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IrishCoffee7

I enjoy my eye candy, and an occasional fantasy.  No one close to me personally...the odd celeb or casual acquaintance (think UPS man).  What about you.  Do you have eyes only for DH/SO?

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mrebecca

It makes me feel bad to fantasize.

I'm a naughty girl

haha. 

Kitiara5512

Glad to see I am not the only hor on here I may have had confessions along those lines before.

IrishEyes0530

Nothing wrong with being a hor.

numeria11

IrishCoffee7:

mrebecca:

It makes me feel bad to fantasize.

I'm a naughty girl

haha. 

Ha.  My fantasizing is probably on par with your average high schooler.  I get past maybe second base and my mind has to switch to DH because I feel naughty.  It's just instinctive even if it's in my head.

Also I am curious about the "I could have a fling" people.  In a totally non-judgy way.  I think a lot of our inhibitions that way are cultural so I find it interesting.

 

Ok I'll be honest I debated between 1 and 2 (ended up going with the second).  I think honestly for me if I knew there would be no consequences (as in no hurt DH and now harm to our marriage, which I know obviously isn't going to happen) then yeah I probably would pick the first one. 

 I've been with DH almost 11 years and it's a long time to be with just one partner sexually.  I had multiple partners prior to him so I know that variety isn't always a bad thing.  I think we get into a rut sometimes and there are things I know he won't do/isn't comfortable with/capable of that I would like to try.  Without getting too detailed, I'm way taller than him 6'1 to his 5'6 so there are just certain things that physically don't work when the woman is taller/heavier than the man. 

All that said would I cheat no, do I fantasize umm yeah.

wife1014

Who said no? 

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scoutkate

I don't fantasize about "real life" people, even celebs.  If I fantasize, it's about fictional characters.  Even if they are characters from TV or movie, I'm specifically picturing the character, not the actor, if that makes sense.  and moe oftent hey are book characters.  I'm really THAT much of a nerd.

The exception is Pasha from SYTYCD.  I had an unprompted sex dream about him once that was so hot, I've had to revisit it a time or two.

Kitiara5512

numeria11:

All that said would I cheat no, do I fantasize umm yeah.

Its not cheating if he knoooowwwwss.

I know what you mean. We will be ::glances at ticker:: 11 years in less than two months. Before that we were together dating for almost two years, and have known each other, sexually and as friends, for 7 years before that. We have way different libidos. He is happy with once, maybe twice a week, and with C around that is usually the most I have the energy for. However, my ex was a several times a day guy (quantity, not so much on quality) so I was used to getting it every day and this has been very hard on me because I am not only not used to getting gratification as I want it, but sex is part of my self identity (I got skillz yo) and it feels like rejection some.

LuJackCity

I can't really stop myself from being attracted to other people. I wouldn't ever act on it but if I see someone attractive I see someone attractive.

wife1014

LuJackCity:

I can't really stop myself from being attracted to other people. I wouldn't ever act on it but if I see someone attractive I see someone attractive.

Right?!

So again, who the f said no?

ThePolishHammer

wife1014:

LuJackCity:

I can't really stop myself from being attracted to other people. I wouldn't ever act on it but if I see someone attractive I see someone attractive.

Right?!

So again, who the f said no?

Thats what I'm wondering. 

I can't just pretend good lucking men aren't good looking.  

LuJackCity

hiimpolish:

wife1014:

LuJackCity:

I can't really stop myself from being attracted to other people. I wouldn't ever act on it but if I see someone attractive I see someone attractive.

Right?!

So again, who the f said no?

Thats what I'm wondering. 

I can't just pretend good lucking men aren't good looking.  

I too want to know who said no. 

white318

I said SS... not because I do not find men other than my DH attractive... but because I don't notice people.  There could be a gorgeous man right next to me in line at the grocery store and unless he said something to me... I would never even really see him.  I have never realized when people checked me out... or really paid attention to what the people around me look like. 

But I have had amazing dreams about specific actors... and see nothing wrong with a little fantasy.  I don't think I would ever act on it though...I would be afraid that it would be disappointing (as sex w/ my DH is amazing) and I would feel guilty.

sleepingbeauty825

Haha, we hired a new girl at work a few weeks ago and I casually mentioned I wanted to see Magic Mike because I wanted to see Matthew McConaughey nekkid. She gave me the *dirtiest* look, and goes "that is DEE-GUST-ING. Aren't you married?! With KIDS!??!?!1"

So yeah, apparently it's disgusting to like attractive men. 

 

I was one that wavered between 1 & 2 and ultimately chose option 1, taking "no consequences" at face value. I mean, I'm pretty sure Ruby was conceived the same week I decided a threeway between myself, Ed Norton and Colin Firth as Darcy would be the hottest thing of life. I'm a fan of teh boyz.

sleepingbeauty825

And FTR if that ^^^ scenario were to ever occur IRL I can't be held responsible for my actions, consequences or no.

j_luvs_r

numeria11:

Ok I'll be honest I debated between 1 and 2 (ended up going with the second). 

Me too. I picked #2, but I'm still kind of bouncing back & forth.  If there were truly not going to be ANY consequences, I'm pretty sure I'd go for it.  But I sort of feel guilty even thinking that.

CupcakeKaper

DH knows exactly who I think is cute...and vice versa.  We actually talk about it rather frequently, and tease each other too.  He watches porn, so I don't think there's any reason I can't have fantasies of my own, right?  

klondikebar

I don't pay attention and just don't care. It's hard to explain, but I'm just oblivious and pretty much get irritated by people around me in public.

It's not like I think it's wrong for people to look. It's just bothersome to me.

 

Target 3pm...there's a cart blocking aisle 10.

Me: "I know DS, we are going to get your cereal if someone would MOVE their cart so KINDLY!"

:thinks to self that this guy is a jackass and stomps through:

Seconds later...women start screaming that Mr Hot & Famous Actor is in aisle 10.

 end scene

KoalaBear103

twatley:

If it's wrong to fantasize about sexy men, then I don't wanna be right.

My thoughts exactly.