things I wish I had thought to say

lrichmond86 · June 2012

I NEVER seem to have the right response to peoples stupid comments until 20 minutes after they say them!

This afternoon before a staff meeting I was telling one of my coworkers about the Fathers Day gift that I got for DH and another coworker chimed in, "He's a father? Does he even have any kids?" I was so surprised and mortified by her insensitive comment I looked at her for a little while and then responded, "Of course he does. We had the baby." which she just kind of brushed off (I think she was embarrassed).

As I fumed about it over the car ride home I thought about what I SHOULD have said to her had I not been so caught off guard. Here's what I came up with... "My husband is a father in the same way that I'm a mother. I was in labor for 15 hours. I delivered my son. I held him and I kissed him and I named him. And then we had to buy him a casket and bury him. It feels no different than it would for you if, god forbid, one of your children passed away. My husband has every right to be honored on Fathers Day because he did more for our son in the short time that we had him than many fathers do throughout their child's life."

Why don't I ever think of these gems when I'm in the heat of the moment? People are really getting to me lately...

tubbsy32 · June 2012

Go back and tell her tomorrow at work. At least let her learn from her stupidity. But, UGH! I'm sorry that even happened to you. What the hell is wrong with people?!?!

pottermommy · June 2012

Ugh what a douche canou. I don't even think I could have thought of a word to say.

jbranden12 · June 2012

I'm sorry

. I wish more people would think before they speak. Although that won't help people who are just stupid.

medblais · June 2012

I think you should get kudos for not hitting her. I don't know if I would have been able to restrain myself. She should have been embarrassed with such a comment, and she should feel horrible about it and apologize to you tomorrow after she lot sleep over it. Sorry you have to deal with her.

figgs0831 · June 2012

medblais:
I think you should get kudos for not hitting her. I don't know if I would have been able to restrain myself. She should have been embarrassed with such a comment, and she should feel horrible about it and apologize to you tomorrow after she lot sleep over it. Sorry you have to deal with her.

I could not have said this better. I think she owes you an apology too.

tuscanbride2007 · June 2012

I have the same problem in that I can never think of those great comments until after the fact. I really wish there was a pause button in life so that I can get a moment and think of the perfect comeback.

I'm sorry you had to deal with such an a$$hat.

mollywobbles13 · June 2012

I agree that something should be said to her. If she doesn't learn how insenstive that comment was she may make a similar comment to someone else in the same or similar situation. Write her an email or talk to her and tell her that she should try to think of what she's about to say before she says it.

nuttycoconut · June 2012

How dispicable! I want you to go back and tell her off too. I've been in so many situations like this in which I'm just stunned into silence by peoples' stupidity!