I hate to even admit to this (trip+ ladies come in loud and clear)

RobinR91

I'm 16 along with triplets tomorrow. Aside from some kidney problems of my own, everything is going well. The trio has their own amniotic sac but shares one placenta. I know I'm high risk, but everything seems to be going smoothly thus far.

 

DH is trying to help by getting a car for us that will work. (currently own a focus hatchback and a forester). I'm stressed beyond belief because I don't feel I can afford childcare after they are born and with one salary a new Quest car payment will be tight (but doable)...as we were talking I broke down tonight...my guilt overwhelmed me because I thought "What if we buy this new van, and then something goes wrong with the pregnancy or it doesn't work out....then I'll have a van to remind me of the babies I don't have and I would hate that" I don't know where this new fear or doubt is coming from. Did anyone else go through this? Is this a phase? Permanent?  OF COURSE I want these babies, more than anything! I can't believe I'm doubting them when I have no medical reason to. If you think I'm the devil for even entertaining such a thought please break it to me nicely. I'm apperently extremely emotional today. But honestly, did anyone ever think that just because you are pregnant with triplets it doesn't mean that you'll actually get triplets to take home? God I feel like such a jerk for even typing this!

 xoxo 

lmydogally

I don't have triplets but I remember this same feeling very well when I was pregnant with my twins.  We decided to trade in the Forester and boy did I love that car.  We started looking at mini vans when I was about 16 weeks also but we waited until the end of the year when I was further along and the car lots wanted to get rid of last years models.  

Anyways, I worried about the same things, becoming single income family, buying a new mini van, what if I lose the babies and I have this mini van to remind me AND I traded in my beloved Forester!!  

What you are feeling is totally normal and it would be weird if you didn't have feelings of panic.  Don't stress, it will all work out.   

RobinR91

lmydogally:

I don't have triplets but I remember this same feeling very well when I was pregnant with my twins.  We decided to trade in the Forester and boy did I love that car.  We started looking at mini vans when I was about 16 weeks also but we waited until the end of the year when I was further along and the car lots wanted to get rid of last years models.  

Anyways, I worried about the same things, becoming single income family, buying a new mini van, what if I lose the babies and I have this mini van to remind me AND I traded in my beloved Forester!!  

What you are feeling is totally normal and it would be weird if you didn't have feelings of panic.  Don't stress, it will all work out.   

 

THANKS> I guess that's the other big part of my stress--I love my forester more than anyone should ever love a car. Its ridiculous. But its SO functional for us! THe dogs can go anywhere with us in the back, we hike, go to the beach, travel in the winter...it does it all. Why can't Subaru make a car with a third row!? lol 

lmydogally

I cried real tears when I left my subby behind at the car lot.  I do love my town and country but nothing will ever really be better than a subby.  

jjcald26

You're NOT alone.  I felt the same way.  I remember crying my eyes out when they told me my cervix was shortening around 22 weeks right after we bought our van.  I was promptly put out of work and hung on for another 13 weeks and delivered my trio at 35 weeks.  Your feelings are very honest, and understandable.  Praying for a long healthy, uneventful remainder of your pregnancy!

WhiteysWifey

I still miss my crv, but love my van. That said. I was very nervous about buying a new car....if it wasn't for finding a great deal at 20 weeks we wouldn't have gotten a van until after they were born...we would have borrowed my ILs until we did.

afwifestrecker7706

I was the same way not a car but everything. I kept the boxes to carseats and all receipts to big ticket items just in case. I would maybe hold off till 24 weeks unless you find a great deal. It is all normal to worry I hope you get an easy and stress free pregnancy. 

KDR1979

I think what you are feeling is normal. i was also nervous about buying a new car. We ordered a new explorer (got captain seats in the middle) and didn't pick it up and actually buy it until the 24 week mark. I originally wanted to wait until the twins were born, but wasnt feeling safe driving around in my small car while pregnant anymore.

I also saved the boxes to car seats, bouncers, rnp's, etc. I just recently had DH toss them out.

everam01

Wow, I don't think anything negative about this at all. I was like this my entire pregnancy, to be honest. I didn't want to buy anything for the nursery until 24+ weeks, wouldn't let my husband open the car seat boxes just in case we had to return them, etc. I had a high risk pregnancy and with fibroids and bleeding and I was a nervous wreck the entire time. I can't imagine trying to buy a vehicle; I would have had a panic attack, and I was just pregnant with twins. 

pea-kay

I was the same way. Because we thought two of the babies were momo until 23ish weeks, I wasn't at all confident we'd come out of it with three babies until that point. It's totally normal to feel that way. We didn't buy our minivan until the boys were home from the hospital. There's no need to buy a van before you need it!

Mrs. Alice

I don't have triplets but I just want to reassure you that your feelings are not uncommon especially for MoMs.  I had mono/di twins and was scared to buy things or take tags off and felt very similar to how you do.  I remember when I finally bought cribs, I was hospitalized the next day at barely 24 weeks.  I only got to 28 weeks but I think for most, at some point in your pregnancy you start feeling a little more comfortable about the odds of having take home babies.  I think once I got a little more past the viability age, I felt better but wasn't completely convinced they were both coming home until they were about a month old.  Don't feel like a jerk for thinking like this.  It's so hard and I can only imagine what it's like with more than 2!

By the way I just sold my Focus and also own a Forester.

ColleenS629

I wasn't pregnant with triplets but I didn't want to buy anything for a long time. Multiple pregnancy is scary and I had a previous loss. There were also concerns about one of the babies at different times through out my pregnancy. I felt a little better once we got to viability but it was still hard to believe they were coming home with us until they actually did.

selenamarino

My twins are 3 months and I still find myself constantly scared that I will wake up one day and one will be gone so I don't think you are crazy, a jerk, the devil or any other derogatory name.  You are a mom scared for your babies.  I think we all do that, rather you are pregnant with one, two, three or more.  It is a very scary thing because there is always a need to "google" and there are so many negative things that happen but there are so many positive things too.  I can't imagine triplets.  Only try to think positive thoughts (although difficult at times).  Thoughts and prayers your way.  Get a massage or a pedicure or something to try to take your mind off the negative for a while. 

 

benkari

My first thought when I found out it was quads was "OMG!  I am going to have to drive a MINI-VAN?!?!?"  I quickly got over it once it was filled with cooing babies!

hunt2005

RobinR91:

I'm 16 along with triplets tomorrow. Aside from some kidney problems of my own, everything is going well. The trio has their own amniotic sac but shares one placenta. I know I'm high risk, but everything seems to be going smoothly thus far.

 

DH is trying to help by getting a car for us that will work. (currently own a focus hatchback and a forester). I'm stressed beyond belief because I don't feel I can afford childcare after they are born and with one salary a new Quest car payment will be tight (but doable)...as we were talking I broke down tonight...my guilt overwhelmed me because I thought "What if we buy this new van, and then something goes wrong with the pregnancy or it doesn't work out....then I'll have a van to remind me of the babies I don't have and I would hate that" I don't know where this new fear or doubt is coming from. Did anyone else go through this? Is this a phase? Permanent?  OF COURSE I want these babies, more than anything! I can't believe I'm doubting them when I have no medical reason to. If you think I'm the devil for even entertaining such a thought please break it to me nicely. I'm apperently extremely emotional today. But honestly, did anyone ever think that just because you are pregnant with triplets it doesn't mean that you'll actually get triplets to take home? God I feel like such a jerk for even typing this!

 xoxo 

 In short? Yes. I found out at 9 weeks, and my husband was deployed. He came home when I was about 14. I had found a GREAT price on a used minivan that day, and we went out and bought it. On a Sunday at 9pm. Because the one thing I kept thinking is that they could sleep on the floor, we could nurse and not buy formula, etc. But to come home from the hospital I needed something that carried all 6 of us. But yeah, the whole pregnancy I would think that. I would buy 3 bedding sets and freak out worried that I jinxed myself. Etc. Even as infants I always worried that we'd be one of the SIDS statistics. I think it just comes with being pregnant/a mother more than anything, especially if you have already experienced loss.