Little of this and that TCCAL mentioned

whiteroses05 · June 2012

So I starting to see some positives on the board which is nice to see. I am also sorry for our new moms who are join the board!! You have found a great group here!! This group of ladies have kept me sane through something I couldn't imagine going through without them.

I finally got our lo on the Christin Beach board!! So excited for this and can't wait to see how it turns out!! I am think about buying the picture to frame when it comes out and putting it with the blanket I got when I found out I was pregnant. Know just have to wait and see how it looks!! SO EXCITED!! Thank you ladies for sharing this with me!!

TTCAL MENTIONED: Don't want to offend anyone so tell me if I should take this down or post somewhere else.

I hope in the up coming months I can continue to stay here on this board!! This board out of all them has been the one I have found the most comfort in. As some of you can see by my tracker that we are planning on trying next month!! So which brings me to ask for your guidance. Even though I am excited about I am really nervous about it. I just remember how it was being pregnant the last time and how excited I was. Then it all came crashing down. On the other hand besides you ladies, the prospect of trying has been the only thing keeping me going!! Am I wrong for feeling this way?? Please again I am sorry if this is misplaced!! I just really value everyone on this board!!

lrichmond86 · June 2012

I feel the same way that you do... I've lurked on ttcal and pal, but it's the loss moms on this board that I can connect to the most. I think that as long as we put warnings in any posts that some might not be ready to read it's ok. Just my feelings on it, anyway.

medblais · June 2012

I'm glad you mention this, because I have had similar feelings. I have been posting some on TTCAL, but I find it hard to relate as most are MC losses. I don't want to take away from any loss or try to say what is harder, but I know that my loss is different, and it is hard for me to relate to an early MC as my daughter died in my arms at 37 day old. I feel so much more understood here. And more accepted.I'm scared of TTC and not finding it easy to relate to alot of the topics on that specific board. I haven't looked at PGAL as I am not really there yet.

johnnys june · June 2012

This post is in no way out of place here. Grief, TTCAL, PGAL, and Rainbow babies are all connected once you're in this club. Is there a TTCAL check in on here? If so I've missed it, but it might be a good idea. This board is full of very understanding women, and are very courteous/sensitive to the different stages everyone is in. We don't have rules, but everyone is respectful and posts warnings to be sensitive to the new loss moms. Don't feel like you can't post about TTC ever. As for TTCAL...I remember feeling the exact same way, but it fluctuated from day to day. My best advice, don't lose focus of yourself. It's easy to become obsessed with it all...as a lifeline so to speak. After a few months of trying (and being disappointed) I tried my best to make decision to do things for myself or even as a couple that didn't involve TTC. I also found that having as much information about what to expect with my care plan if/when I got pregnant again helped a ton. I never had full peace of mind, but it definitely helped. Good luck, lovies! I'll be lurking/stalking your TTC posts and I'm rooting for you all.

whiteroses05 · June 2012

Thank you ladies as always it is good know you have my back through every step of the way. Also thank you for making me feel like I am not alone in my fears. June, you are right in trying to do things for myself and not get caught up in it. Thank you again.

pottermommy · June 2012

I know there was a ttc weekly update on here a few weeks back. I am not sure if it is still active though....

I think like PP said a well placed warning goes a long way and you are a member of this family we care about you and want to know what is going on in your life and how you are handling it.

MrsRiceARoni · June 2012

johnnys june:
This post is in no way out of place here. Grief, TTCAL, PGAL, and Rainbow babies are all connected once you're in this club. Is there a TTCAL check in on here? If so I've missed it, but it might be a good idea. This board is full of very understanding women, and are very courteous/sensitive to the different stages everyone is in. We don't have rules, but everyone is respectful and posts warnings to be sensitive to the new loss moms. Don't feel like you can't post about TTC ever. As for TTCAL...I remember feeling the exact same way, but it fluctuated from day to day. My best advice, don't lose focus of yourself. It's easy to become obsessed with it all...as a lifeline so to speak. After a few months of trying (and being disappointed) I tried my best to make decision to do things for myself or even as a couple that didn't involve TTC. I also found that having as much information about what to expect with my care plan if/when I got pregnant again helped a ton. I never had full peace of mind, but it definitely helped. Good luck, lovies! I'll be lurking/stalking your TTC posts and I'm rooting for you all.

I completely agree with all of this, but especially the bolded. I know that for me I found the more I focused on TTCAL the worse I obsessed and my body even began to act strange. For me it took taking a few months away from the board to finally be able to relax and find sucess. I am glad that we are opening this board up to the different stages after a loss (with appropriate titles of course). As pp have said it is a very different experience TTCAL of PGAL after a later loss so I am glad that we can support eachother through this very unique journey we are all experiencing.

weddedwife · June 2012

No you are not misplaced here. I too feel most comfortable on this board. TTCAL can be somewhat snarky at times & I found myself too sensitive for that. Even PgAL is not the same, there are so many different kinds of losses there. There was a consensus a while back that talk of TTC, rainbow babies, rainbow pregnancies is all ok as long as you put a warning in your post title. There used to be a TTCAL check in but it fizzled out. Why not start a new one yourself? I found it really helpful to connect specifically w/ the loss ladies who were TTC also.