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BarbourWales04

I adore my SILs. My husband and I are housesitting for my ILs. SILs wanted to come and see my son right after he was born, and I told them that while I appreciated the thought, I'd really rather they waited. They said, "But your parents are staying with you!" 

My response to that was 1) My parents live in another country and I haven't seen them in over a year; 2) We're moving to a town where one of my SILs lives, 3) The other SIL's husband is my son's godfather, so she'll get to see him whenever she wants. They will be a daily part of my son's life, whereas my parents won't be, because of sheer geographical distance. 4) My ILs cleared it. I want the first week of my son's life to be focused on me, my DH, and my son as a family.  I don't think that's insane, 5) My parents deliberately set up their trip so that they'd be getting here a week after our son is due.

Now, I hear that my BIL is coming to visit on July 2nd (which is 2 days before my due date). He's coming down for work, staying for a week, and expecting to stay with us at my ILs house.

My DH says that he can't tell his brother not to stay over. I really don't want my BIL anywhere near L&D, around me after I give birth, etc. I like my BIL, but I just want everyone to back the freak off. And how on earth am I supposed to tell my SILs that they can't stay when my BIL is? 

Am I insane? Am I irrational? Have I lost my mind? 

JacobsBride4811

I don't think you wrong in anyway. I want the same thing. just give me a week. I want to bond with LO and DH together. Not to mention, I would like it to be just me and DH when we are trying to get the hang of having LO around. and learning to breastfeed. I don't want anyone's help except DH in person and maybe my mom via the phone. I was freaking out a few months ago bc I thought my MIL was going to try to stay the first week with us. Sounds like people really need to back off and give you some room.

zyas

oh that's tough I'm sorry. I also want it to just be me, LO and DH the first week. However I know that's not going to happen. DH and I own our own business and he will still have to work at times so I will be home by myself then. I will also be helping run the business (phone calls and bookings) from home too. I want to do it all myself cause that's the way I am, but I may have to ask MIL to come over and help. Luckily my ILs are close by. My parents also live really far away like yours and they are coming 10 days after LOs due date cause I asked them not to come until then. I would like at least our evenings just me, the baby and DH so we can at least start to settle into some sort of routine.

I totally understand how you feel. I'm a little confused though, why does your BIL have to stay with you? Do you have your own place or do you live with your ILs?

BarbourWales04

We're housesitting for my ILs while they're abroad, so basically staying in their house rent-free, which was really generous of them. Basically, he would have nowhere to stay if he didn't stay with us- and it's a work related thing, apparently, it just happened to fall around the time the baby's due. Out of all my ILs, I probably enjoy his company the most, mostly because he doesn't give me crap if I go and do my own thing. 

It wouldn't be SO bad if he came, I think, mostly because he'd be out of the house most of the day. But darned if I'm not the tiniest bit resentful.