I need help!

JaymeeNicole

So we have a unisex name for LO. It's going to be Bentley either way.

#1 On the spelling either Bentley or Bentlee. My name is spelled Jaymee. So I thought it would look kinda cool to have the two E's. But DH doesn't like it.

 #2 We need a middle name. I am not using any grandparents names because I don't want to step on any toes and hurt any feelings.

jburdet1

Bentley isn't a unisex name. It's a boy name. If you have a daughter you will be giving her a boy name. Just wanted to clarify that I'm not a fan of Bentley but I wouldn't make it worse for a daughter spelling her boy name "girlie." Boy or girl I would spell it Bentley. Boy mn's: Michael, Charles, David, and James Girl mn's (I would go with a feminine name since you're using a masculine fn): Kate, Isabel, Josephine, Elizabeth, and Colette. If you're against using family names as mn's maybe you can choose a name that has some significance like a favorite literary character or biblical story.

strawberrytree

Regardless of how you spell it, Bentley is still a boy's name. It is very much nms on a boy, but on a girl it is truly awful. 

I also think it's weird how you are going to use this name regardless of whether it's a boy or a girl. I can't even bring myself to suggest feminine middle names to use on a girl named Bentley.

For a boy I prefer pairing it with a more traditional name: James, Nathaniel, Alexander, Michael, Matthew, Christopher, William, Charles, Nicholas, Lucas, Thomas, etc.  

HannahO28

Girl, your post title ain't lying....

Bentley is a boy's name. And it is spelled Bentley. And, it's kind of terrible. It sounds like it was chosen by a teenager, probably because of the common association of the baby from Teen Mom. It also falls into the category of "things I can't afford so I'm gonna name my child that instead" (Diamond, Porche, Crystal). Those names generally have a trashy feel to them. 

I suggest choosing a new name. 

 

BlueRidge8

HannahO28:

Girl, your post title ain't lying....

Bentley is a boy's name. And it is spelled Bentley. And, it's kind of terrible. It sounds like it was chosen by a teenager, probably because of the common association of the baby from Teen Mom. It also falls into the category of "things I can't afford so I'm gonna name my child that instead" (Diamond, Porche, Crystal). Those names generally have a trashy feel to them. 

I suggest choosing a new name. 

 

Um. What she said.

It's bad. 

kayteebayb

I'm sorry, I'm not a fan either. Especially on a girl.

karen_loy

HannahO28:

Girl, your post title ain't lying....

Bentley is a boy's name. And it is spelled Bentley. And, it's kind of terrible. It sounds like it was chosen by a teenager, probably because of the common association of the baby from Teen Mom. It also falls into the category of "things I can't afford so I'm gonna name my child that instead" (Diamond, Porche, Crystal). Those names generally have a trashy feel to them. 

I suggest choosing a new name. 

 

alohamora

HannahO28:

Girl, your post title ain't lying....

Bentley is a boy's name. And it is spelled Bentley. And, it's kind of terrible. It sounds like it was chosen by a teenager, probably because of the common association of the baby from Teen Mom. It also falls into the category of "things I can't afford so I'm gonna name my child that instead" (Diamond, Porche, Crystal). Those names generally have a trashy feel to them. 

I suggest choosing a new name. 

 

I agree with the bolded.  It just doesn't come across as very classy to me.

But that's not what you asked, I guess...if you want to use a boy name on a girl, own it and spell it correctly.  There's no reason to make spellings more feminine.

Fink

Since most people didn't actually answer your question and instead offered unsolicited opinions, I will simply answer your questions:

#1 - I understand why you like the idea of spelling Bentley with two "E"s, but I don't think it looks right.  She/he will also likely always have to correct the spelling.

#2 - As for mn, I like James for a boy and Rose for a girl

BeeKayy21

bentley is not bad imo for a boy. but i do not like it for a girl. i would have never thought of this to be a sweet little girls name..with that said, i am curious to why this is the only name you and your husband like...is there a certain significance this has to you both or some family meaning? sorry for my no caps and punctuation..i am using my phone

BeagleBub

Bentley, no matter how you spell it, is not a unisex name.

pinkie529

1. Definitely Bentley. Bentlee just looks misspelled or like you are trying too hard to make the name "girly."

2. I agree with pp suggestions to use an exclusively feminine middle name for a girl. Some suggestions: Bentley Rose, Bentley Kate, Bentley Grace, Bentley Hope, Bentley Jade, Bentley Elise, Bentley Julianne. For a boy: Bentley William, Bentley Jude, Bentley Alexander, Bentley Reid, or Bentley Joseph. 

That being said, Bentley is definitely NMS for a boy, and I really think it isn't the best choice for a girl. Like others have said, the name Bentley is a boy's name. I feel like regardless of how much you may like the name for a girl, others will consistently associate it with "boy," which may be frustrating for your LO.

I do understand the appeal of unisex names, though (even if I don't personally like them). What about Bailey for a girl? I think this name is more commonly accepted for both boys and girls, but still has the "ley" ending that is similar to Bentley.

HTH