Someone pointed out that the board is slow...

megs71660

So I'm gunna make it poppin in hurrrrr.....

Anyways, A little back story - I have been with my super hot other half for 7 years next month. He proposed last July (yes, he took his sweet time!!)  - we were wanting to get married, but due to super tight finances, we decided to wait, maybe around tax returns or something. Then we found out we were expecting again! (We have a wonderful two year old) SO... would you do a shotgun, cheap courthouse wedding before you get all belly, or wait EVEN LONGER until after the baby comes - and you get skinnyish (PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me get thinnish again someday!!). We've already been together FOREVER it seems, but then again - I really do want to marry the guy

 Oh - and another thing- I don't like using the short things - lordy knows what they are called.... DH, LO, and all the other ones? It's like learning another language to me....  

Shayliz

Uh.. they are called abbreviations. 

megs71660

Shayliz:

Uh.. they are called abbreviations. 

 

YES!! That's it!! Thank you - it's been on the tip of my tongue, the word escaped me! I'm a little sleep deprived lately, apparently it's staring to show. *blush*

MelissaRae1525

I'm in the same situation. SO and I are trying to decide whether to get married now or wait until after. I feel like we should do it now because all the extra cash we have will go towards the LO when it gets here, but SO says we should just focus on the baby, and I guess I see his point.

ah625

I'd wait until after the baby is born. Even a "shotgun" wedding will cost money, and you're admittedly tight financially. Better to spend that money on the baby stuff you'll need.

znianiswan

Uh.. they are called abbreviations. 

 

 

 

samakasrc

My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 9 years now.  We just got engaged in May.  We are planning a wedding AUgust 17th 2013. This should give us 6 months for me to get back into shape, and then we'll have a 6 month old instead of a newborn or me being pregnant. I just have this thing that rushing marraige because your pregnant is tactless... but thats just my opinion.    I figure I've already waited this long - whats 1 more year?

gwenjune

Shayliz:

Uh.. they are called abbreviations. 

 Actually, they're acronyms. 

6fsn

Go to the courthouse and make it official.  You can have the party for your 5th anniversary or whenever you think you are skinny enough or financially stable enough.

LaurelBee

6fsn:

Go to the courthouse and make it official.  You can have the party for your 5th anniversary or whenever you think you are skinny enough or financially stable enough.

This.  

Mommyluv384

We eloped when I was 5 months.. I'm not a center of attention girl. 3 years later I still have no regrets it's the marriage that counts not the wedding. Good luck!

LadyMadrid08

gwenjune:

Shayliz:

Uh.. they are called abbreviations. 

 Actually, they're acronyms. 

FTW!

And I agree you should go ahead and have a courthouse wedding to make it official and do a snazzy vow renewal a few years from now.   

hooslisa

gwenjune:

Shayliz:

Uh.. they are called abbreviations. 

 Actually, they're acronyms. 

tee hee.  well played.  ok, going back to my board now.

nachocheeze

I'm pretty conservative/traditional when it comes to weddings.  I think if you already live together, have made a home and have children then a courthouse ceremony or something very small with immediate family is appropriate.  Not necessarily a 'shotgun' but something small and tasteful.  Have a party for your friends/extended family after the baby comes.

cindiesheart

you've been together this long,,, why shotgun it?  whats the point?  just wait till the baby is in your arms that way the family picture is more complete.

this decaf life

Technically DH and I got married at the DMV for $30 on Leap Day because it made for a "cool" story. You could do something like that just so you can get the legal side done - it can even be "destination" if you want to take a trip somewhere and do it. Then you just do the real deal later (we did it March 24)

I wouldn't worry about getting married though. You already have one kid together & doing the paperwork, changing your name & license etc can be a little time consuming so unless you're feeling pressure I'd just wait until after you have LO. 

6fsn

If you aren't going to make it legal, at least get to a lawyer and make sure that all of your documents are up to date and you have legal authority should something happen to you or your SO. 

sesigs

My fiance and I considered moving our wedding up to this summer (before bloat becomes an actual bump) but then decided to just keep the wedding as is (September 2013). It will allow us to concentrate on the baby right now but still have the wedding we pictured (just with an extra guest on the list!). 

denise_m

6fsn:

Go to the courthouse and make it official.  You can have the party for your 5th anniversary or whenever you think you are skinny enough or financially stable enough.

I completely agree. The goal of a wedding is marriage, not a party to wear a pretty dress.  

PeonyPumps

Before I had DS, I'd probably wait.  Just because I think that would be more romantic, with baby with you.  However, now knowing the scheduling with even a 16 month old, I'd probably do it before so you can actually have something going on longer than an hour and not having to be constantly worried about what your LO is doing.