TTC After a Loss

Taking a cue from weaslewam (intro!)

Hello ladies!  I've been holding off on officially introducing myself here since my loss was very recent.  I was worried that people would think it was too soon to be thinking about TTC again.  However, I'm going to take a cue from weaslewam and go ahead and put myself out there.

I'm a week and a day post d&e.  I had absolutely no clue that something was wrong with my pregnancy until I was 12wk3d.  12wk1d I woke up with two small hives on my ankle.  I didn't think much of them and put a cold compress on them.  They went away and I didn't give it another thought.  12wk2d I woke up in the early AM with hives all over my arms and legs.  DH took me to the ER.  The doc wasn't too concerned, told me to take Benadryl and follow up with my family doc and possibly an allergy specialist.  12wk3d, I started bleeding and DH took me back to the ER.  At first they weren't worried and said I probably just needed a rhogam shot.  But then they did an u/s and couldn't find a heartbeat :(  I went home to m/c on my own and follow up with the OB.  The next day I started bleeding more heavily and the OB had me come in for an exam.  She highly recommended the d&e and said it was likely that I would end up needing one anyways.  So that's the route we chose. 

Physically, I'm healing well.  I'm still getting hives despite being put on prednisone post d&e.  I'm seeing an allergy specialist next week.  I just can't get it out of my head that the hives are related to my miscarriage.

Emotionally, we're still devastated.  It's so hard to believe that everything went downhill so quickly.  It's hard to think that we won't have a baby at Christmas this year.  We thought we were safe...

The thing that's keeping us going is the thought of trying again.  We want a baby so badly and I can't bare the thought of not being able to try again.  Of course we're going to wait for the greenlight from the doctor.  My follow up with the OB is Monday, so I'm looking forward to that. 

Re: Taking a cue from weaslewam (intro!)

  • I'm sorry for your loss...

    I'm glad I could be inspiring so early on in my TTCAL board contributions! I know we can get through this together!

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    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  I recognize you from the MC board--glad you have made the trip over and thanks for the intro!  If you haven't already, make sure to read the blog at the top of the page (it will save you possibly from making some of the "newbie" blunders I made when I wandered over here).

    Glad you are here.  Hope you find as much comfort as I have from this group of ladies!

    ((hugs))

    TTC #1 since November 2011
    ** BFP #1 - M/C at 6 weeks 4/13/2012 **
    ** BFP #2 - expecting a little leprechaun!! EDD 3/21/13 | HB 7/30/2012 (6w3d) **
    NT Scan 9/4 - looked great! | Grow, baby, grow!!! | A/S 10/29

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  • Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss!
    TTC #1 since April 2010
    BFP 4/18/12, M/C 4/27/12 at 6w6d
    BFP 7/1/12 - Counting down to our little girl, EDD 3/8/13
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    I am so sorry for your loss, but welcome to the Board.  These ladies are a wealth of information and it is a great place to give and receive support.  

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    BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12 
    BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13






  • So sorry for your loss, but welcome to the board.
    Me (28): fine, DH (28): MFI
    Married 6/21/09
    Off BCP and TTC 4/17/11
    BFP #1 (ended in CP) 7/15/11
    Varicocelectomy surgery 9/4/12 - T improved to normal, but still low count

    Current Status: Pursuing Jan '15 IVF w/ ICSI
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  • I'm sorry you have to be here. Welcome.

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    I am so sorry for your loss!  You are the first person I have met that also had hives prior to m/c.  I had severe hives the day before my first loss, I had to go to the urgent care they were so bad, they were even on my eyelids.  The doctors insist there was no correlation but it seems weird.

    I hope your stay here is short and sweet (( hugs )) 


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  • So soryy for your loss.  It's okay to intro early, it give the ladies a chance to get to know you better before you start asking questions.

    I can relate to the "we thought we were safe" statement. (I had a second tri loss).  I'm in the TTA stage too.  We all understand the feeling of wanting to pg ASAP.  Take this time to emotionally re-group.

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    BFP #2 - 10/30/12, EDD 07/04/13, Natural m/c @ 5 weeks 11/01/12
    BFP #3 - 02/07/13, EDD 10/12/13
    Dx: Incompotent Cervix

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  • Hi there...I'm so sorry for your loss. I was also due this November. I hope you find the support you need from this board. I've found it has been very helpful! My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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    Welcome to the board.  I am so sorry for you loss and you find yourself here.  I completely understand how you feel about christmas.  This has been one of the hardest things for me to wrap my mind around.  I hope you find comfort here and your stay is short.
    BFP#1 02/19/12 missed mc 03/30/12 1st D&C 05/16/12 2nd D&C 08/17/12 
    BFP #2 06/26/13 EDD 2/26/14 Hoping for my rainbow baby!
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  • Sorry for your loss.  Thanks for introing here.  I hope you find some comfort here and that your stay is short.
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  • I am sorry for your loss, and I hope you find some comfort here.
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    I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board!
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    BFP #1 11/5/11 EDD 7/22/12 MC 11/14/11
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board - I hope you are able to find comfort and support here.
    BFP 1/19/12 No heartbeat at 7w4d 3rd dose Cytotec 3/1/12
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  • Welcome. I am very sorry about your loss and hope you find peace and the support you need here.
    Me(26)DH(33)
    TTC for #1 since Jan 2010
    BFP #1 Oct 1 2010 MC Oct 3 2010
    DX PCOS w/ AO Nov 2011
    3 rounds of Clomid all BFN
    BFP #2 10/12/12 Beta #1 45.1 Beta #2 160.7 * 2/27 diagnosed with IEF in utero.
    Dalaney born @ 35w2d via emergency C-section due to Pre-E after 30 hrs of labor & losing her HB twice. She weighed 5lbs 8oz & was 19in long on May 26th 2013 @ 605am

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    I am so sorry for your loss. Big ((((HUGS))) and welcome!
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    BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
    BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
  • Oh no, I am so sorry! I hate that you have to be here and my heart hurts so bad for you... you were suppose to be safe =( Im so sorry. Welcome to the board, I am new as well. I hope your stay here is short and sweet. Keep looking forward :)
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  • I am so sorry for your loss, welcome to the board.
    BFP #1 on 11/28/2011 Miscarriage on 12/28/2011; BFP #2 on 1/27/2012; Natural Miscarriage at 10 weeks on 3/10/2012; BFP #3 on 5/10/2012; Miscarriage on 5/24/2012; BFP #4 on 11/20/2012 due 7/28/2013---Miscarriage 12/21/2012
  • I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I hope your stay here is short!
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  • I'm sorry for your loss but welcome to the board. The thought of having a loss after the supposed 12w 'safe' zone terrifies me. I hope your stay here is short & sweet.

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  • Welcome to the board.  I'm so sorry for your loss and hope that this board offers you the healing community that you need.
    BFP #1:  8/10/11 EDD: 4/9/12 Natural miscarriage @ 7 weeks: 8/20/11
    BFP #2: 8/31/12 EDD: 5/18/13 Chemical pregnancy: 9/4/12
    BFP #3:  5/17/13  EDD: 1/24/14 Loss at 5 weeks: 5/29/13

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    Lots of testing, all clear with the exception of compound heterozygous for the MTHFR mutation. 

    Cycle 1: Femara, trigger shot, Bravelle added due to slow response = BFN
    Cycle 2: Cancelled due to two cysts =(
    Cycle 3: Femara, Bravelle, trigger shot and IUI = BFP then loss #3
    Cycle 4: Femara, Follistim, trigger shot and IUI = BFP!  EDD: 6/7/14

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  • Thank you all so very much!  I have already learned so much from lurking and have gotten more support than I could have ever imagined on the MC/PL board. 
  • Welcome. Sorry for your loss. I hope you find a lot of support here.
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    BFP #1 - 1/15/12, EDD 9/21/12, Missed M/C - 2/10/12 - I miss you Sapphire!

    BFP #2 - 7/1/12 - Met my lucky charm Alexandra on 3-16-13!!!


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  • I am so very sorry for you loss, but welcome to the board.  This is a wonderful group of women. 

    TTC started Oct '10
    Me: AMA w/RSD, atypical PCOS w/IR, LPD and High Prolactin. Controlled HP post-loss.
    DH: Low-T and borderline morph
    18 cycles, 3 medicated w/RE to get to a BFP!
    EDD 9/7/12, Saw HB @7w3d,missed m/c 1/30 @8w3d, d&c 2/8
    11 AL cycles, 9 medicated/IUI cycles. All BFFN!
    Moving forward with IVF
    BFP#2 our little cycle break surprise on AL cycle 12! EDD 10/27/13
    Beta #1: 41 Beta #2: 398; perfect u/s 3/11 hb @133bpm
    u/s 3/25 one perfect hb @183 bpm, adjusted EDD 10/23/13
    MaterniT21 and carrier screens normal. It's a girl!!!
    Severe Pre-E, HFpEF, PE, AMA & IF= OAD

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  • So sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
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  • Welcome to the boards, I'm so sorry for your loss.  It's strange, but when I read your intro, it reminded me that I also had hives a week before I discovered my m/c.  I wonder if there's any correlation.
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    BFP#1 - 11/13/11, Natural MC - 12/24/11 at 12 weeks
    BFP#2 - 10/2/12, Please be our rainbow.
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