Cry it Out Method HELP!

esj17

I have a 3 week old. I wonder if the cry it out method is too soon to start... For example, a moment ago he was fed, diaper changed all set in his crib. & as Soon as I put him in his crib he began to cry. HOw long do I let him cry it out before going in?

 

Also, do I wake him up every 3 hours to eat even if he is sleeping?

kel716

Are there weight concerns?  if you have no weight concerns and he's back to birth weight, don't wake a sleepign baby.

 3 weeks is way too young for CIO.  The earliest I would consider it is 6 mos, and I'm not sure I'd be ready then.  Right now, you cannot possibly spoil a baby by holding him. 

esj17

He was born 8lbs. 9oz and now weighing a few days ago he was weighing 8lbs. 15oz. No weight concerns.

 

Thanks for replying!!!

esj17

thnka you!

mrs+harlow

You can't CIO this early. He needs to be soothed if he is fed, changed, burped, etc. try using the 5 S's / " Happiest Baby on the Block". 

drbethc

I agree it is way to early to do CIO method. I would start around 1 year.  My LO will also cry when I put him down after he is fed, diapered etc. I found that he usually cries because he needs to be burped or feels gassy and uncomfortable. After he's burped, he is fine in his crib...

easjer05

My DD would cry if she was not really asleep before I set her down (often her startle reflex would awaken her).  And she certainly wouldn't let me simply put her down just because she was fed/changed.  She had to be sleepy.

As others have said, it is too early for CIO because he is not yet biologically/neurologically capable of self-soothing or understanding that you are nearby and he isn't abandoned and his needs will be met.  At this age, they still need a lot of holding and physical reassurance.  

If the baby is just fussing a bit or stretching or something (DD is an active sleeper and sometimes cries out in her sleep), it's ok to give it a minute to see if they are really awake and needing something.  Otherwise, go in and figure out what he needs.

RockMySocks

Maybe if you are going to try using a method with your LO such as CIO you should educate yourself about it beforehand. It is as simple as going to google and looking it up to see what it is all about. I googled it for you and the first one I got was https://cryitoutmethod.com There are tons more also, that it just to get you started. Using CIO at 3 weeks old is neglect.

easjer05

And also ditto to the sleep thing - if the baby is over their birthweight and there are no weight gain concerns, then let them sleep.  They will wake up when they are hungry, for the most part.

eav2c

You would seriously let your NEWBORN CIO? Seriously?

At this stage babies cannot self soothe or associate that you+them are not the same. Therefore, when they get upset they NEED you. If you don't have the paitence, though this stage is short, then I suggest you get help with LO. It's one thing to set LO down when they ate crying if you are st your wits end and your not thinking straight buy it is another to use CIO as a method to get them to sleep or anything else at this stage. 

eav2c

eav2c:

You would seriously let your NEWBORN CIO? Seriously?

At this stage babies cannot self soothe or associate that you+them are not the same. Therefore, when they get upset they NEED you. If you don't have the paitence, though this stage is short, then I suggest you get help with LO. It's one thing to set LO down when they ate crying if you are st your wits end and your not thinking straight buy it is another to use CIO as a method to get them to sleep or anything else at this stage. 

Ugh, iPhone fail FTL. I can't go back and fix my errors because my phone is sh!t but you get my point. 

Heather2256

Sad thing is, the nurse practitioner at my ped's office suggested trying to let LO self soothe at only 1 week old! (and yes - you read that right) Yeah....it doesn't work. All it does is make both baby & mommy upset! If I would have known at that point that babies that young, or anywhere near that age, can't self soothe, I would have asked her if she was missing a few marbles.

BelleIsa

This is way too young for CIO (and I'm an advocate of CIO!).  I wouldn't do CIO before 6-months-old, personally.

If baby is crying it's because he needs something at this age.  I really The Baby Whisperer for tips on how to 'interpret' your baby's cries.  

k8edgerton

eav2c:

eav2c:

You would seriously let your NEWBORN CIO? Seriously?

At this stage babies cannot self soothe or associate that you+them are not the same. Therefore, when they get upset they NEED you. If you don't have the paitence, though this stage is short, then I suggest you get help with LO. It's one thing to set LO down when they ate crying if you are st your wits end and your not thinking straight buy it is another to use CIO as a method to get them to sleep or anything else at this stage. 

Ugh, iPhone fail FTL. I can't go back and fix my errors because my phone is sh!t but you get my point. 

I think she gets your condescending point.

People ask questions on here because they are looking for real answers... Not to have people make them feel like shi*