I'm the worst dil

jp0129

We just spent a night at the hospital bc ds couldn't digest his food and had a virus. DH had to work and could not be there with me so I was up pretty much all night. My mil starts to text me not long after I was finally able to sleep. I tell herim asleep and she continues to text and then shows up ten min later at the hospital. So I was already irritated from the start of the day. Then she just invites herself to stay with my tonight. Why I don't know bc DH is home. I am not comfortable with relying on anyone to watch him overnight just yet bc I don't trust they will wake up but I didn't know how to tell her that. DH gets home and says let move him in the living so his mom can watch him. I express my concerns so he tells her to leave. I was changing ds in the other roomso didn't hear the cinco but pretty sure she wasn't happy. DH understood and tried to explain to her that it's easier for her to help during the day bc I will be more comfortable with that. So now I'm sure she hates me. 

jeffsjayme

Oh well.  Worse things in the world, I guess.

For her, I'd learn not to answer her texts when you're trying to sleep. And not giving her information that you're actually in the hospital and which room unless you're okay with her coming. I think you just learned that MIL is aggressive.  But kudos to her for going home when asked.  Some MILs wouldn't even do that.  I'm guessing her intentions were good.

lsimpson0811

i know the feeling.  my mil finally could tell i was upset with her abt some things she does.   1. constantly grabbing the baby from me when im holding him   2. offering random people that she doesnt know to touch and hold him   3. Tells me im wrong all the time but then tells me how different things are from her last kid when she realizes im right       i finally told her how i feel about everything and she told me im hurtful and that she will stay away from me husband and baby forever....shes a very dramatic woman and this is the 2nd time in 3 mths thats shes told me that....next time i will agree with her

tuki06

I don't think that makes you a bad person and if she is mad then that is her issue. You didn't ask for her to come and for her to just show up unasked and unannoucned is a bit weird in my oppinion. I mean it's nice of her to want to help but she needs to ask first cus I mean she is obviously stepping on toes and you just don't need that right now. It's your baby and you have the right to have things done the way you want and if you wanna be the one to get up and take care of him then go for it. Good luck hope he gets better soon!