I feel like a terrible mom

wonkatalia

DD stays with my mom on Mondays and Tuesdays and they usually come to pick me up for lunch on Mondays.  I'm thinking about lying to my mom and telling her I'm too busy at work in order to get out of going to lunch with them today.  The reason?  My kid was a huge jerk all weekend (see discipline post) and I need a break. 

So I feel awful because I really do love DD and want to spend time with her, but restaurant time is not her best and I barely get to eat at all because I'm so busy dealing with her.

Am I horrible?  Is this flame worthy?  Should I just suck it up and go?

(I accidentally originally posted this on 12-24 b/c I haven't updated my bookmarks yet.)

Libby1978

I don't think you should feel bad about this.  You had a rough weekend.  We all need a break from our LO's now and then.  Sometimes work is the only break we get.

nikipau144

You need your own personal time to unwind and take a break from DD. It happens, and you deserve a break. I wouldn't feel bad in the slightest if you canceled lunch plans.

LILBIT1221

Nope, take the break. Otherwise you will still be frustrated and no one will benefit from that.

wonkatalia

Thank you!  I felt so bad last night when I realized it was Sunday.  I was like "yay!  I get to go to work tomorrow!"  lol.  Cue the mommy guilt.

I don't know how SAHM's do it.  You guys are amazing.

penguingrrl

Not a terrible mom in the least! A quiet lunch sans kids sounds amazing!!!

synchrosally

Sometimes mamas need a break. FWIW my DS decided to hit the terrible twos all of a sudden last week. Not that he was a perfect angel before, but he cranked it up a few notches as soon as he turned two.

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shouldbworkin

Hey, she's not at a good restaurant age.  I don't blame you.  I'd probably only want to meet them for take out at a park from now on. 

FrickandFrack

You deserve to take a break once in a while.  Go out to lunch with some coworkers or just yourself.

wonkatalia

shouldbworkin:

Hey, she's not at a good restaurant age.  I don't blame you.  I'd probably only want to meet them for take out at a park from now on. 

Oh that's a really good idea!  Thanks!

ougrad1

Nope.  Take some time for yourself.  You'll be a better mom tonight.  Enjoy your lunch and don't feel a tiny bit bad for it.

isacdimi10

I see nothing flameworthy.

Carry on.

WildcatPrincess

1) I hate going out to eat with DD, it's exhausting and not at all fun

2) I hate that I had to cut my hours from 2 days a week to 1 after DS was born, those were my "break" days and I miss that

So I don't think you're terrible at all.