Would this bug you? (nanny related)

NicoleWI

I know this is minor, but this is a semi-recurrent type of issue. We were pretty low on food today after not shopping all weekend. I left a note about lunch asking her to give the kids grapes, the really good grilled turkey breast leftovers from dinner at my MIL's, and leftover hot dogs (high quality hot dogs!) to use for lunch, and whatever else to fill in. I purposely didn't take a lunch to work b/c I wanted to leave this stuff for the kids! So, she ends up giving them PBJ! What the heck?

Also, the counters are totally a big mess and weren't wiped off today.

RoxyLynn

I could let go of the counters, but not the specific instructions for their lunch.  It's not like she had to wing it, you left sufficient instructions and food.

hansa11

NicoleWI:

I know this is minor, but this is a semi-recurrent type of issue. We were pretty low on food today after not shopping all weekend. I left a note about lunch asking her to give the kids grapes, the really good grilled turkey breast leftovers from dinner at my MIL's, and leftover hot dogs (high quality hot dogs!) to use for lunch, and whatever else to fill in. I purposely didn't take a lunch to work b/c I wanted to leave this stuff for the kids! So, she ends up giving them PBJ! What the heck?

Also, the counters are totally a big mess and weren't wiped off today.

The lunch issue would bother me and the counters, if they are left uncleaned more often than not.  If it's a crazy day with kids napping badly or having a rough day, I can see how the nanny doesn't get to cleaning.  It is a pain to come home and have to clean before you can start preparing dinner. 

Did you ask her why she didn't serve the lunch you left for the kids?  Forgetting is one thing, especially if you don't often leave specific food, but laziness is not an excuse. 

shannm

Is it possible that your daughter specifically asked for the PBJ?  I can see my DS doing this.  If not, and it was the nanny's idea, yeah, that would bug me.

honeybee111

Both things would irritate me.  I would definitely bring it up especially since you said they have happened before.

laurakaz13

The counter would bother me more than the food.  I think PB & J is still healthy enough and fine.  But the counter is pure laziness in my opinion. 

EastCoastBride

I'd talk to her about the food thing.  Ask her why she gave them PBJ instead.  Your (making assumptions about your tickers) DD is about the same age as DS.  There are days that he has a strong opinion about what he wants to eat - and when I can, I let him pick.

She may have done this.  And your DS simply wanted on too because big sis wasn having it.

Talk to her about it and I personally feel (depending on her answer) that some leeway is needed w/ our daycare.  I don't spend all day every day w/ my DS.  My DCP or my parents do.  They both try to follow my lead, but they diverge here and there too - it happens.  If this is a "semi-recurrent" thing but not a daily thing, I don't know how bothered I'd be by it. 

The counters - eh, it doesn't take long to wipe, but at the same time, it could have been one of "those days" where she was super focused on the kids and just forgot to do it/ didn't have time.

 

seahorse102410

Me the counters more than the food because mine doesn't really care for meat except once in a blue moon.  He would prob eat pb&j every day.

KathrynMD

I would think your LO asked for PB&J - I would just ask the nanny.

I'd probably let the counters go.

jnealet

The counters might bother me but only if it happened on a regular basis.  The pbj wouldn't, my 3 year old likes to choose what she eats.

shouldbworkin

PB&J wouldn't bother me as long as it wasn't all the time. Same thing with a messy counter.  I know I don't always get to it b/c my kids can be demanding some days. 

Kellyt2012

That is really odd... And you are positive she saw the note? I can kind of understand not wiping down the counters, but if the specific lunch request was there, it would annoy me too. I'd probably be over it the next day, not sure though!