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Anyone else not telling?
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We're planning on only telling my MIL when we are ready to go the hospital, and she's only going to know because she's going to keep DD1. My family (they all live four hours away) is planning on being there as close to delivery as possible. H and I want as much time as possible with just the three of us once DD2 arrives. I know we'll get a little grief from both sides that we kept it secret. Anyone else planning on waiting until after your LO arrives to announce to family?
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Re: Anyone else not telling?
None of our families are coming to the birth or immediately after (they both live fairly far away), so we will let them know when I go into the BC and when LO is born.
We only have a small handful of friends that we're telling when I go into the BC - pretty much just the ones who asked us to text them. We know that they'll be respectful of our privacy, so that's good. If they were pushy in any way, though, we wouldn't be telling them.
Heck yes, we dont plan to tell! We'll contact my mom when I'm in labor as she's first on the list to watch the LOs, so hopefully she's available. If she is, then she and my dad will know. Then the birth center will only keep us 4-6 hours, so we will likely not call anyone about the birth until we're back home
That's the plan but it may depend on when LO is born. If he's born early in the morning and we'll have our whole day at home for visitors, we'll do that. If he's born later in the day and they'll discharge us at night, then maybe we'll let immediate family come to the birth center, and everyone else come the next day.
With DD, who was born at 4 am, we didn't have our first visitors until 11 am, and that was nice to have that time (and also had to do with the hospitals visiting hours). No one was mad at us for it.
My MIL will know b/c she'll be taking care of DS1.
But, other than her (and maybe my parents), no one will know until after babe is born.
With DS1, just the MIL and my parents knew when we went to the hospital. They graciously kept it to themselves until we were ready to share the news.
We aren't telling anyone other than my BFF of over 15 years because she's coming to help out. Everyone else gets told after delivery and after we've rested and bonded a little. If family doesn't like it, they will learn to deal.
I feel the same way. MY mom will knwo b/c she is coming with me, but that means my dad and siblings will know. I asked that they wait and not come to the hospital until I am ready for visitors. His family may not know until I am at least well into labor. But FB is the problem, I dont want people finding out via FB, so I asked that no one post anything until DH or I do, then its fair game. Hopefully that will help us call who needs to be called first. We'll see!
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My friend did this with her first because it was snowing and the last thing they wanted was their parents trying to travel in it and having something bad happen. They told them the next day after the baby had arrived, and while they understood the reason they were not happy. As for my friends they said it was awesome because they got alone time before the family came and highly recommend it under any circumstance. My MIL would have a fit if I did this she wanted to be there the whole time we called her when I was 6 centimeters and told her she could head over but could not be in the room.
We are not telling until we're home! Assuming everything goes smoothly and normally of course. If I have a c-section or there are complications, an issue with the baby, etc, we will call people when we're good and ready, but while we're still in the hospital.
We told all family this. The in-laws totally understood and thought it was a brilliant idea. My mom didn't react, so I actually don't believe that she understood that she was included in the "anyone." I will bring it up again closer to my due date.
We're just thinking that, a) It's a very intimate and private moment for DH and I; b) Although we have been waiting and preparing for this baby, we will still have to adjust to him; c) I don't want the stress of visiting and talking and sharing with family over and over; d) There is so much we are expected to learn in the 24 hours after birth; and e) We want to just focus on the baby, not making phone calls, not paying attention to visiting hours, how many visitors are there at once, etc etc. It's nothing personal against any family, it's just a decision we made that we're happy with.
I am going to request that everyone stay at home until the baby arrives. But, I wouldn't dare do that without warning them first. I'd rather be upfront about not wanting an audience this time and state my reasonse. Our parents are all extremely logical. So, I think they'd be more hurt that I didn't approach the topic like an adult, ahead of time.
We'll tell immediate family (who aren't planning on coming until we get home from the hospital anyway) but we are otherwise going to labor alone. The only other people who might know are our best friends, who we'll call if labor goes really long and either DH needs a break or our dogs need to be let out.
I plan on disabling my Facebook wall as soon as we go into labor. I'm scheduled to work all next week, and if I don't come in, it will be obvious why. I don't trust my coworkers not to post something, and I just don't like the thought of a bunch of people waiting on me to have the baby (performance anxiety, I suppose?)