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Aaarrrggg-let's throw another wrench into things, shall we universe?

irishgirl0525irishgirl0525 member
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DH called earlier, completely stressed out because he has to travel to Guatemala and Mexico for 10 days-get this, from June 10th to June 20th. Right exactly when I would most likely be retrieving and transferring if this cycle goes according to plan.  Not to mention that we were planning on being away from the 18th to the 23rd, but that is the least of the issues. 

I told him not to worry, we would be able to freeze his sperm if we have to and then confirmed it with my nurse, so while it's not ideal for him to be out of town, we can still make this happen.

He hasn't had to travel for work in about 4 years. This trip is for a project that he has been championing and it would not look great if he bailed on it, especially since we won't know until late next week what my follicles are doing, if anything.

He is like "well this is our family and it's important, but yes, work is important too, not as important as our family". I agree, but since my body can't be relied upon for anything, I think he just needs to schedule it and go. 

I'm thinking MelleTX as an example of success with frozen sperm and clinging to that for hope...

Can things just go as planned for once?

TTC since 3/2010. Me 41, DH-49. After 3 years, 6 IUIs and several IVFs we have finally have our beautiful baby girl, born on 11/7/13.



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Re: Aaarrrggg-let's throw another wrench into things, shall we universe?

  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    Well that just is the suckiest luck around... But frozen sperm works pretty well these days-- MelleTX is a fine example of that!

    I think it's FABULOUSLY AWESOME that your DH is so concerned about prioritizing his family over his work-- even with it being his own project coming to fruition. Maybe this is just the Universe confirming his priorities are in the right place before giving you a baby!

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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member
    imagedanieleandwayne:

    Well that just is the suckiest luck around... But frozen sperm works pretty well these days-- MelleTX is a fine example of that!

    I think it's FABULOUSLY AWESOME that your DH is so concerned about prioritizing his family over his work-- even with it being his own project coming to fruition. Maybe this is just the Universe confirming his priorities are in the right place before giving you a baby!

    ALL of this!  Clearly there is a "plan" and you just aren't in on the details--yet.  But I have a good feeling about all of this..good luck!

    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    Of course that's when he has to go!   So annoying. 

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • gundy21gundy21 member
    imageLlamamama:
    imagedanieleandwayne:

    Well that just is the suckiest luck around... But frozen sperm works pretty well these days-- MelleTX is a fine example of that!

    I think it's FABULOUSLY AWESOME that your DH is so concerned about prioritizing his family over his work-- even with it being his own project coming to fruition. Maybe this is just the Universe confirming his priorities are in the right place before giving you a baby!

    ALL of this!  Clearly there is a "plan" and you just aren't in on the details--yet.  But I have a good feeling about all of this..good luck!

    I am jumping on this bandwagon!  Godd luck!

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  • AbeilleAbeille member
    I'm sorry for the snag.  At least you have a Plan B....good luck!
    Me: 38, PCOS/ DH: 37

    DD born 12.21.09, conceived w/ injects and IUI



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  • MrsNukemMrsNukem member
    I'm sorry the universe doesn't want to cooperate.  But I'm glad you have a plan B, and yes, frozen sperm does work, so keep thinking positive!

    Me:40 AMA, DH:36 0% morph, TTC#1;
    BFP#1 4/2011, MMC 6/2011 11wks Trisomy 13;
    BFP#2 11/2011, CP
    FSH: 17.9, AMH: 2.2
    IVF#1 w/ICSI: ER 4/3: 5R,4M,4F
    ET 4/6 All 4 (1-8A+, 2-8A-, 1-3A) BFP#3
    Two weeks of beta hell = Blighted Ovum
    IVF#2 Aug/Sept: ER 8/27: 4R,3M,3F
    ET 8/30 (1-8A+, 1-6A+)
    Beta#1 9/10: 350; Beta#2 9/12: 796; Beta#3 9/20: 9155
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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City

    I read somewhere that frozen is just as successful as fresh.  I don't know where it was so I can't link it.  I am sorry that you have this extra stress.

    My retrieval is scheduled for June 13 so we should be cycling around the same time.

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  • mtlaurelmtlaurel
    The best laid plans... I'm sorry that it's timing out that way, but yes, you can and will be OK with frozen.
    TTC #1 since June 2010
    Me: 36, DH: 42
    Dx: DOR and MFI

    DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
    Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal

    IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
    IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
    DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
    DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!

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  • irishgirl0525irishgirl0525 member

    I am thinking there must be a plan that I am not in on! :)

    It's so funny, he is so stressed about this and I really am not. Other than it not being an ideal situation, they have the technology to do this, so we are fortunate enough to have access to it.

    I am extremely grateful that he is giving it this importance, if he were just saying "oh well" I would be upset, so I do realize that.

    I just spoke to him again and he is really overwhelmed by a few things at work so I told him we will work this out, it should not add to the stress.

     

    TTC since 3/2010. Me 41, DH-49. After 3 years, 6 IUIs and several IVFs we have finally have our beautiful baby girl, born on 11/7/13.



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  • BabyVDMBabyVDM member

    It's such a bummer that he will be out of the country, but fantastic that he is so concerned and really does want to be here.  But at least you have the option to freeze some of his boys.  It'd be worse if you had to fly down there to BD at the right time, or skip out on a cycle altogether. 

    Oh good luck with everything. 

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    BFP#2 10/14/2011 - fetal demise - MC 12/13/2011
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    IVF#1 02/14/2013 - 2 Beautiful Blasts transferred
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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    Nothing ever goes as plans when dealing with IF! Thank goodness for frozen sperm. Hang in there :)

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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