How do I keep this secret?

hlr425

Hi, I'm new on the boards and everything here. I'll introduce myself, I was on Mirena for 3 years and my husband and I decided with me finishing school that it was a good time to go off and start TTC. 

In April we experienced a chemical pregnancy I was 5 weeks. My husband and I took it pretty hard and decided that we weren't ready for TTC and having trouble and the rollercoaster of it all. I have endometriosis and a pretty severe case so my doctor said it could take another year before I got pregnant so we decided to not TTC but just let nature take it's course.

 I graduated from college about a month ago and landed myself my dream job that I start this coming Monday. The downfall is that the job is in a city that is 2 hours away and I will have to stay will extended family M-F and drive home on the weekends. 

 So yesterday we got a BFP which came not as a complete shock, but definitely a surprise. I figured I had just been stressed because of finals and graduation and the job hunt. But once I realized I was more than a week late with no cramping and severely tender breasts that I should probably take a test. When it came back as "Pregnant" (I used a clear blue digital) and I freaked out and woke up my husband. I called the dr right away because of what happened last time, I wanted to see what to do and whatnot.

I went in and the doctor said I had really low levels and asked if I had even missed my period yet. When I told her I was 8 days late she seemed surprised. But my EDD is  2/14/13.

 So here is my issue, I am starting a new job in a new city on Monday and my husband is going to be over 100 miles away. How do I keep this secret and when should I tell people? How am I going to keep this from the family members that I am going to be living with for the next few months while my husband tries to find a job in that city?

 

Help!! 

sogborn1

First off, congrats!

My MIL actually lives with us (long story short: we're buying her house in Oct, renovating right now and we're all living there until she gets married next month and moves out) and we hid it from her until I was 11 1/2 weeks. It wasn't that hard because I didn't have any morning sickness or anything. Pretty much the only thing that changed was that I couldn't drink coffee (can't stand it now!) so I switched to orange juice every morning but she actually never even noticed! So it is possible if you don't want to tell anyone. But I imagine it is going to be much more difficult for you emotionally because you will be away from your husband. You might want to tell who you stay with a little earlier so they can give you some moral and emotional support. Good luck with it all!

Wild_flower25

I would tell family, but not work until nearly 20 weeks.  You probably won't be showing until then anyway.  GL!

mjr12

I would wait until you feel ready to tell your employers.  You don't HAVE to tell them at any time.  For me, on my first, I told my family, and waited until I was 10 or so weeks to tell anyone at work.  I couldn't hide it well then, because my morning sickness was really getting to me. Congratulations! 

Jaci85

It's hard! I just found out yesterday and I have only told my husband and a friend. I want to tell my parents this wknd but my husband doesn't want me to since I'm only 4 wks. It worked on our first try - just hoping it sticks!

znianiswan

congrats!