Its all hitting me...

maggiedm

My daughter is a year old and I'm expecting my second child this July.. this will be 14 months apart.

I've been feeling blue about it lately... I don't want my daughter to feel like I dont love her anymore or the attention is away from her... I'm so use to it being me and her.. I can't believe my little man is on the way...

Not feeling excited.. feeling very tired from the pregnancy and chasing my daughter around.

The second pregnancy was totally different because I didnt have the time I had for my first pregnancy to day dream and buy things and decorate etc... I'm just with my daughter every day and chasing her around.. Its just hitting me that in a few weeks we will have another addition to the family...

Feeling blue.. and I shouldnt be!

I should be beyond happy... but it all just hasnt sunk in yet. 

NCMichelle

Mine are 14 moths apart.  I could have written this post EXACTLY.  My feelings changed the second that I laid eyes on DS.  It doesn't sink in until then.  It hasn't been easy.  At all.  But I wouldn't change it for the world!  My heart melts every time they play and giggle together (although it never seems to last more than 5 minutes). I'm sad that #3 will not be that close.

maggiedm

thank you so much - that makes me feel better!

Irisheyes1247

When I found out I was pregnant w DD2, it would make me sad to think about taking away from DD1. I was upset that she wouldn't have that special time just her and I. But from the moment I first saw DD2, I was completely smitten. And although dd1 has been slow to warm to dd2 (just not interested), every once in a whole she will say "hi baby" and give her a fist bump or pet her  head or reach to hug her and  my heart just melts. It has been crazy hectic and stressful, but I just can't imagine not having dd2 here. Your heart just grows. And I think a lot of the problem. Wore the baby comes is all the what ifs, but once LO is here and you are doing it, you don't worry about the what ifs anymore. 

kagl08

My 2 are 13.5 months apart and I felt the same way. But looking at it now I definitely didn't take anything away from my DD. In fact she was so young when DS was born she didn't know the difference. She never showed any jealousy and never felt slighted. Se adjusted gracefully and has been an amazing big sister! The bond my kids have already makes every hard day worth it. They giggle, make each other laugh and just started playing together. Melts my heart. The second DS was born I knew it was the right thing to do and I wouldn't change it if I could. I absolutely love the way my kids are together and I love the spacing we have. It's perfect for us!!

Damiensmommy45

 You are not alone. Keep strong and know that yo cn always love two!!!https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65977045.aspx

Soontobemrspaulding

I am in your exact same boat and totally feel the same way. I think our children will even have the same birtdays roughly ha ha my daughter was born May 10 and my son is scheduled to arrive July 5 

 

kge9602

as a lot of the other responses say, your thoughts were exactly my thoughts until DD2 arrived. even during labor, all could think about as DD1 and how the moment had finally arrived that her life would be forever changed...until saw my newborn's face...I felt bad for ever feeling bad. it has only been 2 weeks but can already say that both my girls make life truly complete