OMG I just want to EAT!!!

nmaldo77

With out fail, just about everytime I am about to eat, DD starts to cry.  Sometimes it is just when I have fixed my plate that she starts to cry. 

 Tonight, I am at my wits end.  I am STARVING!!!  I tried to put her to bed at 7:30 but she woke up 30 mins later... just enough time to make my food.  And since then I have been up and down about 5 times at least to put her back to bed.  She falls asleep in my arms but once I put her in her crib, she starts to scream bloody murder.  I tried letting her CIO (made it 6 mins) that didn't work.  This last time, I just fed her and she fell asleep.  I once again was about to sit down and eat when the crying began.  I too have cried tonight.  Haven't eaten since about 3pm.. it is now 9:45.  10pm is my new dinner time.  BTW, DH is working,  He worked 18 hrs yesterday, come home slept and went back to work.  He is off tomorrow and then off to a conference for 3 days.. I don't know what I will do if this continues.    She is crying once again so off I go... 

Any suggestions? 

redheadscu

Snack shakes / protein shakes? You can slam them fast just to take the edge off until you actually get to eat real food.

 A sling/carrier? Doesn't totally solve the problem, because you'd still have to put her down to sleep eventually. But it may keep her asleep long enough for you to eat.

Sorry I don't have any miracle suggestions. I hate to say it, but sometimes we mommies get to a point where we have to take care of our needs too (eating, peeing, showering), and our LOs may just have to cry for a couple minutes while we take care of ourselves. 

I hope you get to eat soon! 

heymommy

Depending on the type of cry ( the fussy/sleepy cry vs. the screaming something is wrong cry) I would of left her in the bed so I could finish eating, if she is well, sleepy, fed, and changed she would of been fine for a few minutes.

If it's the same cry ( the screaming that you mention) every time she wakes up after a few minutes do you think she is just mad because she realizes you are not holding her? I think I would have to work on that, I think I would of let her CIO for a little bit. Is she doing this every night? Is she still swaddled? Do you think she is startling herself awake? Does she have a comfort item?

What is happening up until bedtime? Is she happy and independently playing at any time from 3pm untill bed time.  Can you fix yourself dinner and eat before the bed time routine starts? That might be best for you if bed time is this long.

 I understand about the husband working, mine works from 9am until 11pm m-f, its not easy.

88eve88

redheadscu:

Sorry I don't have any miracle suggestions. I hate to say it, but sometimes we mommies get to a point where we have to take care of our needs too (eating, peeing, showering), and our LOs may just have to cry for a couple minutes while we take care of ourselves. 

I hope you get to eat soon! 

I agree with this too.  If you completely ignore your own needs, you'll be too unhappy/stressed to calmly take care of your LO.  She'll be fine if she cries a few minutes while you get some food/water into you.  I hope tonight is better for you! 

kristin172429

How well does she entertain herself?  I put our swing in the kitchen.  DS goes in there while I make food.  He'll either hang out or fall asleep.  When it's time to eat, I'll keep him with me and either put him in his jumper or in his bumbo/boppy.  And....I cut up my meal first so if he gets fussy, needs to be fed, etc, I can attend to him with one hand and still eat with the other!  It's a little silly to cut up your own food ahead of time, but it has gotten me a hot meal more than once!

HappyToBe2012

kristin172429:

And....I cut up my meal first so if he gets fussy, needs to be fed, etc, I can attend to him with one hand and still eat with the other!  It's a little silly to cut up your own food ahead of time, but it has gotten me a hot meal more than once!

I cut up everything possible before attempting to eat anything.  Or we make stuff that is easily eaten one handed.  Soup almost always goes in a mug instead of a bowl.  At home, we just started putting DD in her highchair and having her join us at the table.  We give her a toy to play with and she's usually pretty good.  If we're out, it usually ends up with one of us holding her while we eat, hence cutting everything up as fast as possible. 

nmaldo77

heymommy:

Depending on the type of cry ( the fussy/sleepy cry vs. the screaming something is wrong cry) I would of left her in the bed so I could finish eating, if she is well, sleepy, fed, and changed she would of been fine for a few minutes.

If it's the same cry ( the screaming that you mention) every time she wakes up after a few minutes do you think she is just mad because she realizes you are not holding her? I think I would have to work on that, I think I would of let her CIO for a little bit. Is she doing this every night? Is she still swaddled? Do you think she is startling herself awake? Does she have a comfort item?

What is happening up until bedtime? Is she happy and independently playing at any time from 3pm untill bed time.  Can you fix yourself dinner and eat before the bed time routine starts? That might be best for you if bed time is this long.

 I understand about the husband working, mine works from 9am until 11pm m-f, its not easy.

She is pretty good up until bed time. I don't mind letting her CIO but with the way she screams... that just can't be good.  I do think she is crying because I am no longer holding her.  BUT she use to be soooo good at going to sleep on her own.  I could put her down drowsy but awake and she would drift of to sleep.   Before bedtime we usually go for a walk outside,then bath, fed, read a book, rock a bit, prayers and sleep.   Now she seems to wake up just as I am lowering her into her crib is like she know I am leaving.  

She just starting doing this, she is still swaddled, and no comfort item.  I have one for her but haven't given it to her yet. I thought they had to be older to have a comfort item.  I think that would help. 

nmaldo77

kristin172429:

How well does she entertain herself?  I put our swing in the kitchen.  DS goes in there while I make food.  He'll either hang out or fall asleep.  When it's time to eat, I'll keep him with me and either put him in his jumper or in his bumbo/boppy.  And....I cut up my meal first so if he gets fussy, needs to be fed, etc, I can attend to him with one hand and still eat with the other!  It's a little silly to cut up your own food ahead of time, but it has gotten me a hot meal more than once!

She goes in her swing or on her play mat to entertain herself.   but we usually do the play mat in the morning.  And since she use to be good at going to sleep, I always ate after just because it was so much easier and I have always been a slow eater.  

Guess I will have to eat before putting her down.  I think being hungry also makes bedtime more difficult for me.