Hey everyone,
I am new to military wifedom, and just found out I am pregnant with my first! We have Tricare Prime, which I have heard means very few appointments and hard to see a compassionate doc. Any stories?
Does anyone know if I can be referred to an off-base OB? Does Tricare still pay for everything? Any advice on this would be most appreciated!!
Re: Tricare prime referred off base for OB?
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
*sigh*
My H is a military physician. So are most of our friends. Compassion is the whole reason they're in medicine. To assume that because a person puts on ACU's to go to work everyday automatically means they're a heartless *** is just insulting.
FWIW, both of my children were delivered at MTFs. Both of my pregnancies were followed by military OB's and midwives. I have no complaints about any of the medical care I received while I was pregnant or during delivery. The MTF system isn't cushy, and there are bad apples to be had (as there are on the civilian side), but for the most part you will find the standard of care to be identical to what you would receive with any other insurance plan.
First of all, it is human nature to kvetch about the bad. Look at these boards, 90% of the posts are about the negative or questionable things that are going on in our lives. We need support or validation or help figuring out what to do next.
They are rarely posts about the good and you never see posts about the' same old'-same old'.
If we did that, we would have hundreds of thousands of posts.
Second, it is human nature to exaggerate most our world experiences (I include myself in this). Its either due to wanting the most IVYs possible.
Third, (and this is from my 9 years of experience as a Patient Advocate for TRICARE and Civilian Medical) most of the issues people complain about are not actually 'complain worthy' situations.
The best example I have is the number of posts we have here about newly pregnant women not being able to get an appointment until they are 10+ weeks along. The immediate response is "how horrible and mean and uncaring TRICARE is".
No - that is the national Standard of Care practice that all OBs follow, due to a variety of medically researched and experienced reasons.
But damn it, we just have to blame someone. And we do it vocally.
Look, I am not saying that TRICARE is perfect (if I was, I would not have been paid a really good sum to lobby against them). But given what I have seen in the civilian world (life time caps, extremely restricted formularies, etc) TRICARE isnt any worse. It is just different.
As for your OP questions. The MTF where I gave birth too was great. There were appointments and it ran smoothly enough. The ONLY reason why I disenrolled from Prime was because I would literally have to drive right by the civilian hospital (I actually had to drive by another MTF, since DH was stationed at Eglin but we lived west of Hurlburt) and go another 15 miles...which during morning rush hour traffic could add an hour to my drive.
But every one of my friends who lived north used the clinic and loved it.
Look, if you want a true read on the clinic, go in and visit it. See what the appointments are like and talk to the women IN the waiting room and those that just had their babies. And talk to more than 10.
Yep, this. I switched to standard and see a midwife off base. But, I have heard great things about the doctors on base here, so I would not say that all MTF deliveries are a negative experience. In fact, we know numerous people who have delivered on base and had a great experience. The main reason I wanted to deliver off base is because the hospital here makes everyone, the father included, leave after 10pm and I do not want my H to have to go home and not be there with me and the baby. If this was not the rule at our particular MTF I would have delivered there.
You have already been given great answers. I will say, from my own experiences, I will never switch back to Prime because of the crappy care I've received. I appreciate that there are great military providers out there (and crappy civilian providers), but in the 8 years I've dealt with them, I've yet to meet one. I don't mean it to be disrespectful to a pp who said her spouse was a doctor. The bottom line is that I have legitimate concerns for military doctors because when I needed care, it was substandard. I'm talking medical malpractice bad. I've also had friends who have had amazing experiences. I'm just not one of them. I have a list of examples that are not frivolous or silly. I don't trust most doctors now, civilian included, because of the experiences I've had with military doctors.
Like was said before, it depends on the base. You can always make the request, however if they provide the services at the base medical they most likely wont let you. I found out I was pregnant a week after my husband left for deployment, moved halfway across the country in March so when he got back he would have a home to come home to. I completely understand all the questions. What you need to do is get it confirmed by base medical and if its like the base my hubby is stationed at its small and they don't do anything with pregnancy. They had me go to a 20 minute class on base and gave me options of OB and Midwives in the area that tricare prime covered. I would just call and schedule an appointment and ask there! Hopefullly you can see someone off the base, they seem to be more sensative to your needs and questions!