Sex Talk Monday

Syncronicity09

What is your opinion on pornography?

Do you watch it?

Does your husband watch it?

Has your opinion changed over time? Or have you always felt this way?

vigurl

I have watched it about 3x in my life.

No I do not currently watch it.

As far as I know DH does not watch it.  He knows I do not mind if he does.

No unless DH gets addicted to it then no my opinion has not and will not change.

MommaA117

I don't like or dislike it. At one point in time we would occasionally watch together. so yes, I have watched but not in a while. I'm sure he does here and there. I don't care. my opinion has not changed.

march2008

Neither of us watch it. I saw it before during my college years and I thought it was way too raunchy.

baseballcr8zd

Ummm I'm definitely in the minority here but I watch it. I'm ridiculously horny and DH threw his back out so whatever. It obviously doesn't bother me. I know DH watches too and that's fine. We used to watched together but he put a stop to that bc I would commentate the whole time. 

Sunidaze

I'm fine with it.

I do watch on occasion.  By myself - DH is on thirds.  However, it does get a little boring after a while.

I'm fine with him watching it...although I'd prefer that he not leave the DVD in the player when he's done.

I never really had a negative opinion about it.  I know my parents used to watch it frequently - with my aunt and uncle (of course looking back now...that was probably a little weird).  Us kids were always relegated to the bedroom when they were watching.

MammaBear81

What is your opinion on pornography? There is such a wide range that I can't give a blanket statement.  There is some messed up nasty stuff out there, but (IMO) there is some "good" stuff out there as well.

Do you watch it? Yes (only with DH)

Does your husband watch it? Yes (with and without me)

Has your opinion changed over time? Or have you always felt this way?  When I was much younger I thought it was gross, and to some extent I think a lot of it is, but DH and I have found a few select "genres" for lack of a better term that we can enjoy together.

MammaBear81

baseballcr8zd:

Ummm I'm definitely in the minority here but I watch it. I'm ridiculously horny and DH threw his back out so whatever. It obviously doesn't bother me. I know DH watches too and that's fine. We used to watched together but he put a stop to that bc I would commentate the whole time. 

I do this sometimes (more like A LOT), Me, "That girl has a cute butterfly tattoo on her ankle",  DH "Really, that's not what I am focusing on!" I'm OCD, so I notice when they cut the scene etc, but DH thinks it's hysterical that I notice stuff like that when there is so much "action" going on, so it's OK..

Sunidaze

MammaBear81:

baseballcr8zd:

Ummm I'm definitely in the minority here but I watch it. I'm ridiculously horny and DH threw his back out so whatever. It obviously doesn't bother me. I know DH watches too and that's fine. We used to watched together but he put a stop to that bc I would commentate the whole time. 

I do this sometimes (more like A LOT), Me, "That girl has a cute butterfly tattoo on her ankle",  DH "Really, that's not what I am focusing on!" I'm OCD, so I notice when they cut the scene etc, but DH thinks it's hysterical that I notice stuff like that when there is so much "action" going on, so it's OK..

I always notice the bad boob jobs...they seem to run rampant in the porn industry.

baseballcr8zd

Sunidaze:

MammaBear81:

baseballcr8zd:

Ummm I'm definitely in the minority here but I watch it. I'm ridiculously horny and DH threw his back out so whatever. It obviously doesn't bother me. I know DH watches too and that's fine. We used to watched together but he put a stop to that bc I would commentate the whole time. 

I do this sometimes (more like A LOT), Me, "That girl has a cute butterfly tattoo on her ankle",  DH "Really, that's not what I am focusing on!" I'm OCD, so I notice when they cut the scene etc, but DH thinks it's hysterical that I notice stuff like that when there is so much "action" going on, so it's OK..

I always notice the bad boob jobs...they seem to run rampant in the porn industry.

They are so hard not to notice. I can't help but laugh when I see the incision scar or the ripples it really cracks me up!!  

LollyBug18

Pretty sure I'm in the REAL minority here because it is not okay with me or DH in the least. In our relationship, it is the same as actually going out and having an affair with someone and it saddens me to know how large the porn industry really is. I have always felt this way (well, since I was old enough to have an opinion on the topic...) and always will.

magnoliablossom00

LollyBug18:

Pretty sure I'm in the REAL minority here because it is not okay with me or DH in the least. In our relationship, it is the same as actually going out and having an affair with someone and it saddens me to know how large the porn industry really is. I have always felt this way (well, since I was old enough to have an opinion on the topic...) and always will.

Used to not bother me when I was younger, then my bf (dh now) got really serious and started talking about marriage. I then found out my DH (bf at the time) was doing it allllll the time (college) and I asked him not to. Caught him doing it and lying. Twice. BIG issue now (7 years later). He knows that I view it as cheating and as being sneaky. I do not want my husband seeing other women naked, the same way he doesnt want me seeing other men naked.

I don't think its a big deal when people are dating casually, but I do know that sometimes it can cause fights in marriages, so unless both partners actively know and understand the situation, I don;t think its a good idea. However, if it has been talked about and understood, I dont see a problem. I just dont want it around my dh.

MammaBear81

magnoliablossom00:

LollyBug18:

Pretty sure I'm in the REAL minority here because it is not okay with me or DH in the least. In our relationship, it is the same as actually going out and having an affair with someone and it saddens me to know how large the porn industry really is. I have always felt this way (well, since I was old enough to have an opinion on the topic...) and always will.

Used to not bother me when I was younger, then my bf (dh now) got really serious and started talking about marriage. I then found out my DH (bf at the time) was doing it allllll the time (college) and I asked him not to. Caught him doing it and lying. Twice. BIG issue now (7 years later). He knows that I view it as cheating and as being sneaky. I do not want my husband seeing other women naked, the same way he doesnt want me seeing other men naked.

I don't think its a big deal when people are dating casually, but I do know that sometimes it can cause fights in marriages, so unless both partners actively know and understand the situation, I don;t think its a good idea. However, if it has been talked about and understood, I dont see a problem. I just dont want it around my dh.

I agree with this.  DH and I are fine with it, but I have a few friends that aren't, yet their DH's watch anyway.  I find that very disrespectful, and I wouldn't want to be part of a relationship that was that way.