My Mother!!

whiteme06

I have been having trouble with my own Mom.... We told her and only two others about the pregnancy at about week 8 before we had our first doctor appointment. We asked her not to tell anyone and she called lots of people/and family members before I even got to let my Dad know about it. I confronted her about it and she said it was MY problem that I couldn't enjoy this time of blessing. She made me feel really bad and has my family spreading gossip. I don't want to be rude or let bitterness be in my heart but it's been really rough!!! I wish she could respect my choice when to let people know about it. Any advice???

ashdonne

I'm sorry you are dealing with that---my MIL is about the same.  We actually ended up telling everyone on Sunday but before that she had already called several friends and family members.  Doesn't really bother me too much and I know its just because she is so excited.  Sounds like your mom is too but still doesn't make it ok.  Good luck!

akating

I would have to say something like " well since you can't respect my wishes you will be the last to know the sex. And that will be your problem"

singingsea

I feel your pain. The plan was to just tell close family and a few select friends. Soon as I told my dad he sent out a mass text to freaking everyone and their cousin. Now I've got co-workers e-mailing me to say congrats. Yeah I've learned don't tell a soul unless you want EVERYONE to know.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

I don't think you are being rude or bitter, she is being an idiot.

In the future definitely don't tell her any secrets you don't want let out.  For now there is nothing much you can do about it, but I would be angry with her until she understood the gravity of what she did wrong and apologized for it.  Granted, no one is injured and the baby is a blessing, but it was your secret to tell, not hers, and it's not fair that she did that.

 

byidieppa

 Yeah I've learned don't tell a soul unless you want EVERYONE to know. 

 

 

 

christinaj324

byidieppa:

 Yeah I've learned don't tell a soul unless you want EVERYONE to know. 

 

 

 

 

This...with our 1st preg. we told my MIL and didnt explain that we wanted to wait. and B4 we got to tell her not to tell every1 she told ALL her family, her preacher, the church members and the neighbors. THEN we lost the baby @ 8 weeks. With this pregnancy NO one knew until we were 11 weeks. 

jamizipp

I guess I'm not the only one with mommy issues. ; )

My mom and I were in such a huge fight the past four months that we weren't even talking. My in-laws were in town when we found out over memorial day weekend, so we just had to tell them. After telling them we decided it was the right thing to do to tell my parents. It was so nerve-wrecking, waiting for that day to come and it was stressful to even get everyone together.

They probably don't remember this, but when I told my parents I said "If I find out you tell anyone about our news then we will not involve you in the pregnancy at all." 

I know it was harsh, but they just laughed like they knew they couldn't hold it in. They're so used to blurting out anything that happens to anyone..aka gossip. So I am waiting for the day we tell people and no one seems too surprised.

My advice to you is, always prepare yourself for good/bad/ugly. Some people say that is being too negative, but I would rather be prepared for disappointment, so it doesn't create a ton of stress or sadness.