Father's day

lrichmond86

It's coming up REALLY quickly and I STILL don't know exactly what I want to do for DH!  We're on a pretty rigid budget having just purchased the new house and I know he'd be upset if I spent too much on him.  I know he would appreciate something in memorial of baby Gary, but I have NO ideas.  Also, we'll be coming home from a weekend in ME to celebrate our first anniversary that day.  What can I do that's more than a card, not too expensive, and still honors our son in a meaningful way?  Discuss

Petunia844

I got DH a little key chain, he's not a jewelry man but I wanted to give him something he'd always have with him.  I found it on etsy, just a circle that has "Peyton & Raylan" on one side and our initials and wedding date on the back.  It was only like $10, but I think he'll really like it. 

nuttycoconut

I stole this idea from someone - maybe Careyalis? I got my DH sterling silver collar stays. I had them engraved. One says Max, the other says Molly He isn't a jewelry guy either, so I thought this would be discreet but meaningful. I found them in a mom and pop shop that does engraving.

 

eta: Mine were NOT cheap because of the town I bought them in, but I think you can find some on etsy for a bit cheaper?

pottermommy

I got DH a wallet that had her name engraved on the inside that first father's day after.

cherrycobbler

What about a plant for your new house?  A rose or butterfly bush?  Maybe that's too girly.  My dh likes to garden though so he would like it.

mollywobbles13

I secretly ordered a birth certificate... well kind of. California has a Still Birth certificate. DH was so excited when I first found out about it. I told him that I wasn't ready to order it and would let him know when that time came. I ordered it and hope it comes SOON. Even if it's well before Father's Day I don't care. I just want to see his face when we get it!

lrichmond86

I like the plant idea, but we're already planning on putting in a memorial garden and it's kind of "my" thing... I would feel too much like I was getting a gift for myself lol.  I'm going to look at some wallets and money clips and see if I can't find one.  Thanks, ladies!  I can always count on you!

pottermommy

ahaverkamp:

I secretly ordered a birth certificate... well kind of. California has a Still Birth certificate. DH was so excited when I first found out about it. I told him that I wasn't ready to order it and would let him know when that time came. I ordered it and hope it comes SOON. Even if it's well before Father's Day I don't care. I just want to see his face when we get it!

Did you know you can take it to added touch or things remembered and they will copy it onto like a gold filigree (SP) or something similar it will never fade or wrinkle.

(we did this to Kam's birth certificate)

lrichmond86

What do we think of this?  DH is a Jr. and, as you know, baby Gary was the III.  I would put DH full name and birth date on the bigger of the dog tags and baby Gary's on the smaller one.  Yay or nay?

https://www.thingsremembered.com/product/Occasions/Fathers-Day/Top-10-Gifts-for-Dad/Gunmetal-Double-Dog-Tag-Vertical/pc/101/c/2566/sc/3009/156981.uts?shipLocation=TR#

 

pottermommy

I think he would love it!

whiteroses05

I think the dog tags are a great idea or even the keychain!! Both good ideas!!

ClaudiaStar21

*****ticker warning*****

 

 

 

 I ordered a picture frame with a poem inside  for fathers day and when I read the poem I thought of my friend's sons that she lost to ptl.  I cried because I thought it was a sweet poem that I imagine her dh saying to his sons. I tried to order her some but they were sold out. I scanned the poem and made her copies. I can email anyone who wants the file. You'd need to cut out a picture to cover the sample one cause it's a scan and not the original with the cutout already. Email me at NatashaAllison@gmail.com if you'd like it. 

 Daddy's heart

When I heard the news of you,
I did the things most Daddies do.
I opened up my heart so wide,
For you to have a place inside.

As each day passed, I'd think of you,
I'd watch you grow, I was expecting too!

I tried to imagine the person you'd be
Would you look or act like me?
I thought of the things that we would do,
The times we'd share, just us two.

I would hold your hand in mine,
Be your protector, strong yet kind.
I would be your hero and friend,
Give love and advice on which you'd depend.

I will always remember the day you were born,
I cradled a miracle, small and warm.
What words I had were scarce and few,
A tear and a smile were the best I could do.

Life gave me a moment, precious and rare,
Bursting with pride, excitement and care.
I promised you then, all that I had,
See, you were my child and I was your Dad.

When I heard the news of you,
I did the things most Daddies do.
I opened my heart so wide,
Where you will always have a place inside.

 

mollywobbles13

Pottermommy, I had no clue, but I will have to look into that. I've just been so excited to get it I haven't gotten past that. Thank you so much for the idea!

ally2011

Etsy might have something....you can search for baby loss, infant loss, etc. and see what comes up.

I think it is sweet you are trying to make it special for him and I am sure he will appreciate whatever you come up with.

Last year I gave DH a frame with our family around us holding Grace (she was already gone).  That was kind of a fail.  He may appreciate having it in the long term, but it ended up being just way to depressing (we were only a little over a month out at the time).  I wanted to capture us as parents, but it made him cry.  A lot.  It was actually terrible.  Your ideas will go better!

Hugs,

Jenn 

FirstTimer02

Thank you!  These are beautiful :-)