The newborn phase as FTM wasn't for me. I hated it. Guess what? I hate it this time too. The no sleep, the uncertainty, being attached 24/7 to little one. Don't get me wrong, I love her so much, but hate this phase when they are so dependent and I feel like I have no life and everything seems so much worse when ALL I want is sleep! I actually loved it for the first couple weeks. She was sleeping awesome, even STTN a couple times, and I was just in la-land with her. Then the reflux started, all the gas, and the sleeping stopped. Now I'm just wishing for her one year birthday when things seem to get easier. Am I alone?
I'm a FTM and I can tell you that I do not love this phase. It is exhausting and everything is harder on no sleep. But everyone says it gets easier as time goes on, so I am just trying to stay positive! And I feel like the last 4 weeks have really gone by so fast...
I know they get so much more fun as they get older, but the newborn phase is so sweet and so short, I really try to enjoy it. Seeing him fall asleep on my chest is just priceless.
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I feel the same way infact knowing that it gets easier at the one year mark, even the six month mark makes me want this phase to fly by but I know I will kick myself because when things get better I always look back and realize they'll never be that small again, especially since we are done having more kids after this. So I try to soak it up BUT it's hard especially sine she's so fussy and I am SO tired!
I have no problem admitting I hate the newborn phase.
It's not so much the dependency (because I have a pretty clingy toddler too so what's the difference lol?), just the lack of sleep and dealing with an unhappy, fussy, colicky baby.
I think it would be a totally different experience with an "easy" baby (do they make those?). I could probably deal with the lack of sleep if she was at least happy ore relatively content when she was awake. But she's either sleeping, eating, or miserable - so I can't wait for her to grow out of this phase!
I am trying to enjoy this phase because this is our last baby. I was with you totally with DS three years ago.....he was a colicky nightmare! DD seems to have a much more laid back personality and hopefully stays that way!!
I am going back to work after 12 weeks and I can't wait!! I want to feel like myself again. Talk to some adults. Eat a meal without a screaming (colicky) infant in my arms. Love him more than life itself but infancy sucks!
ME! I can't wait until he's 6 months. That was my favorite age bc they can entertain themselves, but they don't get into a lot. Also they're sleeping better (hopefully) and eating food, so Breastfeeding isn't their only source of food.
I know they get so much more fun as they get older, but the newborn phase is so sweet and so short, I really try to enjoy it. Seeing him fall asleep on my chest is just priceless.
This. I love that I can cradle her little butt and hold her up. I know it won't last and, as an "older" mother, I'm likely to not have a second child. This may be the only time in my life I will have one so little. Even when I'm overtired and stressed, I have to take a slow deep breath and embrace the moment.
There are days where I am so in love with the fact that he loves me so much all he wants to do is be held and cuddled and then there's days where all I want to be able to do is put him down so I can brush my teeth! You are not alone! I am a FTM and I'm a bit older than most women I know who have babies so I am pretty set in my ways as far as lifestyle so it is really hard for me to "give that up". Our little man is a homebody in the worst way and doesn't like to go out much (since he is having issues keeping a pacifier in his mouth on his own so this makes it hard to take him anywhere without him screaming!) and I am used to coming and going as I please. I try not to wish this time away but some days all I want is for him to be able to entertain himself.
Re: Anyone else not enjoying newborn phase?
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I can't wait until she's older and a little more fun and can entertain herself ... and less dependent. plusandaslo i can't wait for her to STTN. Ugh.
I have no problem admitting I hate the newborn phase.
It's not so much the dependency (because I have a pretty clingy toddler too so what's the difference lol?), just the lack of sleep and dealing with an unhappy, fussy, colicky baby.
I think it would be a totally different experience with an "easy" baby (do they make those?). I could probably deal with the lack of sleep if she was at least happy ore relatively content when she was awake. But she's either sleeping, eating, or miserable - so I can't wait for her to grow out of this phase!
ME! I can't wait until he's 6 months. That was my favorite age bc they can entertain themselves, but they don't get into a lot. Also they're sleeping better (hopefully) and eating food, so Breastfeeding isn't their only source of food.
This. I love that I can cradle her little butt and hold her up. I know it won't last and, as an "older" mother, I'm likely to not have a second child. This may be the only time in my life I will have one so little. Even when I'm overtired and stressed, I have to take a slow deep breath and embrace the moment.