Day 1 PT= nothing yet :-(

NJLH

Hi girls...I asked advice last week on PTing my very stubborn 3.5 year olds. I made a big production today...stocked up on candy and toys...threw out the diapers...and nothing yet. Both kick and scream when I put them on the potty, even parked in front of the tv. One held it all morning then just burst in her pants  (underwear). The other just keeps peeing in her pants and doesnt seem bothered. I dont think they get the feeling of having to go. I guess I should just keep going, huh. I keep wishing for one of those miracles where they'll wake up one day and asked to go. Thanks for listening to my vent!

Nakmama

Aww, sorry to hear you're having a rough go of it! Are they in pre-school? It helped my DD to see other kids going because she wanted to be a "big girl" like them. We also did candy/treats when she went and really praised her. We also took her every hour just to sit on the potty. Don't worry, it's only Day 1, they will get the hang of it!

NJLH

Thanks! They just finished a year of preschool. They tell me every kid in the class that goes on the potty. And I told them they cant go back next year with diapers. In one ear and out the other :-(

Art Teacher

We're potty training right now.  DD will be 3 in Sept.  This is the 3rd time we're trying...I just don't think she was ready before this time.  We started last Monday.  She had a couple of accidents (big ones like what you mentioned) early in the week and maybe just a couple smaller ones toward the end.

I had her help me collect all  the diapers and bag them up.  We talked about the potty - her little one and her potty seat.  I tell her to let me know when she needs to go (to give her control.)  I also take her in there and have her sit every now and then.  I don't ask her; I just take her or say "let's go potty."  I give her a sticker on her sticker chart if she tries -- I let her pick the sticker and put it on (gives her control.)  I give her 2 m&ms if she goes #1.  I give her a prize if she goes #2.  She picked out little balls (like hacky sacks) from the Dollar store and some of other little toys.  I tell her I'm proud of her when she tries and I make a huge fuss when she actually goes.  I keep using the words "big girl."

I would just keep trying.  I will say that it's finally starting to click for dd.  It just took a while.

 

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IMO if they're fighting you that much, they're just not ready.  I've never been for "all or nothing", I think when they're ready they'll want to go.  I also think the more you push the more they'll fight you because it's one of the very few things they have control over (mostly potty and eating).  I would definitely stick to your guns about preschool this fall, when it's starting tell them that all of their friends are going but they'll have to stay home because they don't want to use the potty.  You could offer big rewards (when DS1 was PTing a few times I told him if he went on the potty we'd go to Chuck E Cheese - that always worked for him).  Personally I'd give it maybe another day and then put the potties away for a few weeks. 

lcherian

Aww I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I would keep trying for at least 3 or 4 more days. I know it's frustrating, just keep trying to be consistent. How often are you akin them to the potty?

smilejenn

Aussie*s_Mom:

IMO if they're fighting you that much, they're just not ready.  I've never been for "all or nothing", I think when they're ready they'll want to go.  I also think the more you push the more they'll fight you because it's one of the very few things they have control over (mostly potty and eating).  I would definitely stick to your guns about preschool this fall, when it's starting tell them that all of their friends are going but they'll have to stay home because they don't want to use the potty.  You could offer big rewards (when DS1 was PTing a few times I told him if he went on the potty we'd go to Chuck E Cheese - that always worked for him).  Personally I'd give it maybe another day and then put the potties away for a few weeks. 

I agree. It just doesn't sound like they are 100% ready. Going to the bathroom on the potty is one of those things, like eating and going to sleep, that you just can't force a child to do. And sometimes the more you push it, the more they will resist. I'm personally a big fan of letting the child lead the potty training. Our son was stubborn with potty training and resisted when we tried. I ended up following our pediatrician's advice to just let him go on the potty when he was ready. One day he woke up and decided to go on the potty, and it was easy as that.

 Good luck!