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Thought you girls could totally relate. I was out for my evening walk in my neightborhood...my little form of exercise. I come across this lady w/ her 4 slot stroller and it's full. The cherry on top was that she had a 5th baby strapped to her chest. First thought was that I didn't even know they made strollers that big and my second thought was the usual...I am trying so hard to have just one and it may not happen in the end and here she is w/ 5 all under the age of 5. Why does it have to work out that way? Just feeling sorry for myself. Thanks for listening.
TTC #1 since 2/10 Me 38 FSH 12.9 & AMH 0.16 DH 47, low sperm count due to meds. 07/11 We have sperm! 28 million, 70% motility, morphology 1% normal. 08/14/11 1st IUI unmedicated BFN. 09/11/11 2nd IUI w/ Femara + trigger BFN 10/14/11 trigger & Final IUI 10/16/11 BFN 10/21/11 Started acupuncture and loving it! 01/21 ET one embryo 6 cell grade C. Beta 02/02. BFN. Taking a much needed break. image
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    Ugh!!  All I can say is that I don't want 5 kids.. I'm sure she is pulling her hair out with 5 under 5 ... LOL...

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    Is it wrong to be fantasizing about kicking that woman in the shins?

    I hate her. 

    And I agree with McIrish-- who the hell wants 5 kids, even if they're not all under 5?!? If I wanted a basketball team, I would have kept my coaching job...

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    DD born 6/1/2013 after 15 months of TTC with one loss.    
    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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  • Snapdragon333Snapdragon333 member

    I have a friend whose wife is pregnant with their 4th boy (not planned).  They've been going to counseling and having serious issues with their marriage for a few years.  It's like, why be so irresponsible (and become pregnant with a 4th freakin' kid) when you don't even know if you're going to be married and have a stable family next year? 

    I can't imagine taking care of 4 kids, especially not 5 (and I actually wouldn't want to)!  It really is crazy and unfair how easy it is for some people to repeatedly get pregnant and it is such a struggle to conceive just one for others.  I'm still trying to figure out how to stop myself from reacting when I see parents with babies or multiple kids.  I don't want my whole world to revolve around whether or not I will ever have kids but so far, dang it, it does.

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  • mtlaurelmtlaurel
    My reaction would be to immediately start plotting ways to steal one because surely, she wouldn't miss one out of five.... Only in my head, of course.
    TTC #1 since June 2010
    Me: 36, DH: 42
    Dx: DOR and MFI

    DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
    Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal

    IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
    IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
    DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
    DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!

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  • BabyVDMBabyVDM member

    Whenever I see a woman with a brood of 5 under 5 I just think, IVF success story. No sane woman would have 5 irish twins in a row.  And if she did, my sympathy goes out to her, because she must be a nut job. 

    Anyway, DH wanted 9.  We met when I was 39.  It took a very long time to make him understand that we would be blessed and lucky if we are successful even once.  Though, if I we had met in our 20s, we'd probably would have had a large family  4 or 5.   

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member
    imageBabyVDM:

    Whenever I see a woman with a brood of 5 under 5 I just think, IVF success story. No sane woman would have 5 irish twins in a row.  And if she did, my sympathy goes out to her, because she must be a nut job. 

    Anyway, DH wanted 9.  We met when I was 39.  It took a very long time to make him understand that we would be blessed and lucky if we are successful even once.  Though, if I we had met in our 20s, we'd probably would have had a large family  4 or 5.   

    When I was in college, I wanted to be the Waltons. And have Nerf furniture, obviously. But then I grew up and realized "What the @%$#&amp; was I thinking?!?" Now that I'm older and wiser, I would like to have 2. Preferably cute, with 10 fingers, 10 toes, etc. But I'm willing to negotiate the number of fingers and toes...

    It's amazing how our dreams change when Reality rears Her ugly face, isn't it?

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                               Me:39  MH:39 
    DD born 6/1/2013 after 15 months of TTC with one loss.    
    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member
    Ok so that is just not be fair so I am going to make up a new reality for her-- She was a nanny and had to work for 5 families just to make a buck in this bad economy... She was ready to quit so she put them all in that huge stroller (that she had to save 3 months pay in order to buy) so she could get some fresh air and not rip every hair out of her own head.  That's my story and I am sticking to it!
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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    Good one Llama!!

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    imagemtlaurel:
    My reaction would be to immediately start plotting ways to steal one because surely, she wouldn't miss one out of five.... Only in my head, of course.
    Haaha I do that too! Then I think I'm always going to find one on my doorstep. Too many lifetime movies....haaha

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • BAKERMOMHDSBAKERMOMHDS member

    imageLlamamama:
    Ok so that is just not be fair so I am going to make up a new reality for her-- She was a nanny and had to work for 5 families just to make a buck in this bad economy... She was ready to quit so she put them all in that huge stroller (that she had to save 3 months pay in order to buy) so she could get some fresh air and not rip every hair out of her own head.  That's my story and I am sticking to it!

    This made me smile :)

    Me = 39 DH = 50 TTC (since 01/2009 after a short break, I stopped counting *cycles* in 2010)
    DX 2010 : Unknown Infertility , AMA
    HSG 2005 = Normal / HSG 2010 = Normal
    SA 2005 = Normal / SA 2010 /2012 = Slightly low count : motility, morphology GREAT!
    Chromosomal analysis, MTHFR, ANA's, Lupus, Protein C, Protein S, APCR = Normal 2011

    M/C : 2005 (7wk), 2010 (6wk), 2011 (7wk)

    8 IUI's 2010-2011 all BFN

    IVF/ICSI antagonist 01/2012 #1 = BFN

    IVF/ICSI antagonist long 06/2012 #2 = BFN

    IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF New Clinic/New RE 11/2012 #3 = One beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

    IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF 02/2013 #4 = One more beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

    FET 6/20 : One 5AA PGS normal transferred Beta 1 6/28 = 53.9 / Beta 2 7/1 = 220 / Beta 3 7/3 = 550!

    1 U/S  6w3d - Heartbeat 119 /  2 U/S - 7w5d- Heartbeat 169 / 3 U/S (OB) 8w5d - Heartbeat still great!

    Baby G welcomed into the world 3/7/2014

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  • owlprofowlprof member
    Where is the child-free suburb when you need it?
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