Hi ladies. My friend offered to throw me a shower and said "invite whoever you want, family, friends, whatever"
As far as I know I'll be having a work shower in September and that is the only other shower (which is WAY okay with me). I'm struggling with who to invite because my husband has a large family (aunts wise) that he (and I now) is close with and I just feel horrible having a guest list of 50 (friends and both families). I'm fairly certain most of my family and my husbands family will not travel the 4+ hours to attend, so maybe half to 1/4 of those people will be able to come. Is this outrageous??? She tells me it's okay, but I just feel like it's a lot.
thoughts??? TIA ladies
Re: Trouble with guest list
No one else has offered and I wouldn't ask. HOWEVER I can't travel per DR orders so not optional.
Well, I personally wouldn't be inviting people who lived 4 hours away in the first place. I know they are family, but I don't feel a shower is such an "event" that people who realistically can't come should be invited.
BUT - it make work differently in your family. Who knows.
That being said - w/ a guest list of 50 where many of them are far away, as you already mentioned, the # who actually come will probably be quite a bit smaller. 25 people isn't a big shower to me.
BUT you all have to be prepared if all 50 say "yes".
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I would suggest discussing it with the person who offered to host first. She may not realize what she has gotten herself into. But if she doesn't mind the long guest list, don't let it bother you either.
That's our whole family (parents, grandparents, siblings, most of our friends)
I'm a lurker here because I usually throw my friend's baby showers. From a host's perspective it's nice to be asked how many people can be accomodated since the party is on the host's dime!
Any chance you could just invite the grandmothers instead of the entire family? Maybe that would help shorten the list if you want many friends at the shower.
Also, my one friend handed me a list of 60 people, but on the invite list she had marked whether they were likely to show or not. It was helpful as a host, but it still seemed gift grabby to me personally. I think if family feels inclined they will send a gift regardless of an invitation. Hope that helps!
My Step Mom really hurt her sister's feelings when she didn't include her on the list for my bridal shower. I'm very close with my SM but I don't know her sister well and she lived 2.5 hours away from the shower. My SM thought at the time that she wouldn't be able to make the drive and therefore didn't want to put her in the position to say no or feel the need to buy me something. Her sister was so sad and felt rejected. She is number one on my baby shower list!
If your hostess has really said to invite who you want then do it, she shouldn't offer it that way if she doesn't mean it. If she can only accommodate 20 people then she should be the one to say so. She can decide based on the RSVPs how much money she wants to spend (i.e. sheet cake vs. fancy bakery or lots of food options vs. a few, alcohol vs. no alcohol). Enjoy your shower!
This. You send out of town invites for weddings, not an inconsequential shower.