Should we wait to tell our close family?

kirst14

My husband and I just found out we are pregnant with a home pregnancy test yesterday (Father's Day)!! We are super excited and I want to tell our parents/siblings already, but our first prenatal appointment isn't for another week. Should we wait until my OB/GYN confirms the pregnancy, or is it okay to tell our immediate family now?

CupcakeKaper

Our immediate families know.  If something goes wrong, I would want their support.  My SIL and BIL didn't tell anyone, even family, until they were 12 weeks...it's whatever you are comfortable with.  If you have exhaustion and morning sickness, it might be nice if they know so you can vent too...

lucy11111

Chances are you doctor will just do a urine test to confirm the pregnancy (just like you did at home). If that's the only think holding you back from telling then I wouldn't wait. 

Kie310

That's a personal choice. we told our families & best friends w/in a week of peeing on the stick. I slowly told other people as the weeks progressed, most people in my life knew before my first u/s which was just last week. I announced on FB yesterday for Father's Day & am now sharing the news with anyone.

It's whatever makes you comfortable.

LolaJr

Congrats! We just found out last Thursday...first appointment this afternoon! I'm having the same dilemma! My parents will be in town on Friday and we're having a bbq with my inlaws on Saturday...I think we are going to make the 'big announcement' then. We only see my parents a couple times a year and I don't want to wait 12 weeks to tell them, when I could tell them asap when they're in town. I think it works to follow your instinct! Good luck!

Kingston54

It's an individual decision.  We told DH's family around 7 weeks - after I had been to the doctor for a blood confirmation test but before the first ultrasound.

ByGrace22

Congratulations! 

When to tell is a personal decision.  I always prefer to wait until after the end of the first trimester.  It's a huge downer, but when you tell this early, you have to consider how you would feel "un-telling" these same people if something were to go wrong.  I personally have decided that I don't want people to know, because I don't want to deal with them in the event something goes wrong again. 

Smashdance

I am also waiting until I'm 12 weeks. I had a miscarriage in January, so now I'm freaked out about telling people too early. A few people know like my manager due to the amount of doctor appointments I'm making, and a really good friend of mine who told me on her pee-stick day knows as well. And obviously DH. But we're not officially announcing for another 4 weeks.

kirst14

Thank you for everyone's inputs! We decided to tell just our parents for now so that they know what's going on. It doesn't help that I work with my mother-in-law and she will be wondering why I have an appointment with my OB/GYN next week!

NechamaChayim

Smashdance:

I am also waiting until I'm 12 weeks. I had a miscarriage in January, so now I'm freaked out about telling people too early. .

We're in the same boat. We're not telling anyone until 12 weeks. I did tell a few friends who do not know anyone in my family and they know not to mention it on facebook or anything. My in-laws are waiting for their first child. Having to tell them I miscarried last time was awful. We're not doing that to ourselves again.

ruggles611

I found out Sunday, too! We've told my mom and borther, that's it. We probably won't tell anybody else until after we have the baby.