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potatohead
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after several m/c, DD#1 born 7-7-08, more m/c and failed IVF, started adoption process March 2011, matched Oct 2, 2012, DD#2 born 10-31-12
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What were you doing when you got "the call"?
potatohead
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So, what were you doing when you got "the call"? It hasn't happened for us yet, but as I wait, I daydream about what I will be doing when it happens. It is so difficult to be patient and wait, so I need to hear some of your stories! Tell me about the call that changed your life!
after several m/c, DD#1 born 7-7-08, more m/c and failed IVF, started adoption process March 2011, matched Oct 2, 2012, DD#2 born 10-31-12
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Re: What were you doing when you got "the call"?
Love looking back....
For DD1, I was at work at my desk. It was early afternoon and my cell phone rang. It never rings.... I am not a cell phone gal
I saw it was a friend from my adoption circle but never dreamt it was "the call".
DH is a teacher and can't take calls during work. I started emailing him frantically hoping he'd read it because this was a situation that we needed to move on quickly.
I have the string of emails saved... it's fun to look back. He really thought this was just another "maybe"... and I kept screaming at him that it was the real deal.
Even when he got home from work that day, he didn't get that it was the real thing. I can remember him simply talking about normal stuff... not OMG.... we are going to be parents on Monday
With DD2, I was in the car and had to pull over. Just as exciting but different
Amy, I love hearing the story of how you found your way to Ben. It always makes me smile.
As for us, we got an email asking if we were open to a situation. I am a teacher and was at work trying to work on an IEP. That kind of took away my focus. ;-)
It was several weeks before we officially matched.
I had gone to Chicago with my friend for a couple of days in June 2009. We were flying home on Saturday. The news was covering the deaths of Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett. We were watching it in our hotel room and getting ready to go out for the evening. My husband called and told me that we had had a call about a 'situation' from a caseworker. I made him call our voicemail again and tell me word-for-word what was said; I think I called it, too! I was so excited -- I remember saying "This is THE call!" He tried calling them back but it was too late in the day; the office was closed. We had to wait ALL weekend long until Monday morning to find out more!! Talk about torture
We were thrilled to hear that our daughter's birthmom had picked us and was due in September.
I got the call on my birthday! Great present to us:) I was sitting in the movie theater vwatching "The Help". It was the best birthday I have ever had!
The first one came when I was driving home from work. I had been emailing about it all day long so it wasn't a surprise and was pretty anti-climatic.
The second time was a total surprise. I have this OCD thing about mailing my holiday cards the day after thanksgiving. So, I had gotten my 2 kids up early, brought our holiday cards to the post office, then we stopped at starbucks for breakfast. Just as we pulled in and parked the car I got the call (well, really the voicemail since I didnt recognize the number and let it go to v/m!). Once I called back, got all the placemetn details, and let my nerves calm (relatively speaking), I cursed myself for being so crazy about the holiday cards because there should have been another person in the photo!! lol.
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i was at my desk at work when the agency called and told me that we were chosen and the baby would be born in a month. i had to contain myself, as i was at work.
i remember sharing the news with my husband, first, of course, and then telling the grandparents and aunt/uncles/nieces. everyone was super thrilled,
it was a dream come true...finally!....
i hope you get the call in the very near future!...
This is a great post! We are waiting for "the call" and keep thinking it might come right now! So then I second guess if I should make plans because you know we might have a kid tonight! Ha!
We have received 3 placement calls, which we have declined due to the situations. All three came while I was at work in the afternoon.
I was in a useless, time-suck meeting and missed every attempt our SW made to contact me. Instead she got DH on the first ring of the phone.
I got back to my desk and heard my phone ringing. Totally ignored it. Opened my e-mail and had one from DH that said, "Call me, we got placed. It's an emergency."
We took DD home the next day
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I was at work around 11am making travel plans with a colleague to audit a vendor when my cell rang. It was my husband on the cell, so I took it while I put my colleague on hold. J tells us we got matched with a baby born that day in KY and did we want him? It was an emergency placement and we had to be in KY by the next morning to pick him up from the hospital. I kind of hung up on my hunsband, told him I'd call him right back (I think I was in shock!), got back with my colleague, let him know what was happening and told him I wouldn't be travelling with him because I was going to KY!
I called my husband back and he forwarded me some details to look at and we decided to go for it.
And of course, I got absolutely nothing done for the next hour or so I spent at work because I couldn't focus
Then we travelled on a red-eye to KY and met our son
We stayed about 10 days in KY.
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after several m/c, DD#1 born 7-7-08, more m/c and failed IVF, started adoption process March 2011, matched Oct 2, 2012, DD#2 born 10-31-12
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We got the call around 9:00pm. I was at home watching TV, and DH was in the other room on the computer. I almost didn't answer the phone because it was late and I didn't recognize the number at first. I was in total shock, and could barely speak when she said we had been picked by a BM. She started telling me details about the BM and I said "wait, are you seriouis?" and she said yes. I told her to hang on I had to tell DH. So I ran into the room in tears. He immediately asked what was wrong, and I told him our caseworker was on the phone and we'd been matched! We'd waited so long to hear those words, I can't even describe how happy I was.
And now I sit here typing this with a squirmy little boy in my arms who was definitely worth the wait.
We knew we were being shown to a BM on a Monday. Usually by the end of the day, we would have heard one way or the other. No call. I called our SW when I got home and she said because of the weather (January '11 midwest snow storms), the agency was closed, so the BM didn't look at profiles but she would let me know when they schedule the meeting with her again. SW called me Wednesday at about 10:30, I was sitting at my desk at work. I thought she was going to tell me when the next meeting was set for.
Instead she said that BM and her parents were at the agency door first thing in the morning, so they showed her profiles and she chose us!
I immediately started crying. My coworker called another friend in and we all cried about it together. I tried calling DH, but he was working the midnight shift, so he was sound asleep. My coworkers told me to take an early lunch and run home, which I did. I ran upstairs and just started shaking him and saying his name. He thought something bad happened because I was crying. I just kept saying "She picked us, She picked us! We're going to be parents!" He was in complete shock, and we just kept hugging.
We met BM and her parents two days later for dinner, on DH's 30th birthday. BM had contractions all through dinner. DD was born 3 weeks later.
for us, it was on a friday last august. DH was working from home, and i was off for the summer ( i work at a school).
I was out to lunch and shopping with my friend (who is also a teacher) and we had a great day/afternoon. we got into the car (she was driving) and i took my phone out of my purse to check it. i had 3 missed calls from DH, and a text.
I knew it was something big, because he never calls me that many times in a row haha so i called him back while my friend was driving us home. he said "um... kay (our SW) called..." and i just kind of said "ok..... whats up?" and he's like "she emailed us some pictures...." (we're adopting from Korea and our son was 8 months old when we were matched with him, so we got a bunch of pictures and background info).
i freaked out!! :-) i didn't start crying... but more nervous and shaking. i have an iphone so i asked DH to forward me the email... but of course the pictures wouldn't load on the phone :-( i couldn' WAIT to get home and see the pictures :-)
it KILLS me to tell this story, though because it was almost a year ago, and he STILL isn't home with us :-( ( gotta love politics!!) we're hoping to get some news soon- we better, or i think i'll go nuts!!
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I just love reading all these posts!
I was at work. The agency called me on my work phone. I normally answer the phone, but I was on the other line and my co-worker beside me answered. I hung up and she just looked at me and said this is the adoption agency calling you. My heart just about jumped out of my chest because they never call. She told me we had been chosen by a b-mom. By the time she finished telling me all that she had to say even the girls downstairs were calling up asking what was going on. I was crying and laughing so much, as were the girls around me. As soon as I could compose myself I called DH. He as his best friend were in a hunting store and they both ended up going to different corners crying. He told me "You just don't tell me something like that while I am in a hunting store!!!"
These are always so great to read.
We actually received the call 4 weeks ago. It had been an up/down week for me and I remember doing a lot of praying asking God for patience. My husband and I had just arrived at a military fun day event and I felt my phone vibrate in my pocket. I glimpsed at it and saw that it was the agency, but figured it was to ask a simple question. I was by a loud speaker so I couldn't hear the person on the other line. I told her I was going to move away from the noise and to please hold on. She introduced herself and told me she was the expectant mom specialist and that we had been chosen. I was in shock and filled with so many happy emotions. My husband was a little confused, but figured it out when he saw me smile and heard the word "baby". She asked if we wanted to know the sex of the baby and of course I said "YES"! It's a little boy and he is due in 1 month. I will always remember that day. Now we anxiously await his arrival next month. We are so blessed to have his mom in our lives. She is wonderful! We immediately went home to look at the information.
I LOVE this thread. So many happy stories!!!
I was home alone waiting for a shipment of wine believe it or not... My DH had left for Milwaukee at 3 that morning for a 5AM flight so I was laying around the house when our SW called at 2PM asking me if we wanted to be shown. A baby girl was born that morning and the BP's were making an adoption plan from the hospital. The only reason he called to ask us if we wanted to be shown was b/c the BP's had chosen a name for her and we had to agree to keep that name if we wanted to be considered.
I called my DH frantically and after a few back and forth discussions we almost passed on the situation b/c we didn't know how he would get home in time before she was released from the hospital. When I called our SW back to say 'no thank you' I started crying, I knew we couldn't pass on this, I just knew she would be our little girl.
So I called my DH again and we talked some more, he agreed that we should go for it. At 3:30 I said yes to our SW, at 4:30 the SW at the hospital showed our profile and 10 others, at 5:15 I got 'the call'!!!
Somehow my DH made it home the next morning at 2AM by flying from Green Bay through Chicago and got home after he had left for the airport 23 hours earlier. Needless to say we didn't sleep much, we were up by 8AM waiting to find out when the paperwork would be ready so we could meet at the hospital (only 1 hour away thank goodness) and see our little girl.
My husband just changed phones so he no longer has the 'callmecallmecallme nownownownow' message saved but we will never forget that day!!!
I remember you posting about the initial phone calls, and you had no idea what to expect. I love reading it all together like this.
I know I'm late to the party, but I loved reading everyone else's stories so much that I'll share ours.
DH was out of town for training, and our agency had an available situation. After getting the details and talking to DH, we decided that we wanted to be considered. When I told the CW to put us in, I asked how many prospective families there were. She told me that we were number 33 "so far." Gah! I didn't give it another thought after that. About a week later, the CW called and said that the BPs wanted a conference call with me and DH. I asked her if this was a good thing, and she said it wasn't bad news.
I got cautiously excited and stared stressing about what we would say to convince these people that we should parent their baby. We also had a hard time setting up a time'date for the call since DH was out of town. I was going to visit him, so we set up the call for the day I got there so that we could be in the same place on the same phone. I did a lot of digging and found an office where DH was that would let us use a room and speaker phone for an hour that day. I asked a lot of favors from strangers, and it looked like it was going to work out.
A few days beofre I left, the CW called back and said they really wanted to do the call on Sunday instead. Sunday was Mother's Day and the day I was flying out to see DH. I really didn't want to do it on Mother's Day (it had become a bad day for me), I really wanted to be with DH so we could get our "game plan" together, and I really didn't want to miss my flight if the call went long. We agreed to the call anyway, because I didn't want to turn them off.
When the CW called, she put the BPs on the line, and DD's BM said, "We just wanted to call and wish you a happy Mother's Day - you're going to be a mom!" I was floored, and DH was too. There was a little bit more conversation that I don't remember, and then we hung up. The CW called us back to talk about details, and my cab to the airport arrived. When I finally got checked in at the airport, I sat waiting for my flight crying like a baby and making phone calls. It was such a crazy day, and I remember it like it was yesterday.
Three weeks later, DD was born. Those three weeks were the craziest in my life, but so much fun. I was out of town for half of it, so we really had the scramble to get ready when I got home.
Mother's Day is now one of my favorite holidays, and I think DD's BM was so sweet for choosing to tell us then. Even though it was a lot of added stress for us, I really admire her selflessness for trying to make it a happy day for me when it was probably painful for her.
I've loved reading all your posts. Thank you for sharing your stories!
We haven't gotten our call yet, so reading about the precious light at the end of the tunnel is wonderful. I had tears in my eyes through all these posts!!!!
One thing I am glad about though is that we are not being told every time we are shown. We gave our CW some parameters and they show us to anything within. I think it would be too hard to know how often we weren't picked.
Big hugs to all others out there who are still waiting for their children to arrive!