Telling People

pinkmickey24

With Monday being beta day and a handful of people at work knowing about our IVF, but known of our family knowing I have had to consider how I am going to handle the inquiring minds. However, I figured out tonight that when I get to work in the morning I will tell those who know that we will not be telling anyone the results of whether we are or are not pregnant until later on because we feel that the news should first be shared with our family if we are. DH thinks they will figure we are if we don't say anything, but I feel by telling those who will ask first thing in the morning before the results come in in the afternoon there shouldn't be any question because they know we haven't tested early either. The way I see it is if they want to speculate let them. What do you ladies think?

 

DoublePortion

Have you told them you will get same day results? I would just say I'm waiting to hear back from the dr & that they didn't say when they were going to call.

ETA: I don't plan on telling anyone when beta day is. My clinic's lab opens at 7:30 so I'm going to go in early and then if I'm late I'll call my boss and tell her I overslept. 

Whales124

We ended up in the same position.  Oddly enough when push came to shove the people we work with everyday (DH and I work at the same school) knew a lot more about what was going on then our own families.  As guilty as I felt about it the reality was they know more about our comings and goings daily then our parents do.  We finally told our parents after our 2nd beta.  I wanted to wait longer but I was feeling super guilty about my parents being totally in the dark.  I say do whatever you think is best for you and hopefully the inquiring minds will keep their speculations to themselves and honor your wishes.  Good luck!

pinkmickey24

DoublePortion:

Have you told them you will get same day results? I would just say I'm waiting to hear back from the dr & that they didn't say when they were going to call.

ETA: I don't plan on telling anyone when beta day is. My clinic's lab opens at 7:30 so I'm going to go in early and then if I'm late I'll call my boss and tell her I overslept. 

Unfortunately, I did. At the time I was extremely excited to have made it as far as we have compared to the first cycle and they were all there for me when we failed to make it to ET. And they have been there for me through this entire cycle. I am pretty sure they will understand and respect my wishes. I guess I should have thought this through a little more earlier on. Oh well, it is what it is, right?n

fabulouspinkmady

When I make it to ET, I will have the same problem as many of my close co-workers will know. I'm also a horrible liar and have a hard time hiding my emotions! I was planning on taking beta day off to take time to deal with whatever emotions I will be going through and telling family, and then just being honest with my co-workers when I return. (I can't imagine going into work after a BFP and not smiling ridiculously all day!)

If you can pull it off, I think your idea of telling co-workers that you're waiting to tell family first is probably your best bet! GL!

 

Lacyj67

I regret telling some of the people i told.... Next round of ivf i will not be telling co workers and wont be telling anyone in the family other than my dad and sisters. This was just too hard and i will for sure be taking my next beta day off! Way too emtional!!

krissywave

For us, we didnt tell people we were doing the ivf.  Except for a few people at work because I had to come out the the field and placed on ligh duty.  So as far as we go we tried to hold off.