficient you think she is. You can't have it both ways. 

My take? You're pissed off that she doesn't want to provide free child care for your son and are using him to punish her. When you got called on it, you started making up/exaggerating details so we would agree with you. We don't. End of story.  

 

You are soooooooo right! I need FREE childcare make 100k+ a year. It's not the fact that she spends time with all her other grandchildren and foster kids while watching them. READ ORIGINAL POST! 

1 hour of sitting with my son to spend time( since she complains about having no time) barely constitutes a full time baby sitting gig. I work from home Investment Banking so I don't have time to run over to her house so that she can visit...that's bullshit, like your ten cent assessment.

So, I understand, your life is so dissatisfying that you need to continuously argue with someone about their life to make you feel better about your own situation...I get it. And frankly, I would be WORRIED if you did agree with me. Would mean I have the emotional IQ of a 15yr old.

Tell ya what. Don't like what I have to say or me for that matter, get the hell out of my post or start your own on what a horrible *** I am or better yet, tell of how horrible I am at your next mobile home mamas convention or where ever people like you crawl out from. You voiced your trivial, troglodyte opinion ( go ahead, take a minute to sound that one out and look it up) but now, just move on.

You are coming off as extremely desperate to take out whatever is going on in your own situation on me. 

Honestly, THAT is FAR more messed up than my original post or MIL issue. Even she knows when to leave well enough alone. THANK GOD YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME!!!!!! Means I'm doing something right and I should thank you! It validates why I shouldn't let my child be around morons of your( and MILs) caliber.

THANKS> TRULY This has helped!

Ummmm........Are you on meds? 

Kitiara5512

ViolaPlayer:

I cannot believe in all this crazy talk, no one mentioned it....

Wait for it ....

 

U DoN'T knO hEr LYFE! 

I spewed coke all out my nose and over the keyboard. Thanks a lot.

 

 

 

 

That the coca cola kind. Not the snowy type. Geeeeeez.