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XP Work shower ettiquette

If you are having or have had a work shower and have direct reports, will you/did you invite them?

My colleague is throwing me a shower and I've mainly invited my boss and my peers. However I'm not sure what to do about my direct reports. I don't want them to feel excluded or left out but on the flip side, this is presumably a gift-giving event so I'm not sure that it's appropriate for me to invite them.

What is the etTiquette for these kinds of things? WWYD?
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Re: XP Work shower ettiquette

  • MelleTXMelleTX
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    In my opinion, everyone on your team should be invited. Your direct reports would definitely feel excluded and left out. Unless you are a disconnected and really bad boss they hate. : )

    Typically for holidays and such, the rules are that you only buy gifts down and not up, but I think it is different for a shower. Did they get you small gifts or cards for Christmas?

    At this party, you are a mom and a coworker to celebrate, not their boss.

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  • I thought for a work shower, just everyone you work with is invited.  I think it would be weird to exclude your direct reports.  At my office, the only people that would attend are my direct reports.  Maybe you should ask your boss or the person hosting the shower.  I don't think work showers have a traditional invitation type thing, it's just announced when it will be and whoever wants to attend can attend, unless your office is more formal about it.
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    In my opinion, everyone on your team should be invited. Your direct reports would definitely feel excluded and left out. Unless you are a disconnected and really bad boss they hate. : )

    Typically for holidays and such, the rules are that you only buy gifts down and not up, but I think it is different for a shower. Did they get you small gifts or cards for Christmas?

    At this party, you are a mom and a coworker to celebrate, not their boss.

    They give me cards for the holidays and go in on a gift for Bosses Day. Thanks for the advice!
    TTC #1 since March 2009

    DX: Tubal factor (due to ectopic), Stage II Endo, Prot.ein S deficiency, and elevated NK cells.

    6 cycles of Clomid, including 3 IUIs --> BFN

    IVF #1 (Antagonist): 26ER; 22M; 20F;

    3/16/11 ET of 2 blasts. 9 frosties! --> 1st BFP, but ectopic at 7w. Lap to remove right tube.

    FET#1: 8/9/11 ET of 2 blasts --> Chemical Pg.

    FET#2: 11/17/11 ET of 2 blasts --> BFP!
    Please stick and keep growing baby!!!!



    My miracle baby arrived on July 26, 2012 at 38w5d!!!!
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  • mlangsmlangs
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    I have 75 people in my office.

    We typically get a few cakes and some juice and everyone is invited. They come if they want to/ are able to. We take a collection for a big office gift if they want to participate, or they can buy something on their own if they want to as well.

    It is typically a low key type thing... we send an outlook invitation and go from there. It works extremely well for my office because it isn't too high pressure.


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