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I need advice...
I just found out that I am pregnant. I am 15. I am really excited about my baby - but I am scared. My baby's father is an older man that I met when I was out at a football game with some of my friends -- he is 27. We didn't do it that night -- but we hung out some more - I snuck around behind my parents back because they wouldn't approve because of the age difference. We ended up having sex after the 3rd time that we hung out -- and then again one other time. I'm not sure which time got me pregnant -- but I just took the test and found out that I am. I really think that I love this guy and I would love to think of us getting married one day and being a family. He knows about the baby and I thought he would be happy - but he told me that I am not allowed to tell anyone that he is the father. He said that if I loved him -- I would keep it a secret because he would get in trouble. I don't want him to get in trouble -- but I want my baby to have a father. I dont know what to do.
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Re: I need advice...
Wow...well i'm really hoping this is MUD, but presuming its not, you have a long road ahead of you. If you are indeed pregnant you need to get in and see a doctor. The man who fathered your baby is in for a lot of trouble. Whether it was consentual or not it is still not right for a man of that age to take advantage of a child.
It will come out that he is the father it needs to. You need to do whats best for you and your baby. Which at your age may be adoption to an older more established married couple. I wish you the best of luck with what you want to happen, I was a young mother to ( i was 16 when I had my first) and I know its a lot to handle but hiding him as the father is not going to help anything. It will only make things worse. Top priorotiy right now, take care of yourself and the baby. End of story...
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Yeah, if this isn't MUD, stay away from him. Tell your parents the whole story and let them help you figure out what to do. The guy should go to jail, should be on the sex offender registry, and he should have to man up and take responsibility.
BTW, not to sound harsh, but if you feel you are mature enough and stable enough to have a sexual relationship at 15, then you should be mature enough to use protection. No one is going to be responsible for it but you, the guys don't care because they aren't the ones that get pregnant.
I hope you get some help and I'm sorry that you are going through this.
This.
I'm sure it is. First post, mostly complete sentences, great grammar. I mean, what 15 year old could so eloquently compose a post like that?
I was just about to write the same thing! Definitely mud
What is MUD?
You HAVE to tell someone. The sooner the better. It's obvious he doesn't love you if he's telling you to keep it a secret.
In the off chance that this is not MUD, your SO is a pedophile. He needs help and so do you.
But, for the record, I'm going with MUD. Not written by a 15 year old.
I'm pretty sure I could have written like this at 15. 15 year olds might not make the best decisions but it doesn't mean they're idiots. I do hope it isn't real, but just because she can speak correctly doesn't mean it's not. When did you learn proper grammar? After age 15? I don't think so.
Good luck to you OP. You're going to have to tell who the father is and by him saying if you love him you won't tell, he's playing with your emotions and manipulating you. He will have to face the consequences of what he's done, but he knew it was wrong, and that's why he doesn't want you to tell. Go see a doctor and focus on you and the baby.
MUD=Made Up Drama
I too hope this is MUD.
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yup.
That's true, and I think I could have written that well at 15, but there are other clues, as well. It's her first post and it has all the drama elements of a MUD post. It is possible that it's not, though, and for that, the other posters have given good advice.
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MUD!!
If this is real, I feel really sorry for this poor CHILD! And I don't feel sorry this 27 year old is going to serve jail time!
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True, but on the off chance it is real, I don't want to scare her away because we're accusing her of being fake. Seeing as she hasn't come back it looks like it might be fake.
if this is MUD it is NOT funny..at all.
on the off chance that it isnt: you need to tell your parents everything and the TRUTH. You also have to tell them about the father, what you are describing is stat. rape and he will go to jail (common knowledge I would think) and being as how you typed so well (dont sound like a 15 yr old) I would think you would know all this. he is a pedophile and creep and he doesnt love you if he told you things like that.
seriously hope this is MUD...ugh....call the police someone..
Oh, we call those trolls on the forums I am from.