Do i tell?!!!

ChristineB11

I have an interview at a bank friday, and i dont know if i should tell them i am pregnant because I dont want them not hiring me because of it. But then if i do get hired how would i be like oh by the way im pregnant and have a doc appointment every month and im due in December prob one of ya'lls most busiest months of the year!? Should i tell at the Interview or if i get hired?

jelly0822

This is exactly what is holding me back from applying to any new jobs. I'm afraid that I wouldn't get hired and if I do, it would be an issue with maternity leave.

LGalipp19

I would tell and be completely up front. I would hate to get the job and then spill everything and them not think you've been completely honest etc.

ChristineB11

Yeah that is true!!!

celestefelice

YES, you tell them. If they find an excuse not to hire you, sure that is disappointing for you. But lying about a pregnancy to an employer or potential employer is (IMO) worse than someone not hiring you because you're having a baby.

awolloff

Don't tell.

 

It's actually illegal for them to ask questions regarding your family... if you are married, already have kids, are pregnant, etc.(Assuming you are in the US)

 

It's not illegal if you bring it up. 

 

I would wait to see if they offer you the position, then spill the beans. This is what I did a few months back but I decided to stay with my current company because of the insurance I have. 

jquirke9881

They can't ask and I wouldn't tell. 

jelly0822

celestefelice:

YES, you tell them. If they find an excuse not to hire you, sure that is disappointing for you. But lying about a pregnancy to an employer or potential employer is (IMO) worse than someone not hiring you because you're having a baby.

That's great advice. It would suck not to get hired because of it, but then it would make everyone feel worse if it was sprung on the employer after the fact.

I was thinking about applying to a friend's new education center, but the pregnancy factor held me back. But then I thought that maybe they'd hold my resume and application until after the baby is born, and then reconsider me later on down the road.

This might be an option for the OP. 

littlemusings

I found out I was pregnant the night before the second round of interviews for the job I have now. I didn't say anything, not even when I got the job offer and signed my contract. It was still really early on in the pregnancy and after going through multiple miscarriages I was (and still am) really cautious. I just didn't know if this pregnancy would be viable and I didn't want to risk losing a job I knew would be a great fit. Anyway, my position did have a one month probationary period so I made sure to let my boss know two weeks into the job. She wasn't overly happy about it but she is pragmatic and has been very understanding. It is up to you and what you feel comfortable doing. Personally, the interview is not a time to be discussing your reproductive system but insetad what qualities and skills you bring to the position at hand. 

bsn1752

jquirke9881:

They can't ask and I wouldn't tell. 

I agree with this.

I would probably mention it when an offer is extended.  Let them know that you'll need some time off when the baby is born (obviously).

simplein06

I would not tell until you have an offer in hand.  You will not be eligible for FMLA so you will need to work it out ahead of time what the plan will be for your maternity otherwise they can fire you.

Amaryllis619

jquirke9881:

They can't ask and I wouldn't tell. 

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elisabethb29

In this economy, I wouldn't want to jeopardize my chances of getting a job by telling them I'm pg.  If they know, they can find some other reason not to hire you, even if maybe you were the best candidate.  If they don't know, they might be a bit upset when they find out, but they'll get over it. 

I guess it depends on your financial situation and how bad you need this job... if you really need to find a job and your home, bills, wellbeing, etc is depending on it, I would not disclose being pregnant at least until you have an offer in hand.  (I don't know the legalities about figuring out maternity leave at that point, but I would definitely do your homework about the whole situation if I were you!)

jquirke9881

Check out your state maternity leave laws.  In my state, you get 8 weeks of unpaid leave after being at a company 90 days.  It is to protect people who don't qualify for FMLA.  Other states might have similar things. 

LuffJoo

I wouldn't tell.  It has zero relevance to your qualifications to the job, and therefore is irrelevant.  Besides, it gives them an excuse to just "go with someone else" and if you need the job I wouldn't risk it...

My family and income is more important to me than whether the bank has to hire someone new in december...they could have someone re-hired in 5 min I'm sure, and being short one person won't be the end of the world to them, so I wouldn't worry about it. 

celestefelice

celestefelice:

YES, you tell them. If they find an excuse not to hire you, sure that is disappointing for you. But lying about a pregnancy to an employer or potential employer is (IMO) worse than someone not hiring you because you're having a baby.

I would like to clarify that if you were still in your first trimester, then I would definitely say that you didn't have to tell them. But being this far along, I think it is the right thing to do to inform them. I understand what a lot of people are saying in terms of legality, but I think you should be realistic...your boss, manager, etc. are going to have a poor perception of you if they feel you intentionally concealed information from them. I think it would be getting off on the wrong foot, but if you want a compromise and really need this job, which so many of us do, then do what some people are suggesting and disclose the information if and when you receive an offer. 

JLSmith124

celestefelice:

celestefelice:

YES, you tell them. If they find an excuse not to hire you, sure that is disappointing for you. But lying about a pregnancy to an employer or potential employer is (IMO) worse than someone not hiring you because you're having a baby.

I would like to clarify that if you were still in your first trimester, then I would definitely say that you didn't have to tell them. But being this far along, I think it is the right thing to do to inform them. I understand what a lot of people are saying in terms of legality, but I think you should be realistic...your boss, manager, etc. are going to have a poor perception of you if they feel you intentionally concealed information from them. I think it would be getting off on the wrong foot, but if you want a compromise and really need this job, which so many of us do, then do what some people are suggesting and disclose the information if and when you receive an offer. 

I agree with all of this. 

ChristineB11

Thanks for all your post! I might tell them at the end of the interview and discuss it with them or if they call back with the job tell them then. My aunt used to work their and she knows the guy that is going to be doing the interview and they were really good friends. When i go in, im gonna mention im her neice.So maybe that will help out also. I work at the school board so i dont need the job i just would enjoy it more than what im doing now.

RissKay

Personally, I hate being the person people expect one thing out of, and get another. I would tell them up front and honest.