Getting ready to TTC - but obstacles to overcome first!

Michelle N

My husband-to-be and I are planning to start trying in about a year. I have been looking forward to having children for as long as I can remember, but there is one problem. In this vision, it's always a girl. And that might sound immature, but I have my reasons.

First, my mother and I are incredibly close. We talk on the phone every day (and often, a couple times). She will be my MOH next month when we get married. My sister is also very close with my mom. But my brother couldn't be more distant -  even though they get along fine, he can go forever without talking to her. And this is my problem. I want a daughter, because I want a relationship with my child beyond school-aged. And I know, there are men that are plenty close to their mothers, and women who aren't. But it's a fear I have, and I am just not sure how to deal with it. I am so scared to only have sons. My spouse's mother had two boys and one girl - and she is clearly closer to the girl, I think it's just the way it is. I don't really know how to write this out without writing pages and pages. I guess I just need some advice for how to get over this fear! (And again, I do know that I will love any child I have. I understand that the relationship I have with my mother isn't garunteed if I have a daughter, and maybe my son and I will be that close..)

 

khowell16

I can understand what you are saying because of the way you described it, but for me I have always wanted 2 boys first then a girl.  I know what a rebel I was, so I'd like to have sons first so they can help keep their sister in line.  I also know how overprotective my parents were so I don't want to be like that, and I think having a boy first will help keep me from being that way.  

 

Anyway - I totally understand what you are saying.  Enjoy your wedding, enjoy your husband, and then baby will come