I'm at my Breastfeeding class and I feel so awkward and angry. Everyone is waddling and looking uncomfortable and I am jealous. I feel so ripped off. I didn't get to experience that stage and barely got to enjoy looking pregnant. The instructor knows my situation and asked how my LO was doing and one girls mom said "I was wondering why you didn't look pregnant" ummm thanks. Like another post said, I'm sure it was meant to be a compliment but ouch. I didn't expect to feel this way for the class but I have a feeling it's going to be a rough two hours.
Does the anger/ resentment ever go away?
Re: Breastfeeding class...
Oh, ouch. I felt that sting! I never went to a BF'ing class - I just worked with the NICU LC's - is that something you can do? Even after discharge I could still go see them/make an appt because the appt was considered for DS (I don't have insurance). I think I'd lose my marbles attending a class with a bunch of pg women.
The answer your question - I can't. It's different for every mom (dads get over it quickly, I think! It's so diff for them - I envy that). My H thinks I'm nuts for envying big bumps.
It's been 14 mo for me. One of my BFF's is pg and I'm so happy for her - there are no pangs, though when I gave her my belly bands to borrow I got a little wonky in the brain because I never needed maternity clothes - the bands are everything to me. Then she posted her most recent bump shot with my favorite on and I was just so happy! Nothing else. It was hardest for me when he was in NICU because there were huggge pg women everywhere and the entrance is also the driveway for maternity pick-ups. Slap in the face! I'm doing much better. It's a little harder once my friends/people I know/meet at park have passed his GA. I wonder how it feels - and then I feel sad.
Thanks guys. I struggled through it. I felt so awkward whenever she was say "this doesn't apply to you" or something specially for md but I know I need to get through those moments for him. At the end some of the girls came and asked me questions. Like I was the expert. It was weird but I guess I have a week more experience than they do!
I know its going to be a long road to healing fully but I wasn't prepared for this today. I didn't think of how being in that room with everyone feeling their bellies would make me feel. I just looked at his picture every time I felt sad. Then I remembered how lucky I am.