Just a little vent
So an old roommate and I got together a bit ago for lunch to catch up. She obviously noticed I was pregnant and asked if I was having a shower. I said yes, so and so is throwing it for me here in Lansing. She begged for an invite. I knew that my friend had already made ( she hand painted each invite and envelope) the invites but I was put on the spot so I said yes, sure. I called my friend, asked her if she had any extra invites or if she thought an evite would suffice. She said yes ( later I found out she painted another one!) and sent it out. Well lo and behold the only person not to rsvp is the old roommate. I know it is silly to be upset but my friend went out of her way to invite her. I called and in mid conversation asked if she was going to be able to make it to the shower. She said she changed her mind and didn't think she would enjoy the shower because girl things like that are not her style.
I know my vent is silly but has anyone else ever had someone beg to be invited but then decide later not to bother showing?
Re: Just a little vent
That happened to me. My friend wasn't going to be in town during the shower she was invited to and found out about the one my mom was hosting. She asked to be invited, which was no big deal to my mom. However, she never RSVP'd and didn't show. One person isn't a huge big deal but it was so bizarre and rude!
Lurker here, but I had to say something because I think this is my biggest pet peeve. I haven't had a shower yet but I invited three couples to my wedding (the women were all my co-workers) only because they had fished for invites and I knew if I didn't they would hold it against me. Well, none of them RSVPed so I had to call each of them. They all said they were coming which I assumed meant the spouses were coming too...since their names were on the invites. Etiquette 101 here.
So two of them show up, one decided not to come the day of, and neither of them brought their spouses because they decided to "make it a girls' night". Well great, but why didn't you tell me that before I payed for your husbands' dinners!?!
I don't mind if someone has a legit excuse or emergency, but if you say you're going to come, then come! And if you are rude enough to fish for an invite then at least try to make up for it by promptly sending an RSVP. Geez.
I would be pretty annoyed. It's not just an inconvenience to you, it's really rude to the host! Maybe she figured out in the meantime that gifts are expected at showers.
My own vent: a friend of mine asked me to invite a relative of his who was in town for the weekend to our wedding. I had never met this relative, ever, and would have to pay for the extra head, but our budget wasn't tight, so I went ahead and planned for the relative to come. The night before, I happen to run into the friend and the relative, tell the relative I am glad she'll be able to celebrate with us, and that's when they tell me she's not actually coming.
Oh. That's nice.
Had a friend of my MIL (who has always been rude to me) call THE NIGHT WE GOT ENGAGED asking for an invite to our wedding (rudely, of course). I hadn't even had the chance to tell all of my immediate family.
Three days before the wedding she cancelled with no explanation. We had such a small wedding that there were many people we could not invite (including some family). The spots for her and her daughter could have been used by people we love, instead of left empty by people we barely tolerate. What a B.