I'm sorry to be a bit of a PW on this topic--I mean, I think I mentioned it last week or something--anyway, today I called to schedule an appt to get my IUD removed, and I had two options: July or tomorrow. Of course, I took the tomorrow, but now I'm a bit freaked out, like, are we really going to do this again?? How in the world will I care for both? I just got my body back (kind of), and now I am going to forfeit it again?
And yet, I am excited! Ugh.
There's no one IRL to talk with about this because DH and I always have a secrecy pact. We don't say any little word until what's done is done.
Anyone else who is KU again or heading in that direction feeling conflicted like this?
Re: A bit freaked out--Someone calm me down!
I read a blog about this exact topic today! It's a guest blog entry on my friend's family blog. I think both the blog and the comments will be helpful.
https://www.growingupgeeky.com/2012/06/you-want-two-children-guest-post.html
This one is amazing, too.
https://oursillyrodriguezfamily.blogspot.com/2012/04/my-mom-was-right.html
I needed this. Thanks
BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
You'll do just great! Gl! I am absolutely in love with how close Linus and Fiona are. We only ttc one cycle with her So I didn't really have time to freak out. After the bfp though I was TERRIFIED! Pretty much the whole pg I was scared honestly. The first month was brutal. I am in a groove now and do just fine alone with both of them. I'm actually enjoying our days now again and things have gotten much easier. It felt like it would be chaos forever but it's the happiest I've ever been. Being pg was much harder! It is just so great to have them so close in age. Cant wait for the third and final one. We also want to "do the baby thing" for a few years and get it done with.
My 2 girls are like 6 years apart. And now the younger 2 will be 18 months. So even though this is my 3rd baby, it feels brand new. I have no idea how to hang out with 2 babies at one time. And I'm freaking out.
But it'll be fine. Things usually end up fine in the end.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
Our original plan was to start trying for #2 when Liam turned one. Then he turned one and things were way too easy - I was training for a half marathon, drinking wine every night, having great sex...life was good. And we decided we'd put off trying for a while.
Then I found out I was pregnant and I'll be honest, I wasn't too excited. I saw the second line, shrugged, and went to finish the dishes. I feel ridiculously guilty for this huge blessing that I feel I don't deserve because I was so looking forward to a carefree summer and it's not the "right timing".
I am excited Liam will have a sibling close in age. I guess God just decided we needed to stick to our original plan. This second pregnancy is strange though - I'm not anxious in the least, which is nice. I guess down deep, since I feel so ungrateful, I'm trying not to get too attached because I feel like I don't deserve it. I realize none of this ramble is helpful to you - I don't have any advice because only you and your husband know when you're ready. I will say that if you feel like you need a few more months - take that time to enjoy what you have now. Best of luck with your decision
growing a foosa
Little Man Z - 2011
Baby Girl E - 2013
Thanks That's too funny! Yea, I haven't come out anywhere but on the bump...we haven't even told our families. I hope you get the news you want
growing a foosa
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Congratulations, love!!
And I felt the exact same way as you for a few months into this pregnancy. I think it's completely normal.
Carina 12.28.2010 | Aurelia 9.23.12 | Chart - Round 3
If i could unload on you ladies:
I have different feelings about this pregnancy than i did in my two previous ones. I think it has a lot to do on how i think our families will react and the fact that i found out VERY early on. I think i am maybe 4 weeks right now.
My SIL just had a baby and my sister is due next month. We just have a lot of baby stuff going on in both our families and it just seems like everyone is going to be disappointed. My mom has been honest with me and said that i should really consider about having another child and if i do then i should wait until Julianna is at least 4 years old. I didn't take this advise harshly. I appreciated her advise she does have 5 children! She also sees how i can struggle when my DH is working a double. It can get chaotic but we manage. And his mom is our primary daycare when DH isn't on shift AND she is also my SILs. So this means my MIL is going to be watching my SILs two kids (One is 8 and the other is 3 weeks as of now) and my 3 kids (soon to be 3 yr old and 1 yr old and number 3) so i feel terrible. We have mentioned to MIL that we are willing to look for other daycare but she refuses! She would be insulted. So i just feel like i am putting a lot of pressure on our families.
Plus, our original plan was to wait until Julianna turns two to start trying again. I have been taking birth control but not at the same time everyday, sometimes i would forget. But we would use condoms as a back up. Well this past month we didn't. And i feel like i kinda tricked DH into having another right now. He was fully aware that i wasn't taking my BC correctly and we both made the decision not to use condoms, so i guess in a sense we were TTC. I had extreme baby fever and kept telling him that i wanted another one. He said he wouldn't mind either way. But i still feel bad.
ALSO, i have been taking a vitamin that contains a TON of Green Tea extract for energy, well i just read in the pregnancy book that you shouldn't take or drink Green Tea during or before pregnancy because you have like a 35% increase of the baby having spina bifida. I thought Green tea was only unsafe during pregnancy i had no idea about beforehand. So now i am irrationally planning for a baby with spina bifida and we are moving into a two story house in a month with no bedrooms on the first floor. I'm irrational i know. But this is my brain right now.
Hugs to you my dear! I don't think that you should feel guilty about a baby's life. If YH didn't want a baby, he would have prevented one. Embrace this LO.
As far as your family goes, if your MIL didn't want the pressure, she shouldn't insist on watching your children.
It sounds like everyone in this situation is exactly where they want to be. Please give yourself permission to be happy. I'm happy for you!
BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
I'm so sorry you're freaking out. Just know that freaking out is a healthy form of processing
And, also, Buddhism for Mothers = highly recommended. Hugs to you!
Mac and cheese lover!