How do I stop that anoying whining

Katie Jean

Hey Ladies,

My LO has started to do this really irritating little whining thing when she doesn't get what she wants right away, or is mad about something. I know it is because she isn't getting her way and I try to tell her "just a minute or not for you". but how else can I get her to know that it isn't ok to make that sound everytime. We have tried saying no, ignoring it till she stops or distracting her with something else but she is very persistant. Any help would be great.

CarlaAndJames

I find that it's frustration with not having my attention ro not being able to communicate what she wants. Signing has helped, but half the time she just sits and makes the milk sign even when she wants a toy or something. I think that has turned into her sign for "want" but I prefer it to the whining!

nfrtny

My biggest issue with DS was him standing at the gate in the kitchen whining/crying when I was in there. I started reading how to say no to your toddler, and he says to just let him whine/cry and completely ignore them. No talking, no eye contact, nothing. I did that for about three days, and now so long as I keep what I'm doing short, under 10 minutes or so, DS leaves me alone. 

He mostly wants my phone and that's where our big issue with you can't have that comes into play. Everything else is pretty well baby proofed. I just put it away, walk into another room, or just stand up and he usually whines for a minute then stops bothering me about my phone. 

Unfortuneatly, they are too young to understand 'stop whining' but they do understand that no matter how much they whine, they wont get whatever their whining for. So I would just ignore it, and ignore her completely. Only say just a minute one time, and then after that don't say anything to her. She'll probably knock it off pretty quick. I noticed improvement with DS in one day of doing that.  

Katie Jean

nfrtny:

to understand 'stop whining' but they do understand that no matter how much they whine, they wont get whatever their whining for. So I would just ignore it, and ignore her completely. Only say just a minute one time, and then after that don't say anything to her. She'll probably knock it off pretty quick. I noticed improvement with DS in one day of doing that.  

Great tips, I will try it this week and see how it goes, she is just very persistant! It is just starting to be a pattern that I don't want her to get into.

hajski

We have this problem at meal time and it is turning nice family dinner into...ugh.  LO whines so badly if food doesn't come fast enough.  I ask her what should she say and then she signs more. If it gets too persistant I completely ignore until she stops and then I put more food in front of her. It is soooo annoying, but hopefully with more words and signs, they will drop the whining.