i hate my ex-husband

bdbelladonna

it doesn't matter to him what the kids want. He sees them three days a year by his own choice. He doesn't even call them or ask how their dr appointments or speech pathology appointments go. He (imo) just doesn't care.

It breaks my heart when they ask about him because I don't know what to say. I recently got remarried and they kids love my DH to peices to the point that my 4 year has told me, my DH, and his father he wants to change his name. It's so cute, but also something that I know his father will never allow. I wish he would just drop off the face of the planet.

MarSamWhitney

He see's them 3 days a year...why on earth doesn't he just sign his rights over!?  Jeez oh petes!!

bdbelladonna

i have no idea. he sees them so little that it makes no sense to me. letting my DH adopt them he would save himself almost $1000/month in child support and benefits.

it's not even that i want him to sign over his rights (not that i'd complain if he did) but i just want him to put what the kids want and what is best for them first. there is only one member from his family that actually asks me how the kids are doing, and that is his great aunt who only met the kids 4 or 5 times and lives 9 hours away. She knows more about the kids then he does, which is just so stupid.

RealFloF9

Ugh. He sounds like a douche. 

bdbelladonna

atleast shes almost old enough to change it on her own. I know where I live at 16 they can change their name without his consent, its just along way away.

it probably is a control issue though. i just wish he would grow up and realize that the kids are not a possession to be controlled though.

JonesBaby0624

I understand where you are coming from my ex-husband is the same way and I am sure it is a control thing.  My boyfriend's BM left him when he was 7 months old and he was raised by a wonderful mom but he still (at 27) tries to figure out why she didn't want him and what was unlovable about him.  The problem is, as children they never understand what happened.   I wish mine would fall off the planet too but I know it would be better for my son for his dad to care.