C Started Daycare

Venus04d

Wahhhh!!!!

I broke my bed rest rules just long enough to get to ride with DH to drop our DD off at daycare this morning. I am so heartbroken. I know she's going to love it and that she will be loved by the other kids and her teachers. I know she's going to have fun. I know it's what is best for all three of our girls. I know she's going to fine and it's just temporary.

However, I am so, so sad. The stupid teacher took me to her room to show me stuff before I got to say goodbye and I assumed I'd get to go back and give her kisses and hugs before I left. When the teacher finally shut up, DH had already left her in the kitchen for breakfast and she'd already cried and stopped and I didn't want to upset her again. So, I just left. I know the teacher was just doing her job and didn't realize I had intended to stick around for a few minutes to let her adjust, but I feel irrationally angry that I didn't get to give her a hug goodbye. 

I absolutely can't wait for this day to be over so I can hug her. Sorry, if I mope and weep all over the board today. I'll adjust to day care soon. insert gross smiley flinging snot everywhere and illegible mumbling through tears

beccs98

Aw, I'm sorry you didn't get to say bye. I'm sure that was disappointing. But you're right, he'll have a fabulous time. And will be so happy to see you at the end of the day!

 

Sorry, I don't know the details. Are you on bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy? 

numeria11

Oh   So sorry you had a crappy morning and didn't get to give her a hug goodbye.  It does get easier and pretty soon she will be coming home showing you all the fun stuff she got to make today so proudly and you will love it.  But in the mean time feel free to snuffle a bit and good luck with the adjustment.  Sending a non-creepy e-hug your way this morning.

HenHen25

big hugs. I would have sobbed too. And you're stronger than me by not going back to say goodbye. I hope you haves quick day.

Venus04d

beccs98:

Aw, I'm sorry you didn't get to say bye. I'm sure that was disappointing. But you're right, he'll have a fabulous time. And will be so happy to see you at the end of the day!

 

Sorry, I don't know the details. Are you on bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy? 

Yes. I'm carrying identical twin girls that are sharing one placenta. I've gone into PTL twice now, so I'm on bed rest until they're born. As long as I don't go into labor again, I can do it from home. Otherwise, I'll get stuck in the hospital until they're born and I'm 100% against that. So, we have to take every precaution. 

beccs98

Venus04d:

beccs98:

Aw, I'm sorry you didn't get to say bye. I'm sure that was disappointing. But you're right, he'll have a fabulous time. And will be so happy to see you at the end of the day!

 

Sorry, I don't know the details. Are you on bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy? 

Yes. I'm carrying identical twin girls that are sharing one placenta. I've gone into PTL twice now, so I'm on bed rest until they're born. As long as I don't go into labor again, I can do it from home. Otherwise, I'll get stuck in the hospital until they're born and I'm 100% against that. So, we have to take every precaution. 

 Oh wow. Well I hope you can stay at home for as long as possible! And I hope this transition goes smoothly. I know from my friends with kids in DC that the first few days can be rough but it'll get better!

Venus04d

car seat:

Ugh, I'm sorry, Venus.  That must have been really hard. 

But I bet she's going to have an amazingly fun time with the other kiddos, and I hope that it takes the stress of chasing a toddler off you so you can focus on your other girlies.  ((hugs))

Thanks. It sucks, but I have no doubt that she's going to love it. I'm really hoping this day flies by so she can come home smiling and I'll know she's going to be just fine.  

FrickandFrack

I'm sorry you didn't get to say goodbye but it is best not to linger, especially on the first day so she gets used to it.  It is hard not to be able to give big hugs and kisses though but hopefully the day will fly by for you and soon she will be in your arms again.

grr_aargh

car seat:

Ugh, I'm sorry, Venus.  That must have been really hard. 

But I bet she's going to have an amazingly fun time with the other kiddos, and I hope that it takes the stress of chasing a toddler off you so you can focus on your other girlies.  ((hugs))

This.

 

All of it.  And I know it won't make you feel better but I'll bet you would've felt the same tuggy-pull-sniffles even if you did get to give her that hug.  It's hard.

 

So's bedrest.  Sorry you have to deal with so much right now.  

IrishEyes0530

Aww I'm sorry today was rough! I couldn't imagine, I would have cried like a baby! I'm sure she will have so much fun and you can use the alone time to nap and rest up! Or watch inappropriate movies you can't watch in front of her. :P I hope today goes quickly for you! Just think how happy she will be to see you when its time to go home!

Sonadora

That sucks. I'm sure she'll do great though and you'll be so happy to see her when she gets home!

Sorry about the bed rest

Venus04d

Mackalien13:

I have totally been there. In fact, I started bed rest a year ago today. It was so hard putting DD in daycare and I think what's harder than when you leave them to go to work, is that you are already feeling totally helpless being on bedrest. It just compounds the emotions. It will get easier, I swear.

It really does compound the emotions. I feel like I'm completely useless to our family. I always try to be a very hands on mom and wife and now here I am, stuck in bed unable to help. I can't come running when DD falls down or take a load off of DH when he's overwhelmed and tired. Sigh. I know I'm being silly and I know what I would tell other moms in this situation, I'm just struggling to adjust. 

Venus04d

Thank you all for your sweet comments. I wanted to respond to each one of you, but thought all those quotes would get obnoxious and I don't know how to do multiple quotes in one response.

So, big general thanks and hugs! 

grr_aargh

Venus04d:

Mackalien13:

I have totally been there. In fact, I started bed rest a year ago today. It was so hard putting DD in daycare and I think what's harder than when you leave them to go to work, is that you are already feeling totally helpless being on bedrest. It just compounds the emotions. It will get easier, I swear.

It really does compound the emotions. I feel like I'm completely useless to our family. I always try to be a very hands on mom and wife and now here I am, stuck in bed unable to help. I can't come running when DD falls down or take a load off of DH when he's overwhelmed and tired. Sigh. I know I'm being silly and I know what I would tell other moms in this situation, I'm just struggling to adjust. 

My sister was on bedrest for both of her pregnancies.  It's no joke.  You're not being silly - it's a tough time. Anyone would struggle to adjust, IMO. 

And seriously, bedrest or no, the first day of daycare is tough for anyone whether it happens at 6 weeks or when they walk into preschool or kindergarten.  Anne Lamott said to be a mother was to have your heart walking around outside of your body - leaving somebody else in charge of that is tough.  It's not BAD.  But it's hard.

So hugs.  Buck up, chin up, cheery happy things and all that.  She'll be great. You'll be great.  

How shall we fill your time today?   

Venus04d

grr_aargh:

Venus04d:

Mackalien13:

I have totally been there. In fact, I started bed rest a year ago today. It was so hard putting DD in daycare and I think what's harder than when you leave them to go to work, is that you are already feeling totally helpless being on bedrest. It just compounds the emotions. It will get easier, I swear.

It really does compound the emotions. I feel like I'm completely useless to our family. I always try to be a very hands on mom and wife and now here I am, stuck in bed unable to help. I can't come running when DD falls down or take a load off of DH when he's overwhelmed and tired. Sigh. I know I'm being silly and I know what I would tell other moms in this situation, I'm just struggling to adjust. 

My sister was on bedrest for both of her pregnancies.  It's no joke.  You're not being silly - it's a tough time. Anyone would struggle to adjust, IMO. 

And seriously, bedrest or no, the first day of daycare is tough for anyone whether it happens at 6 weeks or when they walk into preschool or kindergarten.  Anne Lamott said to be a mother was to have your heart walking around outside of your body - leaving somebody else in charge of that is tough.  It's not BAD.  But it's hard.

So hugs.  Buck up, chin up, cheery happy things and all that.  She'll be great. You'll be great.  

How shall we fill your time today?   

Thank you so much, grr. You're always so thoughtful. I love that Anne Lamott quote. 

Hmm..I'm not sure. Fun clicky polls? Riveting political debate? Mocking December 2012 moms? Trading gardening/cooking/crafting/DIY tips? Perhaps KC could help me update our budget spreadsheet and tell me everything I'm doing wrong?

nikipau144

I am so sorry that you didn't get to say goodbye. She will have a great time and adjust. I am going through the transition to DC myself right now so I know how hard of an adjustment it is. Hang in there. It really is the best thing for you and the girls right now. You will soon find it a great, fun, and welcome change!

synchrosally

Awww... that's hard. Hugs luv.

Venus04d

****BREAKING NEWS****

This just in from our headquarters at DH's work. He called to make sure she had stopped crying. C ate a good breakfast, has been playing well with her classmates, and is preparing to go on a ride through the neighborhood on the Bye Bye Buggy.

 

By the way, if we have any more kids, I'm buying one of those suckers.

nikipau144

Venus04d:

****BREAKING NEWS****

This just in from our headquarters at DH's work. He called to make sure she had stopped crying. C ate a good breakfast, has been playing well with her classmates, and is preparing to go on a ride through the neighborhood on the Bye Bye Buggy.

 

By the way, if we have any more kids, I'm buying one of those suckers.

So happy she is doing well!!

LOL - I call that the Baby Mobile at our school. I love those things!

quidditchcapn1120

Ugh, that sounds like it was tough Venus!  Plus being on bedrest, I would have been a sniveling mess.

I am sure she will come home and have had a great day and all will be well.

I hope those babies stay inside babies for a good long time.  And a small sliver of a silver lining: maybe you'll be platinum before they get here! 

Venus04d

quidditchcapn1120:

Ugh, that sounds like it was tough Venus!  Plus being on bedrest, I would have been a sniveling mess.

I am sure she will come home and have had a great day and all will be well.

I hope those babies stay inside babies for a good long time.  And a small sliver of a silver lining: maybe you'll be platinum before they get here! 

Haha, I feel like that's the only goal I can accomplish from bed!

mrebecca

BostonKisses2:

I'm sorry you didn't get a chance to give her 1 last hug goodbye this morning.  I hope today goes by quickly for both of you, and your days go well!