When does the overwhelmed feeling stop?

sugarbug10

I have a 1 week old, a 15 month old and a 6 year old. When does the feeling of "what have I done" get better? I think I am still dealing with the postpartum 7 day hormone release but I am almost scared to be left alone with all three of them for to long. Tell me it gets better.

bellelamb

Well I have a 8 year old, 19 month old, and 4 week old! Today I am very overwhelmed but last week I had three days all, day dh works 13 hr days, alone with them and they were great days. We went shopping, played outside, got everyone bathed and had fun.  I've learned to take pride in the small accomplishments daily and not dwell on the moments when we are all crying. We have also watched more Seseame street than normal but that's ok.  But I have to admitt right now I can't wait for dh to get home so I can go shower ALONE I'm sick of sweat and spit and poop all over me today it's making me crazy!

rosesandpeonies

ummm well it changes.  Each month they get older the dynamics of the "what have I done" becomes different.  Your newborn will eventually start to sleep and get a routine and personality...which helps a great deal but to be honest I now have two toddlers, and I don't have that thought of "what have I done" but I am still overwhelmed and tired at times.  It is different though.

It does get a lot better but I cant see it is extremely easy, kind of depends on the personalities of your kids!  You will be fine.  Do you have anyone to help you?  To give you some time to rest and just get some "me" time.  I found "me" time to be important even if it is just an hour once in a while. Just keep going and your right, those post partum hormones are terrible. 

bergs720

For me, it took about 4.5 months.  That's when things started to get "easy" haha, I know things will never be easy, but that was the point when baby wasn't so needy, toddler had adjusted well, schedules were aligning and life just started to resemble some sense of normalcy.  It's hard but it does get better.  Hang in there!

kcisthebombdotcom

I think when we hit the 2 month mark and were able to get out of the house everyday and adjust to the two of them.

It's hard in a different kind of way now with two toddlers, but I don't feel overwhelmed often. It definitely has its moments-dont get me wrong but it's not as hard as in the beginning.

mrsseguin

For me when the baby STTN, it got SO much easier.  Around 4-5 months.  We've had a hard time adjusting to having 2 kids.  I'm fine now and have been for a while, DH still has a hard time, often has his mom over to help and doesn't do much with them alone.  He still gets very overwhelmed.  I don't have 3, but things did get much better...just give it time.  The good days will start to become more frequent!

kagl08

For us it was 5 months. When DS starting sitting, became slightly more independent, ate less often, slept a little more at night and just overall became more consistent and predictable. Now I think it's pretty doable at 8 months and I'm loving the age gap! Still very hard, but totally doable. We can actually do things that aren't just about kids (like renovate, take day trips and even weekend trips).

There are more and more "good days" and far less "bad days" lately. 5 months was definitely our mark when it all started getting so much easier and I felt like I could actually do this. 

MammaBear81

As soon as you sit down, take a deep breath and realize it's easier to take it done day at a time .  Set yourself small goals (like taking a shower) and work from there.  I'm very big on routines, I don't think I could live without one!

RA1109

Everyone is different.  My kids are 6 months and 2.5 and I'm still waiting for it to get hard.  My kids are so easy, and I SAH with them too.  I'm lucky!

dakiesgirl

  We have one and another on the way.  Your post just scared the sh** out of me.  I feel this way some times with one! 

magnoliablossom00

RA1109:

Everyone is different.  My kids are 6 months and 2.5 and I'm still waiting for it to get hard.  My kids are so easy, and I SAH with them too.  I'm lucky!

Thank you for saying this. I need some hope to cling to! This pregnancy was not planned, and was terrifying at first. I keep saying, "It will be ok. We will survive." If I didn't, I'm not sure I could handle it.