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Would you ever donate your eggs?
Or know of anyone how has (or done it yourself?)?
I had a girlfriend mention that she would like to do this - she has a co-worker that had her child with IFV- and it really struck her that it is an amazing gift to give someone.
I think that it would be incredible to give some one that gift, obviously not at this point in my life - but maybe someday, to give someone what I have and love to the ends of the earth.....
I don't know anything about it - wondering if any of you do?
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Re: Would you ever donate your eggs?
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this. I might consider being a surrogate for a friend or family member if the situation was right, but not sure if I could donate not knowing who it would be going to.
I am an egg donor recipient, from an anonymous donor (she was paid approx $6000 for each cycle she donated). It is the only way I could have a family (unless we adopted, which is not an easy process, and more expensive than doing this type of egg donation).
I very much appreciate the gift, and I think it takes a special kind of person to do this. She had to go through testing for STDs, genetic disorders, psychological testing, and answer questions about her personality, family history, and personal background. When she was finally accepted as a donor (only 1 in 10 are), she had to go through an IVF cycle--injecting herself with medications on a precise schedule, going in for early morning doctor's appts, and then have the eggs surgically removed from her ovaries at a precise time (not painful, but it is a full-anesthetic procedure).
ETA: also, almost all donors are college educated, and between the ages of 21-30. DH and I have full control of the eggs now that we have "purchased" them (one is growing into a fetus now; two others are frozen embryos we hope to have as children in the future.)
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I had a friend do it several times. She loved that she was helping someone out (plus she really needed the money, sad but true). She never really was bothered by the fact that her "kids" are out there because they are with people who desperately wanted a child. I think she stopped donating when she got married. Soon, she will be trying for a baby of her own with her husband.
She did say that it was time intensive and a big inconvenience at times. But, like pregnancy, it's worth it in the end to know people are happy because of your sacrifice. I think I could definitely consider doing it once I am done having my own children. It's not like I'll be using the eggs so someone else should:)
I think it is amazing to give someone that gift as well but I'd be lying if I said I wouldnt constantly feel like I had a baby out there!
I have donated my eggs twice! The first time two couples split the eggs and the second time it was just for one couple. The process was really fast for me. After I did the paperwork and blood work I was selected within a month.
The medications weren't that bad to me except I freaked out when I saw the needle I had to use to give myself I guess its the trigger shot the night before. HUGE!!! Towards the end though when I would walk around my ovaries felt like softballs. They were so heavy. My ovaries were superstars though. Around 20 eggs each time.
Some of my friends said they couldn't do it because you wouldn't want your child out there somewhere. That isn't my child. It WAS just my egg. It is their child 100%. I am very glad I did it.
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All of this, especially the part about them using them for research. It really does save lives.
I would, in a heartbeat.
It's such a big gift, and after going through IF myself, I know how much it would mean to someone else.
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Having gone through IVF once, I feel I could do it again to donate my eggs. I wouldn't want to be paid for it though - well, just enough to cover the medical cost but nothing more.
If we don't end up using our frozen embroys, we will donate them. It's a decision we had to make before the egg retrieval. It was a tough choice because both donating and using for research are good use.
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I never would have chosen to donate my eggs on my own because I know how difficult IVF can be. However, now that I have put myself through IVF and am pregnant with twins, I have two frozen embryos that I will never use. I would rather donate them to a couple who cannot conceive on their own rather than have them destroyed or used for research.
Yes, they will technically be full siblings to my twins, but only genetically. Another woman would carry them in her womb, birth them, raise them and love them. They would not be "my" children.
No, I would not donate my eggs. Call me narrow minded: I believe that children are best conceived as the result of spouses complete giving of themselves to each other. (Theology of the Body).
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Well pin a rose on your nose. It's so good that your uterus and ovaries and your husband's sperm all work perfectly well so you are able to sit on that high and mighty pedestal from where you're judging.
Wow. You are definitely more than narrow minded.
OP, I would most certainly donate my eggs if I qualified.
If I qualified, yes. My aunt is an egg donor recipient. After years of infertility, it's been wonderful to see her dream of becoming a mother come true. I understand why others may choose not to but to me, it wouldn't be my child. Genetically, it is but I wouldn't be his or her parent. I also wouldn't have a problem with the eggs being used for research purposes. As others have already mentioned, countless people could potentially be helped.
I am too old to do it now, but I did consider it when I was in my mid- 20s. I will say that is was for purely financial reasons that I considered it, as I really didn't understand what a gift children are until I had my own child.
If I could go back in time, I would've tried to become a donor in a heartbeat. Children are such a blessing and if my egg could help realize the dream of parenthood for someone, it would be imposible for me to not do it. But, I am almost 35, so that could never be now.
Couples who go through IVF are 100% committed to their family. There is no way you would invest that kind of $$$ and time otherwise. There are no oops IVF babies.
You're a little more than narrow minded. I believe a better way to describe yourself would be twat.
WOW. I think quite a few folks on here would call you narrow minded in a heart beat...probably worse. There are a lot of folks who can't have children just by "giving themselves to each other". Quite a few on this board I'm sure. There are also a lot of folks who do "give themselves to each other" and end up being the worst parents ever. Any idiot can make a child....obviously.
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If I could qualify, I probably would. I'm not that emotionally attached to my eggs though.
I could never in a gazillion years be a surrogate. God bless those that can, but I don't like being pregnant enough to ever consider it for someone else.
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As a birth mother I am so completely sickened by your statement. The parents I chose to be the parents of my first child were and are amazing people. they were fully committed to their marriage and each other and after years of trying and failing to have children they decided to go through the pain staking process of adoption. I am baffled at this level of thinking and what it means for all the children conceived in other ways in your mind.
As for the original comment - I think I am probably too old at this point but yes I would do it and I would surrogate for someone too friend or stranger...everyone who is ready and willing to be parents should get the chance.
I feel narrow minded might be a bit too kind of a description for your horrible opinion. Some opinions should be kept to yourself....this is one of them. I hope you are never in need of the kindness of someone else because you might be relying on someone just like you and would be *** out of luck.
You disgust me.
I have considered donating my eggs before but it was when I lived in Alaska and it was very difficult. For many things like this, you have to leave the state and to leave the state for multiple appointments, I just couldn't do with my job. I would still donate if I were considered to be a good candidate.
My sister is a cancer survivor with one little girl before her cancer treatments. She wants to try for another baby but is unsure if she is fertile or not and won't know until they start trying. For her, I would be a surrogate in a heartbeat. Would it be the most emotionally difficult thing ever, most definitely but I couldn't imagine her not having her dream of a bigger family if I could help.