Keeping tradition in the family?

ttyson2808

My fianc?'s birth name is Forest John Gilbert III... Everyone calls him Trae... I am really not wanting to keep the name going if we have a boy.  There aren't a lot of nick names I like for this name, and to be honest, I think the name is awful.  I suggested maybe using part of it, like John as a middle name.  Fiance is happy with this idea, but his family is NOT.  Not really sure what to do.  Suggestions?

strawberrytree

Well, it's your baby (and your fiance's). If the compromise makes you both happy, do it. His family already had a chance to pick baby names. They don't get a say. 

PunkyBooster

ttyson2808:

My fianc?'s birth name is Forest John Gilbert III... Everyone calls him Trae... I am really not wanting to keep the name going if we have a boy.  There aren't a lot of nick names I like for this name, and to be honest, I think the name is awful.  I suggested maybe using part of it, like John as a middle name.  Fiance is happy with this idea, but his family is NOT.  Not really sure what to do.  Suggestions?

LOL
I wasn't going to say anything....

His family has nothing to do with this. This is between you and your FI. If he is fine using John as the middle name, then you can both choose a first name you much prefer. 

I would stop discussing this topic with his family and simply say the 2 of you are still discussing names. 

BUT if you change your mind, you could call him Jack as a nn for the John. 

brookelynpaisley

It's up to you and your fiance, not his family. They chose to name him a family name, but you don't have to, though I like that you're open to keeping part of it. Maybe you could use something similar to Forest (that spelling looks wrong to me, reason #2 not to use it) or an F name.

Felix

Farley

Fenton

Finlay/Finn/Finnegan

Fletcher

Flemming

Ford

Foster

Franklin

 

 

 

 

LoCarb

Maybe you'll have a girl and won't have to stress about this just yet

Your child's name is btwn your and your FI. Leave the rest of the family out of it. They should love your LO regardless of a name.

SLHurst11

I have a pregnant friend whose husband's name is Gordon III.  We asked if there would be a Gordy IV if they had a boy, and they've already both decided to buck the tradition and pick a name they both like.

Feel free to choose something you like, and scrap the tradition.

plunderb

I agree w/ everyone ? now is a great time to establish patterns of interaction with your in-laws. Tell them that you love them and appreciate their concern, but that you and your SO will make parenting decisions according to your own values.

TofuMama7

As long as you and your fianc? agree, I wouldn't worry too much, your opinions are the only ones that really matter. Once his family meets the baby they will fall in love with him/her and not freak out so much about the name.

I also wouldn't bring this up around them at all until you know the baby is a boy, if it's a girl there's no reason to stir things up.

lily_721

SS1 is named after his father (DH), grandfather, great-uncle, cousin, etc -- every other person has a version of this name.  He said his is the 40th "J" in the family.  Not in a happy way.  SS2 has his own name and is very happy about it.

jburdet1

If you and FI decided to buck tradition then I think family has no further say. I agree that they named their children, so you can name your children. I wouldn't question your decision because of family pressure.

With that said, I kinda like the name I went to high school with a guy that was a 4th and his nn was Quarter.

ilenegrace

Your baby= Your choice!

ZoeMay06

My DH's family has a similar tradition. His dad is the 3rd, and when DH was born his mom and dad decided to give him the first name but not the middle name. He still considers himself the 4th, and if we have a boy he'll be the 5th but will also have a different middle name. I agree that you and your hubby get to make the ultimate call, and that a compromise could give everyone a little bit of what they want.