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So I was watching the view one day (while eating my bon-bons...I'm a stereotypical SAHM after Miley Cyrus announced her engagement. They were talking about whether she was "too young" to be engaged because she's only 19. The consensus was that since she was a celebrity she was more grown up than the "average" person would be at 19 so it was more acceptable.

Do you think hold celebrities to different standards than "regular" people?

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IrishCoffee7:

I think celebrities are held to different standards, yes.

But I think in most cases that makes them LESS likely to have a successful at marriage at 19, not more.  You have to know how to work at something, struggle, compromise, sacrifice.

I don't think those words are in Miley's vocabulary yet.  Or in a lot of celebrities vocabularies ever.  There are exceptions.  But Miley has zero sense of reality.

Ditto-I thought it was ironic that they were encouraging a young celebrity marriage, especially since celebrity marriages fail more often than the "average" person would.

scoutkate

IrishCoffee7:

I think celebrities are held to different standards, yes.

But I think in most cases that makes them LESS likely to have a successful at marriage at 19, not more.  You have to know how to work at something, struggle, compromise, sacrifice.

I don't think those words are in Miley's vocabulary yet.  Or in a lot of celebrities vocabularies ever.  There are exceptions.  But Miley has zero sense of reality.

I agree. 

ames71

In some ways, they're probably more sheltered than ordinary kids. Their view of reality is skewed. Leading a luxurious lifestyle does not make one mature.

J+MS

Most Hollywood marriages are crap either way.

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Scout2005:

I think 19 is young to be married, and I think being a celeb is actually probably a hindrance more than a help.

I agree-19 is too young to be married across the board.

However, on the show they did bring up a good point in the fact that at 19, she was already established in her career. My argument to people having kids/getting married young would be to finish school and get established in your career/financially before doing those things, but at that age she's already done that.

isacdimi10

Well she's over the age of 18 so she's not too young to get married.

But do I think Miley Cyrus is ready? No. Do I think the marriage will see 1 year? No, I'll be surprised if it hits the alter. 

I do think the celeb kids grow up faster. Do I think its good and that we should encourage them? No. But I think it happens.

I also think being a celebrity will add excess stress to an already stressful marriage and make them more likely to divorce.

isacdimi10

gsteph88:

PB1980:

No.

19 is too young to get married. 11 is too young for a tongue piercing.

::Whistles and walks out:: 

Seeing as I was 18... ::joins gsteph88 and walks slowly away::

write2nicole

I think the celebrity status is not going to help her marriage and I don't have high hopes. I think it's bizarre that anyone would say celebrity makes her more mature and ready to get married earlier.

As for having her career established, I think it's a mistake if she thinks that way. Having a career as a celebrity is often short-lived and very few have careers that last more than, say, 10 years. Hopefully she's investing her money well in preparation for early retirement, but even that doesn't guarantee security. If she's smart and mature, she has a plan B for an early retirement.

That said, I don't think there's a right or wrong answer on when is the appropriate age to get married and have kids. It's a personal decision that I wouldn't make for anyone but myself.

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isacdimi10:

gsteph88:

PB1980:

No.

19 is too young to get married. 11 is too young for a tongue piercing.

::Whistles and walks out:: 

Seeing as I was 18... ::joins gsteph88 and walks slowly away::

I do think there are very rare exceptions, but I think for the most part, people at 19 aren't ready in any way to pick a life partner.

Would you agree?

Wufroggy79

I doubt she is really any more mature with romantic relationships than many other 19 year olds out there.  In many ways, she is probably less experienced with the way a "normal" relationship works.  Either way, I doubt these two make it down the aisle.  Liam is on his way to superstardom, especially when the 2nd Hunger Games movie comes out where he should have a bigger role.  Mylie has been fizzling out as of late...

J+MS

No, not everyone is ready to be married at 19. But you can't bust up o. A website filled with women from all walks of life and say "19 is too young to get married". 

isacdimi10

KC_13:

isacdimi10:

gsteph88:

PB1980:

No.

19 is too young to get married. 11 is too young for a tongue piercing.

::Whistles and walks out:: 

Seeing as I was 18... ::joins gsteph88 and walks slowly away::

I do think there are very rare exceptions, but I think for the most part, people at 19 aren't ready in any way to pick a life partner.

Would you agree?

I wouldn't say "rare" that makes me sound like a red wolf.

but yes for a large number of people I don't think 19 is a good age. Then again some people should not be allowed to make life decisions at 25/30/40 etc. Some people never grow up, some grow up early and some do it on societies preconceived timeline.

Its all about the bell curve people.

ali_bl-nov05

Irishcoffe said well.

J+MS

PB1980:

J+MS:

No, not everyone is ready to be married at 19. But you can't bust up o. A website filled with women from all walks of life and say "19 is too young to get married". 

Sure I can. It's my opinion.

The legal system disagrees with you. 

LadyXaverian

I think "in general" 19 is too young. Of course there are exceptions (my mom was 18.. they're about to celebrate their 38th wedding anniversary); I don't think Miley Cyrus is one of them.

J+MS

PB1980:

J+MS:

PB1980:

J+MS:

No, not everyone is ready to be married at 19. But you can't bust up o. A website filled with women from all walks of life and say "19 is too young to get married". 

Sure I can. It's my opinion.

The legal system disagrees with you. 

Just because something is legal doesn't mean it's ok. And vice versa.

Oh Jesus, people get married at 18 and 19 all the time and do just fine. 

PrincessFiona9

PB1980:

No.

19 is too young to get married. 11 is too young for a tongue piercing.

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J+MS:

PB1980:

J+MS:

PB1980:

J+MS:

No, not everyone is ready to be married at 19. But you can't bust up o. A website filled with women from all walks of life and say "19 is too young to get married". 

Sure I can. It's my opinion.

The legal system disagrees with you. 

Just because something is legal doesn't mean it's ok. And vice versa.

Oh Jesus, people get married at 18 and 19 all the time and do just fine. 

Of course they do. There are always exceptions to the rule. Statistically, the vast majority of marriages under age 20 fail though.  

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J+MS:

PB1980:

J+MS:

PB1980:

J+MS:

No, not everyone is ready to be married at 19. But you can't bust up o. A website filled with women from all walks of life and say "19 is too young to get married". 

Sure I can. It's my opinion.

The legal system disagrees with you. 

Just because something is legal doesn't mean it's ok. And vice versa.

Oh Jesus, people get married at 18 and 19 all the time and do just fine. 

Of course they do. There are always exceptions to the rule. Statistically, the vast majority of marriages under age 20 fail though.  

nicholssquared

isacdimi10:

I wouldn't say "rare" that makes me sound like a red wolf.

but yes for a large number of people I don't think 19 is a good age. Then again some people should not be allowed to make life decisions at 25/30/40 etc. Some people never grow up, some grow up early and some do it on societies preconceived timeline.

Its all about the bell curve people.

As someone who got married at nineteen, is still happily married, and has a degree in mathematics, this is true. Exactly. Thank you.