vacation --> ruined (long)

MBfromBMC

I really hate to complain, but our little vacation might just be ruined by this diagnostic cycle that we're doing...

DH and I haven't been on vacation since 2010, and I mean we literally haven't even taken a day off.  We are supposed to be leaving for the beach tomorrow morning and that whole plan might be seriously foiled right now.

When I made the appointment for this IVF consultation, I was lead to believe that we would just be discussing protocol, maybe doing a few more tests, then setting up a calendar and getting our scripts.  I thought that we would go down the shore and just wait for AF and the big box o' meds, then cycle first thing in July.  Unbeknownst to me, we are doing this bizarre diagnostic cycle with no meds other than the progesterone suppositories and Mucinex.  (They're not finding much CM and when they did, it was rated only as "fair.")

In the ultrasound yesterday, they found two follicles, the larger measuring 17.  Today, it seems that one of them has "fizzled out" and the lead follie is still just a 17.  They did a post-coital test yesterday and found no CM, then another one today (after making DH and I DTD at 7am this morning.... ugh).  Today they were able to find CM and a few swimmers, but the CM was only "fair."

So here's the crappy thing - I am supposed to leave super early tomorrow to go the beach and one nurse (let's call her Nurse A) wants me to come in for yet another post-coital and the first appointment is at 10:45.  I am also traveling with people who do not know about our IF or TX, so it would be really strange to drag them to the office in NJ on the way to the shore.  Nurse B doesn't think it should be necessary to do another post-coital and thinks that it will be useless as DH's count will just keep going down and down as we keep doing daily TI.  No matter what, though, I will probably have to go back Monday, Wednesday, etc.  The office is 1.5 hours from the beach and there aren't any super-early appointments left.  If this continues, I will be missing day trips that we planned with people from my work and other friends and I will spending most mornings in the car.  They are even talking another IUI.

I just feel like I am so over IUI (I have had 9!) and this one follicle doesn't even look very good.  I really don't want to let another one ruin the only time DH and I have together.  We literally have nothing else planned in the future as far as vacations or downtime. 

Thanks for letting me vent and thanks again if you made it this far... 

Mrs.McIrish

OMG, this exact same scenario happened to me during my consult with C.heck in December. Exactly the same-- 17mm follie and my CM was thick/murky=killed all DH's sperm the next day on the post-coital.  It also happened to be Christmas and there was no way I could do an IUI on X-mas eve as I see C.heck as an OOT patient and I was not asking my local monitoring place to do an X-mas eve IUI when I hadn't talked to them in 6 months.  I just said F' it!!!! Sometimes you just can't do what they want.  Honestly, I would just go to the beach and start next cycle. I also don't believe that IUIs would work for me since I already done a bunch.

I would just take 2400mg of mucinex each day and just have sex. It is what it is.  Go to the beach and have fun. Just say NO to them. There is always next month to start the treatment.

MBfromBMC

Mrs.McIrish:

OMG, this exact same scenario happened to me during my consult with C.heck in December. Exactly the same-- 17mm follie and my CM was thick/murky=killed all DH's sperm the next day on the post-coital.  It also happened to be Christmas and there was no way I could do an IUI on X-mas eve as I see C.heck as an OOT patient and I was not asking my local monitoring place to do an X-mas eve IUI when I hadn't talked to them in 6 months.  I just said F' it!!!! Sometimes you just can't do what they want.  Honestly, I would just go to the beach and start next cycle. I also don't believe that IUIs would work for me since I already done a bunch.

I would just take 2400mg of mucinex each day and just have sex. It is what it is.  Go to the beach and have fun. Just say NO to them. There is always next month to start the treatment.

Thank you so much - I am so glad that someone else has been through the Cooper wild ride.  I really like the place and the people (and the prices), but this seems like a lot of legwork and a lot of driving for something that probably will not work...  (I am OOT, too). 

Thanks, McIrish!  Expect lots of PMs from me in the future

AmCheri

Crummy buttons!  I'm sorry for the frustration.  I hear you on vacations.  We haven't had one in over two years either.  We've missed out on a lot of fun weekend plans, too, just because you have to stay near the clinic.  I feel your pain.    If it doesn't happen for you this weekend, I hope you can make it work soon.  You deserve a break!

illinigal

Hugs.  I'm so sorry.  You definitely need and deserve a vacation.  Can you just enjoy your trip and delay cycling for another month?  Not that you probably want to delay, but sounds like an option.  I was pissed that we have to delay IVF 5 from July to Sept, but Dh and I are going on vacation in a couple weeks and we are going to have a good time.

jillychris

MBfromBMC:

Mrs.McIrish:

OMG, this exact same scenario happened to me during my consult with C.heck in December. Exactly the same-- 17mm follie and my CM was thick/murky=killed all DH's sperm the next day on the post-coital.  It also happened to be Christmas and there was no way I could do an IUI on X-mas eve as I see C.heck as an OOT patient and I was not asking my local monitoring place to do an X-mas eve IUI when I hadn't talked to them in 6 months.  I just said F' it!!!! Sometimes you just can't do what they want.  Honestly, I would just go to the beach and start next cycle. I also don't believe that IUIs would work for me since I already done a bunch.

I would just take 2400mg of mucinex each day and just have sex. It is what it is.  Go to the beach and have fun. Just say NO to them. There is always next month to start the treatment.

Thank you so much - I am so glad that someone else has been through the Cooper wild ride.  I really like the place and the people (and the prices), but this seems like a lot of legwork and a lot of driving for something that probably will not work...  (I am OOT, too). 

Thanks, McIrish!  Expect lots of PMs from me in the future

 

I like McIrish's plan!!!! You definitely deserve a break, so don't let this ruin your vacation. Especially if you aren't wanting an IUI, there's no point in doing it just for them! I hope you get to enjoy the beach with your friends!

reb259

jillychris:

MBfromBMC:

Mrs.McIrish:

OMG, this exact same scenario happened to me during my consult with C.heck in December. Exactly the same-- 17mm follie and my CM was thick/murky=killed all DH's sperm the next day on the post-coital.  It also happened to be Christmas and there was no way I could do an IUI on X-mas eve as I see C.heck as an OOT patient and I was not asking my local monitoring place to do an X-mas eve IUI when I hadn't talked to them in 6 months.  I just said F' it!!!! Sometimes you just can't do what they want.  Honestly, I would just go to the beach and start next cycle. I also don't believe that IUIs would work for me since I already done a bunch.

I would just take 2400mg of mucinex each day and just have sex. It is what it is.  Go to the beach and have fun. Just say NO to them. There is always next month to start the treatment.

Thank you so much - I am so glad that someone else has been through the Cooper wild ride.  I really like the place and the people (and the prices), but this seems like a lot of legwork and a lot of driving for something that probably will not work...  (I am OOT, too). 

Thanks, McIrish!  Expect lots of PMs from me in the future

 

I like McIrish's plan!!!! You definitely deserve a break, so don't let this ruin your vacation. Especially if you aren't wanting an IUI, there's no point in doing it just for them! I hope you get to enjoy the beach with your friends!

i agree with these pp....enjoy your vacation

theworms

ugh!

i hope it works out cutie and you can enjoy vaca