Co-sleeping with 2??

Elizabeth043086

Anyone do it?  I have an almost 9 month old and he was co-slept every night since we came home from the hospital.  He loves it.  I love it.  Dh loves it.  BUT now I'm expecting.  I wanted them close in age, I'm just deeply saddened that he may have to grow up a little faster than I wanted him too.  I def. plan on co-sleeping with baby.  Right now it's dh, me in the middle, ds.  Would it work ds, dh me, baby?   Has this ever worked for anyone?  I'm just broken hearted thinking about putting him in his crib.  ALSO, how does breastfeeding and pregnancy work out? 

tokenhoser

Often in cosleeping cultures, dad sleeps with the toddler and mom sleeps with the infant. You might want to add some space (like with an Arm's Reach) if you're putting 4 people  in 1 bed.

Breastfeeding in pregnancy is a roll of the dice - it goes well for some, some just can't physically do it (hormones can kill milk supply). Check out "Adventures  in Tandem Breastfeeding". It has lots of pregnancy information.

Marcilene1

I have no advice about the co-sleeping situation except to say that I was feeling the same way when I found out I was pregnant.  Turns out it was a non-issue because DD decided that she couldn't sleep well in bed with us anymore and she's been in her crib for months now.  So, a lot can happen/change between now and the time the baby is born.

As far as the breastfeeding thing, I did ok until I hit the second tri and then my supply dropped and I had to supplement with formula (DD was only 6 months old at this point).  She eventually weaned herself when my milk turned back into colostrum in the third tri, but I hear that some babies don't mind and will continue nursing anyway.  I have tried to nurse her now that I have milk again, but she just points at my boob and laughs lol.  However, I am pumping and giving her some of that milk so at least she's getting some. 

Take things one day at a time.  There really is no way of knowing exactly how these things will work out, but any way it works out, it will be fine

sapgirl76

As pp's pointed out, some women are able to nuts through pregnancy and some din't or can't due to pain or their LO rejects the breast. I nursed the whole time and after about 7 weeks it hurt so bad so wanted to cry. It got better, then worse at the end of 3rd tri. I would be empty and DS would still want go comfort suck. There were a few times I had to tell him that mh breasts had to go "night night" because it hurt too bad to let him continue.  We're having some tandem nursing issues, too. DS 1 is not a fan of sharing mommy.

We all 4 coslept until recently- it went DS2, me , DS1, DH.  Then DS 1 got sick so I took the baby and DH took the toddler. We think we're going to use to go transition him to his own room. He's not sleeping as well with us as he used to so we think it might be time. 

KayaXavier

I'm in the same situation except with a co-sleeping 3.5 yr old and another on the way. My daughter slept in a bedside baby hammock until she could roll over, then she transitioned to a bedside bassinet and finally to our bed. I plan to keep her in the bed with us and do the same thing with the new baby. We have a California king size Tempurpedic so there is room for us and one persons movement doesn't move the whole bed but I'm not sure how it will work with baby's nighttime crying waking the toddler up. She has a very seldomly used toddler bed in her own room (hence how I ended up pregnant haha) so maybe she will start using it.