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How do you know where you belong?

CEOwifeCEOwife member
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I know that since we lost Isaac I have been hanging around here but the support group post got me thinking...where do I belong?  What is a late loss vs. early loss? Do I "belong" in loss or the Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss board?  I don't want to offend anyone based on the time in my pregnancy in which we lost our sweet boy.
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Re: How do you know where you belong?

  • figgs0831figgs0831 member

    Well, if you don't belong here... then I don't either.  My thought was that this board was for all losses after 1st trimester, infants and child. I've been posting here since Octoberish and no one has kicked me out yet! 

    Prior to this boards existance, I did post in the MC/PL group, but it was not helpful at all.  Most of the ladies there have completely different experiences and could not relate.

    In my opinion... this is where you belong. Smile

     Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012

     After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows

    ((BFP 7/29/13))  ((EDD 4/12/14))  It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!

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  • Petunia844Petunia844 member
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    In my opinion... this is where you belong. Smile

    Yes 

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    Married the love of my life 7/11/09 - Our first baby, Peyton Mark, was born sleeping 10/25/11 at 33 weeks - Our second baby, BFP 2/4/12, welcome to the world Raylan! Holy Moly, BPF 2/4/14, please be safe and sound little one!

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  • Bayberry12Bayberry12 member

    Oh sweetie... you "belong" where ever you feel most comfortable.  I didn't mean to make anyone question themselves with that post. Having spent some time on the miscarriage board in the past, I agree that those ladies have and are going through a completely different experience.  It seems like every "gets" each other here.

    The support here is amazing.   

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    BFP #1 Jan. 2011 - mmc Mar. 2011 
    BFP #2 Aug. 2011 - My sleeping angel Stella, born April 21, 2012 
    BFP #3 Nov. 2012 - mmc Dec. 2012
    BFP #4 April 2013 - mc May 2013
    BFP #5 Sept. 2013 - EDD 5.24.14
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  • BootsOrHeartsBootsOrHearts member
    I do lurk on the mc/pl board but I find more support here. Not that miscarriage is in any way easy for anyone, no matter when it is, but I find I can relate more to the ladies here who mostly have delivered a child at some stage of development. It's a totally different story when you've seen and/or held your child and had to say good-bye. Not any more or less sad than an early loss, but completely different.
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    BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
    BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
    BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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  • CEOwifeCEOwife member
    Thanks girls! I guess it was more to make sure that this is where I belonged and did not offend anyone by my staying here. I feel I can connect and related better on this board than the earlier loss. 
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  • JessicaRobbJessicaRobb member
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    In my opinion... this is where you belong. Smile

    Yes 

    Yup! 

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  • philfemgalphilfemgal member
    I also had what I guess is a late loss on the early side--only 18.5 weeks.  But I have always found from lurking for months that I can relate better to both the physical stuff and the emotional side of things that are discussed here better than the Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss board.  (But I also have often felt unsure of where I ought to be and whether I was intruding.)
    BFP #1 9/21/11. EDD 6/4/12.  Twins discovered at 8 weeks. Twin B lost at 14 weeks due to megacystis.  Alice Joe born and lost 1/5/12 at 18.5 weeks due to pre-term labor.

    BFP #2 7/11/12.  EDD 3/23/13.  Ada Alice born 3/20/13.

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  • pottermommypottermommy member

    I have had a m/c and a child loss, you belong here with us. 

    I know the devestation of both but it is different, and you will find alot of answers to your questions and understanding of how deep and intense those emotions are.

    After a late loss, child/ infant loss TTCAL and PGAL and PAL are all completely different, you have different valid feeling and I think you belong here.

     

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  • nuttycoconutnuttycoconut member
    You belong here!
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    IVF #1 BFP b/g twins!; loss at 23 weeks due to I.C. and PTL. IVF #2 BFP 5/26/12; due date 2/6/13; TAC surgery 7/20/12, blessed with another girl & boy! 

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    You belong where you feel comfortable, and I hope you feel comfortable here with us.  (((HUGS)))
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
    Too beautiful for this earth
    BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
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  • ally2011ally2011 member

    You belong here.  We are all here for you.

    Hugs,
    Jenn 

    We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013.  We love her to pieces.  

    We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011.  She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.


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  • sloannmarksloannmark member
    I wondered the same thing for myself...and am glad to see the responses on this post. In the short amount of time I've been on this board, I find the most connection. Even though 17 weeks is much earlier than many of you, I delivered my babies and held one in my arms. I also picked up their ashes yesterday... So difficult. 

    Severe endo & fibroids, IVF #1 BFP with twins, Gabriel Mark (5/20/12) & Zachary David (5/24/12)- said goodbye to my two angels at 17 weeks due to pprom. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    IVF#2 FET 9/24, Beta #1 10/3...

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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member

    You belong here

    ::holds on tight so you can't try to leave us::

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