Sexx time after m/c

HopefulHalley10

DH and I agreed we wanted to start working on this TTC thing for real after the m/c. Before we never really even tried TI but now we're moving full steam ahead.

So far DH won't even touch me... He seems scared to sleep with me like I'm broken. TTC isn't gunna go very far at this rate...

Anyone else been there? 

klbowie

I HAVE!  Since my D&C, my husband has been avoiding.  When we go to bed, he lays far on the other side.  I finally had enough of it this weekend, and blow up on him.  I told him I already feel very unsexy and broken and I need him to stop acting like I am too.  He got the point and has been more himself.  It's weird.  I never thought I would miss him gropping (sp?) me all the freakin time but I really did.  I would suggest talking to him sooner then later.  And not let it build up like mine did.  GL

cielos1980

Don't get too discouraged, your husband has his own way of dealing with the situation, and sometimes (many times) it isn't the same way we deal with the situation.  I know with my husband after our first miscarriage was hesitant to be intimate too quickly, just because he saw how much pain I physically went through, and all of the blood, and DRs visits, and the poor man was not prepared for that.

 I hope things get better for you and your husband soon, and that both of you heal from this ordeal.  Good luck in TTCAL  and I hope you are blessed with your take home baby soon

HopefulHalley10

klbowie:

I HAVE!  Since my D&C, my husband has been avoiding.  When we go to bed, he lays far on the other side.  I finally had enough of it this weekend, and blow up on him.  I told him I already feel very unsexy and broken and I need him to stop acting like I am too.  He got the point and has been more himself.  It's weird.  I never thought I would miss him gropping (sp?) me all the freakin time but I really did.  I would suggest talking to him sooner then later.  And not let it build up like mine did.  GL

Aw I'm sorry. Yeah I talked to him... so far he seems just scared that I'm broken or that he'll get me pregnant again before we've done any testing, etc. Some times I forget how sensitive he can be I guess. He has his SA on Thurs so he's been using that as an excuse for now since he has to abstain for 3 days before 

HopefulHalley10

cielos1980:

Don't get too discouraged, your husband has his own way of dealing with the situation, and sometimes (many times) it isn't the same way we deal with the situation.  I know with my husband after our first miscarriage was hesitant to be intimate too quickly, just because he saw how much pain I physically went through, and all of the blood, and DRs visits, and the poor man was not prepared for that.

 I hope things get better for you and your husband soon, and that both of you heal from this ordeal.  Good luck in TTCAL  and I hope you are blessed with your take home baby soon

 

Thank you And I think you're right. DH went to the ER with me when they thought it was ectopic and saw so much more then he was prepared to 

pinktrojanbride120107

Totally normal for it to be weird after what you've been through, I think.  It took us a while to get back to our old selves, as well.