The Smothering Mother

branmuffin2112

I've caught myself lately thinking and saying out loud "I'm going to spoil my kids like crazy because I fought so hard to get them" or "I'll never want to leave them with anyone else out of fear of not being with them if something happened."

WTF

I can't stand "those" moms. I never ever dreamed I'd be one or even think that I would be. I was and have always been the strict aunt but my nieces and nephews treat me better than any of my other sibs. It's because there is a mutual respect. I always thought that's how I'd be as a mom too, full of love and cuddles yet can easily law down the law. Who knows...maybe that's how it will turn out to be.

This is probably more like a blog post but I just wondered if any of my beautiful IF ladies have had these same thoughts. Has IF driven you to be a pre-smothering mother?? Makes me sad, I don't want to be a crazy mom who won't let their kids leave their side or spoil them so rotten that they're little hellions.

Uhmmphhh.

 

 

 

branmuffin2112

No takers...ok. Guess I'm the only one lol

 

Laurakat81

I can kind of see myself being that way early on with my kids. I think I'm a really good mix of strict/easy going with my nieces and nephews so I really feel like I'll be that way with my own too. But early on I just don't see myself ever putting my baby down....like EVER!!!! Lol, I know I will, and I'm sure when he or she is screaming I'll want nothing more than to put the baby down and then proceed to pull my hair out! But it's not so much "spoiling" to me. I'll spoil them with love but not with material things or letting them get away with anything! I just think this Loss/IF journey is always going to be there, on my mind, and I'll be a better mom because of it.

kmc84

Laurakat81:

I can kind of see myself being that way early on with my kids. I think I'm a really good mix of strict/easy going with my nieces and nephews so I really feel like I'll be that way with my own too. But early on I just don't see myself ever putting my baby down....like EVER!!!! Lol, I know I will, and I'm sure when he or she is screaming I'll want nothing more than to put the baby down and then proceed to pull my hair out! But it's not so much "spoiling" to me. I'll spoil them with love but not with material things or letting them get away with anything! I just think this Loss/IF journey is always going to be there, on my mind, and I'll be a better mom because of it.

I think we are on the same boat!